Many miscellaneous matters

Namaste,

Just wanted to share my thoughts on a number of topics and hence.

1. What is the punishment for infidelity?

Vanraj and Kavya were betraying Anupama for 8 years. Here the victim was Anupama,culprits Vanraj and Kavya.

She applied for divorce for peace of mind and moving out of a toxic relation etc., fine. Good that she did. But the divorce was what Kavya wanted anyway, so Anupama, the victim, gave the culprit what she needed. (I do not have a legal background) Where is justice here? The punishment whatsoever was borne by the victim and culprits actually got what they desired. Isn't it wrong?

What are the alternatives in this case?

2. Are the senior Shahs repeating mistakes?

Anupama was the bahu of the house and she was taken for granted and her opinion made no sense to anyone. Now Kavya, being the bahu is, but a silent spectator to ALL that is happening in her house and has to bear them. So, they are doing the same mistake they did with Anupama when she was the bahu. Baiscally, the bahus barring Baa have importance inthe Shah house.

So, considering different people react differently to situations, Kavya's frustration leading her to do things, is somewhere being justified.

Another annoying point is trying to show Kavya and this only bad person, because hey, Vanraj is a good father? Really? Infact, Kavya is more trust worthy than Vanraj. Everything she did was for her security and love.

3. Is the MaAn portrayal a drag fest?

The whole MaAn confession, engagement etc. Is now a drag fest. More interesting would be to see complications from here. They are 2 mature individuals. Their teenage-like love, 90's background music is now getting annoying.

- vanraj never wanted to marry kavya

- the expectations from kavya vs. anupama are night and day. where do you seeing kavya reminding anyone to take their meds or serving tea? besides anupamaa-vanraj-baa-bapuji were playing their postions, they moved like well oiled train. kavya is like a puzzle piece that doesnt fit.

- i cant justify kavya’s actions. at the end of the day, her relationship with vanraj started out of brokenness and if it isnt whole today, she shouldnt be suprised

- does kavya love vanraj tho? im divided on that. she started the affair with him bc anirudh was struggling. i see the sand in her hourglass running out real soon if vanraj doesnt pull it together

- i agree maan is a snorefest. i actually enjoyed seeing them as friends more. im a 90s kids tho so i love the songs! 😳

There is punishment for infidelity but it needs to be proved in court. Proving infidelity and bigamy is very very diffcult when it comes to evidences acceptable by law.

Wife has a right to demand alimony if she is dependent on husband. Anupama could have demanded it but she chose divorce by mutual consent. She thought that she just want to end the relationship and not drag vanraj into court for infidelity or asking for money because she felt enough of her life has ruined she doesn't want to waste a single second over vanraj. She wants azaadi from this marriage asap and only divorce by mutual consent is the way for it. She was "swabhimaani" so she didn't take monetary help/alimony from vanraj and chose to walk out of mad house and it was only after bapuji named house in her name giving her right to live there then only she stopped.

However not leaving shah house was a foolish move. They continued to abuse/exploit her, made her work like servant even after divorce.

Vanraj didn't want to marry kavya so he was kind of forced into it which serves him well. If you see from one point of view then Yes the abusers got what they wanted in the end and only anupama had to bear injustice but from another pov anupama walked out of that sorry excuse of a relationship with her head held high, she didn't turn negative and seek revenge from them by doing police complaint or troubling them by not giving divorce. She had wasted enough of her life in that cage and she just broke free from it. Instead of wasting time in getting vengeful she concentrated on her personal growth and moving on.

And about maan portrayal...it is a drag fest sometimes. Their teenager like romance is boring and stupid most of the time but i guess the the freshness brought by anuj's character, the need to see deprived and weak person getting all the happiness, love she deserves, is what keeping viewers glued to it. Recent engagement sequence didn't feel dragfest to me. I enjoyed it and the whole 90's songs are cute.

Oh its just alimony is it? Damn. Thats sad. Anupama is a case in point.

But if divorce and alimony only is the law for infidelity, it is a boon for perpetrators.

But then, you are right, proving it is tough.

Well, thats totally another discussion i guess.

I agree with everyone.

But I feel, kavya is the person who deserves sympathy. Her only mistake was she loved Vanraj and married him. Even for a single day, she was not well behaved, treated, or at peace including the first night.

How can a lady see her husband's ex in front of her every time? Anupama divorced them bcoz she could not tolerate infidelity and wanted to live vanraj and live their life happily.

Anupama considers herself very smart, has a speech ready for aurat every time, if she really wanted to see vanraj and kavya happy as she screamed always. Then why did not leave shah house just bcoz of baaapuji. she did not know what would be the consequences.

Its baapuji's over smartness, over progressive thot, and in the name of justice for Anupama, who suffered most is kavya. she has never got her rights and never accepted.

On top of that, Anupama always tries to act like her MIL. basically, Kavya has 2 MILs. kavya has not her family, no house, no kids. her insecurities are justified.

Yes, valid point why anupama has to suffer, why should she leave her family when she was not at fault. the only solution would be vanraj should have been moved from that house. It's vanraj who should suffer ; punishment is to live without his kids.

