Originally posted by myviewprem
Why should a boy and girl talk in front of grand parents and parents?
If there is nothing to hide you can. The fact that they had to go into a closed room to talk was wrong because their relationship is wrong. It is infatuation, it's not love. Any parent will become angry when they see their 18-20 year old daughter in a closed room with the opposite gender.
If you have gone to city Mumbai, Bangalore, Hyderabad etc many college going girls and boys most have boy friend girl friends in college or 11th only nowadays. Its all cohead education so interaction betwen genders is much more in college. Mubai bangalore have live in too and its as forward as new york or USA nowadays
Did vanraj and kavya sit in front of baa bauji and talk or anu anupama
They were in separate apartment talking and enjoying with each other not in front of their respective parents
That's why they are not happy and are on a brink of divorce
Not really many people have love affairs in college or offiece and marry and have good life. Its vanraj dominating character that breaks all his relations
Like that if your mother father come and sit in college full day watching you, will you freely talk to even your own gender friends
There is something known as privacy all require that whether at 15 years or 20 years or 40 years
There is no such thing as privacy in Indian households. This is a foreign concept. Because of "privacy" children don't discuss anything with their parents and go through depression if there is something bad going on in their life. The only basic privacy you would get is when you you want to use the bathroom or change clothes. Parents will watch tv in living room, and children will watch mobile videos and do homework and talk on phone in their phone? Is this family? In western countries yes but still doesn't happen in India now.
Really even in villages all have own bedrooms and privay nowadays. Its not 1970s to sleep in one room 10 people. In city parents have seperate house all couple have seperate house. Kids move out at 16 years or 18 years to PG or hostels nowadays away from city or even same city to other locality near colleges. What you are saying was in 1950s and 1970s not after 1990s
Will anupama and anuj sit in front of baa bapuji and talk all that they talked alone in apartment and did kissing on hands etc
When they were not a couple, they didn't sit around in closed rooms to talk like that. They never crossed the line.
Who are we to know what they did when alone in anuj apartment when GK and Mukku not around or when they were living in seperate apartment. Pakhi wants to know how her mom stayed with anuj buddy without marraige in an house shes also a woman who knows what both did alone? Like anih pakhi they too hold hands and kissed and danced. Is that sanskari for 45 year olds before marraige. Is it ok anupama live in with anuj before wedding in his home? Like anupama vvanraj doubting pakhi anikh in room audience also can doubt what maan were doing when alone in home sipping coffee from same cup kissing dancing etc
Why double stands only when it comes to youngsters pakhi?
That's what the issue is. If Pakhi and Adhik are being friendly, they need to respect the line. 20 year old is not the proper age to get into a relationship.
When 20 year old people can have kids why not time to have boy friend or friend with boy. This is patriarchal thinking
20 is not a child
Not physically but mentally yes
Even anupam ata 45 and anuj at 45 act kids only no maturity we can say. So same rule applies to maan too
Most 20 year old girls almost 70% are married by 20 years in india and even asia
Indeed most are married by 18 years only
So 20 is old enough for 70% girls to marry and have kids but for pakhi shes child? anikh is child at 25?
If Pakhi is old enough to marry, they would have gotten her married but Anupama said that the family wants her to study and achieve something in life. Is it wrong? No Adhik is not a child, he is having some agenda in his own mind about Pakhi. He is planning to play with her feelings and break her heart.
Again how can family decide whether pakhi wants to study or whch career or whom she wants to talk? Its 16th century thinking to control girls. How do we know what toshu and kinjal did while dating that they did not cross lines? Or samar and nanadini that they did not cross lines while roaming alone? Anupama vanraj not botherd than their sons were roaming with other girls. Who knows what samar and toshu did to their girl friends? Being vanraj shah sons, rakhi was obicvously terrified of what toshu do to kinjal but anupama and Shahs never bothered about rakhi feelings. So why should adhik or kapadia think of pakhi or shahs? If its Sahh girl she should be safe others daughters can roam with Shah men and get abused and betrayed what a logic?
