Should Kinjal re-evaluate her relationship and move on? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Km181

Is this even a mystery, she is called 'choti Anupama' for a reason. Anupama left Vanraj only for EMA otherwise Vanraj was and is achcha beta, pita and insaan for him. Now Toshu is Jr Vanraj, so till he does EMA things will stay as it is.

Lets not bring yourself, even in such hypothetical, fictional characters. Any sane person, will not fall in love with Toshu otherwise after marriage there have been so many incidence to show her, her mistake.

Toshu did character assassinated his own mother; first in Shah House (fine Kinjal was not there) but then in Anu's house. If she wanted to leave or had any sense, she would have left him by then. It was right in front of her eyes, how cheap, disgusting and narrow minded his thinking was. If not for a baby, what is the guarantee this guy will not question Kinjal's character if she was stuck with male colleague for a night.

After finding out too she didnt leave him

It's just that family found out about the affair or else it might have never come out

It took her for hom to say that you & Anuj were together last for her to move from shah house.

And no ,he is not a good father. someone who teaches kids to ridicule their mom is not a good father.He never cared for Samar coz he supported Anu.

At best he is just a good son. Not even a good brother to Dolly

I honestly don't understand what kinjal saw in toshu to even fall in love with him in the first place

Okay they got married...and kinjal claims to love Anu like a mother...and this guy constantly disrespected his mom....he even character assassinated his mom right in front of her eyes...why would any sensible woman want to live with this guy after witnessing such disgusting behavior...

Now with the pregnancy ...on Maha shivratri it should have been kinjal who should have slapped him and walked away from that house...but no she standing there, heads bowed down and crying like a helpless woman...choti anupama indeed

No woman in this show has any self respect left in them...and to think this show was supposed to be about woman empowerment... what a shame...

I would want Anupama to tell Kinjal to leave Toshu and move on. How can she let her daughter go through same pain what she went through for 26 years... Is she waiting for Kinjal to complete 26years in abusive relationship... Would she be same if it was Pakhi...

Originally posted by: Km181

Totally agree, i am very disappointed, way its shown in serial for both Kinjal and Anupama too. Why is Anupama, always show as so dumb and regressive, a mother knows her child best. Agree, she can and will keep on forgiving him when it involves her.

But does Anupama really think of Kinjal as her daughter? If yes, would she have supported this idea or asked Kinjal to reconsider.. No i am not talking about abortion here. Its Kinjal's choice whether to keep baby or not. But at least re-think about her marriage and take a divorce.

Anupama is NO different than Baa here in certain ways, supporting her son and not taking a stand for so called daughter. And the modern independent Kinjal has turned a meek, dependent old anupama.

Makers think anupama making toshu realize his mistakes and force to accept baby will portray path breaking track or new age story track but it is juat reinforcing bullshit ideas that a woman needs man for upbringing of child.

Instead of making anupama dance on dholida after knowing kinjal's news, makers could have shown anu talking sense into kinjal amd asking to re evaluate whether she really wants to bring a child in her messed up marriage amd even if she does she shouldn't have any expectations from toshu because he is a**hole. She should move away from this house and anupama will support her with everything. This would turn out to be a new age story never seen on ITV.

Originally posted by: rjhaveri

I think the time is ripe for Kinjal to re-evalute her relationship. Toshu is the mirror image of his father, he is emotionally abusive and controlling. He is always looking to blame others for his failures, and he lashes out at people who love him i.e. Kinjal.

If I were Kinjal, I would move out of that relationship, and that house where the female matriarch is a misogynist. She has her mother's support, she can start a new life.

Hell, if she loves Anu so much, she could move in with Anu and will be accepted and supported with open arms.

Living in this abusive relationship and bringing in a child into it would not be right to the child

Kinjal used to have spunk not so long ago. It's baffling why they have watered all that down. Toshu is Vanraj 2.0 so it would have been interesting for the makers to show Kinjal not take his nonsense, to stand up for herself and call him out on his egregiousness. To contrast how the two relationships are dealt with.

How can Toshu giving her bottles of water, water down all the horrendous things he said? Wish Raakhi knew of all the charming things he had said about her honewala grandchild!

Most importantly, how is Kinjal being allowed to stand around for so long in her delicate state?! I'm legit concerned here 🤔

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

Makers think anupama making toshu realize his mistakes and force to accept baby will portray path breaking track or new age story track but it is juat reinforcing bullshit ideas that a woman needs man for upbringing of child.

Instead of making anupama dance on dholida after knowing kinjal's news, makers could have shown anu talking sense into kinjal amd asking to re evaluate whether she really wants to bring a child in her messed up marriage amd even if she does she shouldn't have any expectations from toshu because he is a**hole. She should move away from this house and anupama will support her with everything. This would turn out to be a new age story never seen on ITV.

I know, her immediately breaking into that dholida was so regressive to be honest. And trust me, no sensible family shares the news the way she did. I would have said, even if Toshu was good husband, was this the right time. I mean it's not even one year they got married. Toshu is right, both should be focusing on their careers now. And stupidity is Kinjal using child as band-aid to fix her marriage. Instead, after seeing the way Toshu treats this own mother she should have reconsider the marriage. Anyways, its all love for HERO, Kinjal when introduced was different, like Anuj now, she too had huge following and then slowly her character died.

Originally posted by: Arshi67

Kinjal used to have spunk not so long ago. It's baffling why they have watered all that down. Toshu is Vanraj 2.0 so it would have been interesting for the makers to show Kinjal not take his nonsense, to stand up for herself and call him out on his egregiousness. To contrast how the two relationships are dealt with.

How can Toshu giving her bottles of water, water down all the horrendous things he said? Wish Raakhi knew of all the charming things he had said about her honewala grandchild!

Most importantly, how is Kinjal being allowed to stand around for so long in her delicate state?! I'm legit concerned here 🤔

Did you notice how Kinjal was hovering around Toshu and dancing? I cant believe Anupama let her do so much without holding her hand! 😕

Supposedly Anupana moved into Shah house to take care of Kinjal, but we have not see any such scenes. Instead we get scenes of her and Vanraj's nonsense. Why are they so obsessed with proving each other wrong? Anupama needs to put herself first and move out! She can take Kinjal with her too but I'd much rather see Kinjal move out on her own or with her own mom to restart her own life. Kinjal is shown as an educated working woman, so I am not sure why she is even taking this abuse from her husband. Makers should absolutely show a track of Kinjal leaving Shah household with her baby, instead of being like Anupama and being abused and treated as a last priority for 20+ years.

Kinjal has been shown as always standing up for Anupama so I don't understand why she wouldn't do the same for herself.

Toshu would eventually walk down his father's path. The way it is going he would soon have EMA and like his father he would also learn to justify that and then sympathize and understand his father as to why he did that.

As for Kinjal why she didn't leave him till now is because she is madly in love with him and still believes he can turn around. We do see glimpses of that. I know someone who is in a 8 year relationship and those two fight and hurl abuses at each other 5 days a week. I asked one day is it worth it? The reply I got is "I won't be able to live without him". I can clearly see they both have become poison for each other, killing each other slowly. But that's the sad state.

What I would want to see is Kinjal taking a stand for herself. We all want to see many things in the show. Will we get to see that? Chances are extremely less.