This serial has so many misogynistic messages that are being fed to viewers in name of family drama
The first message is let mother in law father in law husband abuse you and your mother and family how much ever they are God even after divorce. Indeed they are not only God for the wife but even her new husband aka anuj kapadia now. Both anupama and anuj dying for acceptance from shahs and baa and treating Vanraj like some elder of family gives this message on sagai day. OK bapuji never abused anupama but he never stopped abuse also for 26 years. A person who allows abuse in front of eyes without opposing for so long is also a criminal only in eyes of law. So what is social message going out that no matter what in laws and husband do for 26 years still they are God and to be respected and mayka (parents) to not only wife but her new partner.
Second message is this Baa and Rakhi abusing anuj kapadia and anupama marriage as second hand and in old age etc. Where were they when vanraj was marrying kavya was that not second hand wedding? Where were these both when he had affair with Malvika? Why no accusation to Vanraj? whose openly having affairs with no less than 2 to 3 girls in show. But anupama should not marry second time and anuj is doing second hand marriage very sad. Maens subtle message to society marry after 40s iits second hand wedding and mocked for a woman
Third message is normalizing abuse of power and love trappings in office coming under sexual harassment and favours. The very fact that Malvika who has been abused by vanraj. Vanraj did not have intention to marry her but acted as if he loved her in office to manipulate her, this is grave offence as per sexual harrasment acts, you cannot induce women employee to trap her for benefits be it promotion or any favours which is what vanraj did actually. So woman gets manipulated by a man n office has come to his house for celebrations gives message that man can do anything in office but woman should forget and act normal with him and his family in name of relation and family. Will anupama be ok a man who abused and tried to trap Pakhi in office or college by tricks to gain benefits than pakhi goes to that mans house for anything forget marriage functions?
Fourth message is for kavya. Ok she did affair and married so a bad woman as per shah family. But shes 2nd wife so how they treat her. If anupam amarry second time to anuj and anuj had a first wife and came everyday to anuj house is anupama ok? As far as i see anupama is still wife of vanraj and bahu of baa bapuji even more than a year of marraige of kavya or wedding fixed to anuj. Anupama is still staying in ex husband house like a wife seeing him coffeee breakfast milk juice to her husband and in laws. No amout of her acting like she ignore vanraj can justify these acts. Anupam ais second woman in kavya and vanraj life now. Before kavya came between anupama and vanraj now anupama is coming between vanraj and kavya married life. Is this not injustice to kavyas rights as wife and bahu? If anupama interference was not enough in kavyas house now anuj also wants to interfered by acting like ghar jamai and calling baa bapuji as his mayka and parents? So now kavyas in laws are anuj kapadias mayka? Will any wife be ok with this at her home? Anupama is trying to break kavyas home and marraige by her actas. Shes acting more worst than kavya acted with anupama.
If its kids anupama is so bothered take them to her house and take care. Do not come to kavya house and spioil her marraige and life. By seeing anupama everyday at home vanraj is still having feelings for her so trying to spoil her wedding. What3ever ex husband has spent 26 years with her they will have some affection for ex wife. If everday anupam acome in front of him he may again want her back in life. Thats why vanraj is unable to move on with kavya. For him anupama still is wife doing all wife duties at his home not kavya.
Fifth message is a bold strong independent woman is always a vamp. Kavya is a vamp Rakhi is vamp devika is vamp because they speak truth openly 90% of time may be rudely but they are vamps. Sati savitris are those who take torture and abuse and yet slave for in laws or ex in laws and ex hubbys like anupama and kinjal
Sixth message for money make donkey also father. For money and power shah family made anupama daughter and anuj kapadia son in law. Where was shah family daughter love for 26 years when she was abused? Now shes marrying Richie rich anuj and malvika sister in law so anupama suddenly became daughter. Like vultures shah family hounding kapadias thru anupama
In older serials like Kyunki Saas Bhi kabhi bahu thi if the male lead had an affair family never accept the 2nd wife she stays in separate home and not accepted by family members of ML. Here Vanraj has been doing affair after affair first in college(thats ok because before wedding) than with office junior subordinate(Kavya) than with business partner (Malvika) but never has he been punished. Hes best father best son best husband who never raised hands on anupama (anupama said this in Malvika abuse track herself)
So this show is sending out message to audience at large like this (remember majority women are not educated in india and asia and are poor have no powers both in home and office and may try to take lessions from serials how protagonists behave)
1) A woman is tied to ex husband and in laws for life in one way or other no matter how much abuse she has duty and responsibility towards her ex in laws
2) Sexual harassment and taking advantage of woman in office for personal gains and promotions is fine
3) Even if man takes advantage if office you can go to his house for parties and functions and act as if his family are your relatives
4) A second wife has no rights in house only first wife has and will always have rights even after divorce or her own marraige as ex hubby is her kids father
5) Only a woman who has kids can talk in house affairs like anupama not kavya has shes not mother. Only mother has all value not wife without kids
6) In laws abuse of 26 years is nullified by doing kanyadaan
7) Ex husband abuse is nullified as hes womans kids father
8) Father will not take real daughters salary to run house but father in law take ex daughter in law now for convenience daughter money her hubby anuj money his sister malvika money as they are family (means not real family but outsiders whose money and power can be abused by shah family by calling anupama as daughter).
9) Orphan has no right in his own property or parents company
I can keep on typing messages but its of no use actually
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