Both kavya and vanraj deserve to blame outdoor

Vanraj is wrong because woh anupama lka husband raha aur anupama ko dhoka de raha tha

Kavya is also wrong kyonki kavya anupama ko friend maanti thi to kavya ne anupama ke saath dosti ka khel he anupama ko dhoka diya anraj ne patni ka maan nahi rakha aur kavya ne anupama dosti karke us dosti ka maan nahi rakha

Ngl I was hoping for a mature love story with hints of teenage love this is the opposite. Like we see them appreciate each other... but when they were friends it was a better track in my opinion. It would have been cute to see a mature love story then them going on a bike ride which was huge for lovers in the 90s.... like you guys know what I am saying.

Hopefully (not gonna happen) but Anu-Anuj need to stop taking crap from the Shahs

Kavya seems like a better person than Vanraj and Baa... don't think they loved Anu but they are unhealthily attached and obsessed with her. Kavya seems happy for Anu here but she is someone that will get jealous and let her jealously take the best of her. Rakhi I think is also happy for Anu but likes to stir drama or my theory is she just wants to make Vanraj jealous like she knows if she says anything about Anu her Anuj would stand up fir her and when Anuj does that... Vanraj and Baa ki jalti hai

1. What is the punishment for infidelity?

My opinion here may not be liked by everyone here but adultery is not criminally punishable by law and I think that if people are not compatible, they should part ways. The crime here is cruelty in marriage which is the mental harassment Vanraj has done for many years on Anupamaa. If you consider it in a Karmic and non-practical way, Vanraj succeeded in his life until Anupamaa was content, in her own gaslighted and detrimental way, she thought she was happy. But things went downhill for him ever since he was exposed and yet did not work on either fixing thing or amicably parting ways. So I do consider cruelty in marriage and attempted defamation are definitely his crimes for which he should be charged. But in most of these situations, Anupamaa is the one who has invited trouble. So that's debatable too.

2. Are the senior Shahs repeating mistakes?

Not Shahs but just Vanraj and Leela. Vanraj has been lucky to be married to women who swoon over him to the edges of toxicity and self-harm which has made him think that just because women will stick to him through thick and thin, he can treat them like dirt. When Kavya was his gf, he was super desperate to keep her with him at all times, to the point of even making out with her in his home. But once married he is no longer interested. And all Leela can do is extrapolate her son's qualities and assume he can never do wrong. Her initial fear to lose Anupamaa was because she assumed Kavya will mistreat her. But when she realized she can mould her into another doormant, she was back to "My son is the best" incantations.

3. Is the MaAn portrayal a drag fest?

I couldn't agree more. This whole exercise is now becoming a way for Anupamaa and Hasmukh to prove a point. She had all chances to leave the place and have a mature marriage with Anuj, but she is constantly putting him on stake to keep her minions happy. In Bengali version, the straw that broke this marriage's back wasn't separation but Anuj's death, I mean all this toxic stress had to pile up to something venomous, hadn't it?

All that I see him doing is making attempts to make Anupamaa feel good at HER terms. Those consistent taunts could have been avoided if they had married in Anuj's hotel or his house, but aren't Anupamaa's tears her second skin?

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

I agree with everyone.

But I feel, kavya is the person who deserves sympathy. Her only mistake was she loved Vanraj and married him. Even for a single day, she was not well behaved, treated, or at peace including the first night.

How can a lady see her husband's ex in front of her every time? Anupama divorced them bcoz she could not tolerate infidelity and wanted to live vanraj and live their life happily.

Anupama considers herself very smart, has a speech ready for aurat every time, if she really wanted to see vanraj and kavya happy as she screamed always. Then why did not leave shah house just bcoz of baaapuji. she did not know what would be the consequences.

Its baapuji's over smartness, over progressive thot, and in the name of justice for Anupama, who suffered most is kavya. she has never got her rights and never accepted.

On top of that, Anupama always tries to act like her MIL. basically, Kavya has 2 MILs. kavya has not her family, no house, no kids. her insecurities are justified.

Yes, valid point why anupama has to suffer, why should she leave her family when she was not at fault. the only solution would be vanraj should have been moved from that house. It's vanraj who should suffer ; punishment is to live without his kids.

Agree. Hence i said Mr.Hansmukh Shah only realises and stands up for his daughters (daughter-like). He does not stand up for his DILs. Strange. His empathy with Kavya is so patchy.

Originally posted by: DailySoapBai

Ngl I was hoping for a mature love story with hints of teenage love this is the opposite. Like we see them appreciate each other... but when they were friends it was a better track in my opinion. It would have been cute to see a mature love story then them going on a bike ride which was huge for lovers in the 90s.... like you guys know what I am saying.

Hopefully (not gonna happen) but Anu-Anuj need to stop taking crap from the Shahs

Kavya seems like a better person than Vanraj and Baa... don't think they loved Anu but they are unhealthily attached and obsessed with her. Kavya seems happy for Anu here but she is someone that will get jealous and let her jealously take the best of her. Rakhi I think is also happy for Anu but likes to stir drama or my theory is she just wants to make Vanraj jealous like she knows if she says anything about Anu her Anuj would stand up fir her and when Anuj does that... Vanraj and Baa ki jalti hai

It is Kavya's helplessness that makes her vulnerable. Mrs.Leelaben and Mr.Vanraj are beyond repair. They just are unhappy people because they seek happiness dominating someone.