Like pakhi says what will stop them both meeting outside secretly? Thats what most youngsters do meet outside and not at home
True, if there is nothing wrong why meet outside. They said if they are good friends, want to meet often as friends, they can meet in supervision of elders because elders know what Pakhi is going through. She is going through that infatuation phase which in one moment if she gives in it can ruin her life. They want to protect Pakhi from ruining her life..is it wrong? If Vanraj doesnt trust his daughter and Adhik, he will have to make sure they don't meet..this is for her own good.
Pakhi is 18 years old shes an adult has right to meet anyone alone. Whose Shah or vanraj or anupama to tell her what to do? Shes an adult as per law and has right to meet or marry anyone as per law. Shahs never thought when Mukku was being taken advantage by Vanraj or samar threw ring at nandini about others daughters. That time Baa, bapuji, anupama, Toshu, Samar mouths were shut why because its others daughters? So Shah men can take advantage but their daughter no one should speak
In USA boy comes to pick up girl for prom or take Girl friend outside to girl home
The story is NOT in USA, it is INDIA..India mein ye sab nahi hota
But in asia and india all done secretly hidding
Hidding is better or saying and doing like pakhi adhik?
Anupama and vanraj parents choose anu for vanraj were the elders right?
Let adults after 18 learn from experience let them free they will learn do not control their life or they will do secretly or rebel
That's why they need guidance and not the elders to leave them, go meet and eventually have sex because if not stopped, this will happen and who will be blamed? Anupama
Most marraiges are fixed in india seeing how rich boy or girl is - that means even aged parents are fascinated by class and house and richness only
Why blame pakhi alone?
Adhik is also at fault, why he dragged her into closed room to talk? Pakhi didn't take him, he took her.
She should not go or scream she did not scream means she went on own will
was not vanraj trying to trap Malvika for her money only?
Yes he was, that's what he is getting in the form of Pakhi..you see he will realize that.
Did not shahs accept kinjal because shes rich bahu? If toshu ran away with maid daughter will Shahs accept? They will kick her out or tereat like tarsh only no for rest life
All see money status power than education of family and boy or girl only to marry richness like pakhi is doing
So for money she will love Adhik and become Barkha's bhabhi and Sara's mami?
Shes just learnt this from vanraj and anupama only
Will anupama marry anuj if hes poor 10th class living in slum nooo
She said earlier she would.
Today vanraj called him jhoru ka ghulam which was humilating still anuj was giving bashan on it.
Ultimately its very patriarchal mindset to control daughters and sisters they have no freedom till marraige after marriage husbands and sons control. So when will woman have freedom to decide. Whether right or wrong they should get freedom. Do not men fail in love or marraige to wrong girls. Let girls also learn from experience only. Did not Mukku and anupama and nandini learn the tough way getting cheated by Shahs? Did Shahs than think Mukku and nandini are others daughters too let them not fall nooo.
Rakhi faced same situation as vanraj and anupama with ikinjal that time all mocking rakhi saying nagin. How tense a mother will be when daughter runs of with patchar family which is low character like Shahs. Tosghu is vanraj son what gaurantee that in 30s or 40s he may not love another woman and abondon kinjal. But Rakhi is vamp if she thinks of kinjal safety and wants some other husband in her life for her safety. But anupama vanraj are heroes for thinking of their daughter safety?
Anuj kapadia faced same situtaion as anupam anad vanraj when vanraj was trapping Malvika but that what anupama told and misguided him acche isnasan ghatiya nahi hai etc. She misled anuj kapadia and than all kow what happened.
But when it omes to pakhi they are shouting at anuj and rakhi etc. Excuse anuj should have told vanraj now you understand fathers pain when a 50 year old twice married man goes after his kid sister how much pain i felt? And none of you supported me and stood against vanraj, you all kept quiet and indirectly supported vanraj while trapping my sister Malvika agianst me. Any man in anuj place would have said that today to vanraj and Shahs except spineless characterless anuj kapadia who has no guts to speak truth when it comes to his family and against Sahhs
This mindset of Shahs that only their daughter and sisters life is precious and respect should happen while Shah men can romp and stamp and spoil others sisters and daughters life and image and life by abuse and love affair trapping and leaving after sometime is very wrong as per me
Most Shahs should be in jail for abusing others sisters and daughters actually be it bapuji, Baa, toshu, vanraj even anupam athe great because they have been complicit in trapping other women and abusing the in various forms.
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