Originally posted by: Arshi67
Pakhi epitomises every vile trait of the Shah family. I can't think of one redeeming quality in her that I have seen over the last two years. It's true that children's behaviour stems from what they see around them, but she is not a child any more. She is latching on to all the points she made because it serves her purpose to do so. It was horrifying watching her spew so much venom, made more so by the silence of the rest of the family. Well, they would be silent since they agree with all that Pakhi was saying.
Pakhi was the result of being brought up in a toxic household without any discipline. She was supposed to be 17 which means she was legally a child. Now that they say she is 20+... I won't say she is a child but she has always been highly selfish. She always wanted to have her way and she succeeded in that every time. She was given in to every adamant whim and fancy of hers even by Anupama who claims to be the best mother. She was shielded when she did wrong and never corrected. Now that she is grown up, she wants Adhik just like she wants another toy. She is the spoilt 3 year old throwing tantrum 'I want it, I want it, I want it'. When you say 'No'... it is natural for the child to act up. She is acting up. Honestly imo, she needs to be disciplined which no one is willing to do.
Kavya's interjection was never going to hold weight, because she is not considered 'real family' by the Shahs. Toshu rocks up mid trade and immediately wades in with "Of course, it's Mummy's fault". Unsurprisingly. All that apology and being nice over the past few weeks was just lip service. His true nature was him pouring vitriol at his mother at Anupama's flat.
I didn't see the episode so don't know what Kavya said but from whatever I have seen before I agree, the woman maybe entirely right and yet the entire family would not listen to her. Toshu, on the other hand has always used situations to his convenience just like Pakhi. He is extremely weak and a coward. If things go wrong, he would blame his circumstances. Never would he see any reason to introspect himself. He is just a coward.
Why was Bapuji the one who took Choti Anu out? Couldn't Kavya have done so while he stayed behind to see what sort of grandchildren have been reared on his watch. In fact, why did Anu bring Choti Anu with her in the first place. She knew the mood Pakhi was in, she knew the mood Vanraj was in. Why put your child in such a place?
He did? Trust dear Bapu to go walking in the midst of a conflict😆 He is another coward who runs away the minute a conflict starts. Again didn't see the episode so I don't know why CA was there in the first place. Doesn't she have school?
It continues to baffle me why Anupama insists on seeking validation from Baa. Just why? Using Pakhi's example, trying to join chains is good, but banging your head against a wall is foolish. Wisdom is in knowing when to withdraw and when to continue. Looking for utopia in a dystopian world is idiotic.
As a person who knows what it is to be an abuse victim. Let me tell you one thing. After years of emotional abuse, you switch to seeking validation from the abuser. Initially it might be to avoid conflicts but later it becomes a habit that is hard to break. Inadvertently, you find yourself looking up to them for every single thing. Initially there is a hope that if you do everything as they wish, your life would be better then the hope dies and you do to avoid conflicts and in the end it is just there, you do it because you have always done it. You create your own fake utopia to survive the dystopia around. The reason why I always used to sympathize with Anupama was because I know how it is in real life. The minute she sees the family again, she would definitely fall back. Now, that even though I sympathize, empathize with her... what really makes me angry rn with her is that... she has a man who loves her yet doesn't want to limit her visit to that abusive house. The more she goes, the more she will get dragged inside the whirlpool of abuse. If she really has to go there, she needs to take her husband with her not her kid. Now, you may ask isn't she strong enough to fight. She really isn't. Abuse isn't that easy to forget and many times the scar is lifelong. I wanted Anuj also to put his foot down and tell her facts but that never happened. He agreed with her that it's her maayka. So she still lives in the same old delusion, never coming to reality. She will never get a reality check and will continue living in that fake utopian world of hers.
All of them in that family know that Anupama is a soft target. That anything they say will be forgotten and forgiven by Anu. This toxic cycle is going to continue endlessly. Like you said, they haven't shown any character development in them. Every momentary regret has been felt only because it suited them in that moment.
The creatives are more interested in whitewashing than showing genuine regret or character development.
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