None of it would have been an issue had Anupama, Shahs not given pages of Bhaashan on Ideal Parenting, Sanskaar etc.
The set precedent are WRONG.
Prenting ki koi book/template thodi hoti hain. Samay, Paristhiti ke anusaar parents apne bachchon ko bada karte hain. The problem arises when we question another's parenting.
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