AnupaMaa's misplaced priorities - Page 7

Originally posted by: YoungHeart

This. Though Anupama did it willingly but mainly it was because of Anuj because she loves him. She knows the responsibility of taking care of a child, she has three she raised by herself (Vanraj wasn’t there to take care of their everyday needs) … but still she went ahead with the adoption because she loves Anuj and she wants to raise a kid with Anuj… if MaAn had met even 5 yrs ago, they would have had their own kid..

Yes exactly, even though her heart wasn't there in it,but she still agreed for adoption despitethe 101 reasons of her not wanting to, that itself shows that she respects Anuj's needs & acknowledges his doings.

So to literally minimize everything Anupama has done for Anuj (where she has prioritized Anuj number of times over even her kids ,remember kids were pissed off with adoption), just because she went to the HOSPITAL for Kinjal’s delivery because Kinjal needs mommy mommy is just so freaking unfair to Anupama. I can list many instances where Anupama has prioritized Anuj over herself, her kids etc etc. So to say Anu doesn't love Anuj is really unfair and frankly baffling. It’s always the woman who has to be criticized and scrutinized for everything. It’s really sad actually. A sad reality.
Yup,Kinjal's delivery might not seem a big deal to ppl here because she is fine & healthy & has 8 ppl around her,but it is a big deal for Anupama, even though there are 8 ppl taking care of ur DIL & the grandchild, u still wouldn't want to leave them so early. Yes Anuj needs Anupama's care & she will give him all that is needed, she was just out for half a day with the staff & GK being there for Anuj,for something very important so ppl really need to stop blaming her for no reason at all.

Originally posted by: ItsmeAzra

See I agree that most of the time Anupama doesn't give Anuj the kind of attention he deserves, but she wasn't wrong this time in accompanying kinjal to the hospital, it's her grandchild that is born,it is a big deal for ppl like Anupama & it's not like she went away happily, it was seen she was sorry in leaving Anuj,she was constantly in touch with him on phone .About her not taking care of Anuj,dude got better because of Anupama's constant care for the past one month,so u can't deny she didn't fulfill her responsibilities & she would have done so even today if it were not for Kinjal,which might not look very important to us,but it certainly is important for Anupama. She just left him for half a day, tabb takk toh GK aur staff sambhaal sakta haina Anuj ko.Anuj is not in the right mental condition I understand,but I think aadha din he can stay without Anupama, yeh aisa behave karna ki uske baghair usse saans nahin aayegi,jaldi aao,jaldi aao as if she will stay in the hospital forever is a bit of an exaggeration.

She volunteered to stay for the night, she hugged and shook hand with V and she will go to celebrate homecoming of the baby. These are the problematic things not taking Kinjal to hospital for delivery.

Agreed, the adoption decision was hasty. There should have been a proper conversation between the two to show that decision was well thought of. Anuj met choti anu and saw Anupama and his own reflection in her. It rose a desire in him to give her a better life like his parents gave him. It’s while plausible was very choppy execution and too fast tracked.

I don’t think anyone is cross with Anupama for going with Kinjal to the hospital. At least for me it was the right move. It’s her lingering in the hospital when Kinjal and baby are fine, still wanting to be overnight with Kinjal when there are other capable family members who can look after Kinjal. Anuj is with an octogenarian and a kid and the other adults in the house drive him to panic attack, that’s what has everyone cross with Anupama.

As far as Anupamaa agreeing for adoption because she loves Anuj, if that is the case then it’s a wrong decision. You are bringing in an innocent child into your family. If you cannot wholeheartedly accept the child as your own then it would have been better to strongly disagree. And the person that Anuj has been depicted by writers, he would have accepted that decision.

Originally posted by: TheSunShine

I don’t think anyone is cross with Anupama for going with Kinjal to the hospital. At least for me it was the right move. It’s her lingering in the hospital when Kinjal and baby are fine, still wanting to be overnight with Kinjal when there are other capable family members who can look after Kinjal. Anuj is with an octogenarian and a kid and the other adults in the house drive him to panic attack, that’s what has everyone cross with Anupama.

As far as Anupamaa agreeing for adoption because she loves Anuj, if that is the case then it’s a wrong decision. You are bringing in an innocent child into your family. If you cannot wholeheartedly accept the child as your own then it would have been better to strongly disagree. And the person that Anuj has been depicted by writers, he would have accepted that decision.

Anupama was visibly very uncomfortable while talking to Bapuji and when the family was discussing who will stay with Kinjal overnight.. she didn’t want to stay. The fact that she was uncomfortable and awkward should tell you she’s not keen on staying there. She said she will if need be is because that is Anupama for you. That is who she is.
However when Rakhi said she will stay with Kinjal, Anu didn’t argue. She didn’t give bhashan on why she should stay blah blah blah… the older Anupama would have done that. And now that is a progress for me.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Had hai bhai just just attend img baby ceremony for 1 hr that mean anupama isk care nahin kar rah and anuj feel lonely only for 1 hr

Yeh to anupama pe bina matlab mental pressure daalna hua anuj ki taraf se

Anupama is not single entity.

Anupama is his wife so anupama apne kal ke uthe, coma se nikle pati ke liye mental pressure nahi legi toh kaun lega!

I think if Anupama keeps sitting by Anuj's bedside, then he'll feel worse. He had said that he's not used to being taken care of, he needs to take care of others, he feels bad in this situation. By letting her go, he might feel he's not being an unnecessary burden on her. But at the same time, her prioritising someone else may make him feel bad too. It's actually a very tricky situation for Anupama to be in😆

When you are sick, you neither want to be a burden on the person you love, nor do you want to be left alone by them😆

Anuj had mentioned that men are always taught to take care of others, not being taken care of by others and he feels bad to be in this state. But he wants Anupama by his side too.

So his emotions are completely understandable.

Not adjusting without anupama even for 1 hr is certainly mental pressure on anupama. Anupama is human being koi robot ya machine nahin hai ki uski apni feeling nahin ho sakti

Yeh to sara sar had hai

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

She volunteered to stay for the night, she hugged and shook hand with V and she will go to celebrate homecoming of the baby. These are the problematic things not taking Kinjal to hospital for delivery.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

I think if Anupama keeps sitting by Anuj's bedside, then he'll feel worse. He had said that he's not used to being taken care of, he needs to take care of others, he feels bad in this situation. By letting her go, he might feel he's not being an unnecessary burden on her. But at the same time, her prioritising someone else may make him feel bad too. It's actually a very tricky situation for Anupama to be in😆

When you are sick, you neither want to be a burden on the person you love, nor do you want to be left alone by them😆

Anuj had mentioned that men are always taught to take care of others, not being taken care of by others and he feels bad to be in this state. But he wants Anupama by his side too.

So his emotions are completely understandable.