Should Kinjal re-evaluate her relationship and move on?

I think the time is ripe for Kinjal to re-evalute her relationship. Toshu is the mirror image of his father, he is emotionally abusive and controlling. He is always looking to blame others for his failures, and he lashes out at people who love him i.e. Kinjal.

If I were Kinjal, I would move out of that relationship, and that house where the female matriarch is a misogynist. She has her mother's support, she can start a new life.

Hell, if she loves Anu so much, she could move in with Anu and will be accepted and supported with open arms.

Living in this abusive relationship and bringing in a child into it would not be right to the child

Originally posted by: rjhaveri

I think the time is ripe for Kinjal to re-evalute her relationship. Toshu is the mirror image of his father, he is emotionally abusive and controlling. He is always looking to blame others for his failures, and he lashes out at people who love him i.e. Kinjal.

If I were Kinjal, I would move out of that relationship, and that house where the female matriarch is a misogynist. She has her mother's support, she can start a new life.

Hell, if she loves Anu so much, she could move in with Anu and will be accepted and supported with open arms.

Living in this abusive relationship and bringing in a child into it would not be right to the child

Is this even a mystery, she is called 'choti Anupama' for a reason. Anupama left Vanraj only for EMA otherwise Vanraj was and is achcha beta, pita and insaan for him. Now Toshu is Jr Vanraj, so till he does EMA things will stay as it is.

Lets not bring yourself, even in such hypothetical, fictional characters. Any sane person, will not fall in love with Toshu otherwise after marriage there have been so many incidence to show her, her mistake.

Toshu did character assassinated his own mother; first in Shah House (fine Kinjal was not there) but then in Anu's house. If she wanted to leave or had any sense, she would have left him by then. It was right in front of her eyes, how cheap, disgusting and narrow minded his thinking was. If not for a baby, what is the guarantee this guy will not question Kinjal's character if she was stuck with male colleague for a night.

Originally posted by: Km181

Is this even a mystery, she is called 'choti Anupama' for a reason. Anupama left Vanraj only for EMA otherwise Vanraj was and is achcha beta, pita and insaan for him. Now Toshu is Jr Vanraj, so till he does EMA things will stay as it is.

Lets not bring yourself, even in such hypothetical, fictional characters. Any sane person, will not fall in love with Toshu otherwise after marriage there have been so many incidence to show her, her mistake.

Toshu did character assassinated his own mother; first in Shah House (fine Kinjal was not there) but then in Anu's house. If she wanted to leave or had any sense, she would have left him by then. It was right in front of her eyes, how cheap, disgusting and narrow minded his thinking was. If not for a baby, what is the guarantee this guy will not question Kinjal's character if she was stuck with male colleague for a night.

And why in your sane mind would you plan a family with such a man? She has shown him his place time and again but with no change or remorse. I understand love is important but how can you remotely love someone who does not know the basic concept of respect? I’m ok with children having differences with parents. We all have been through it but he is next level.

For her own peace of mind and sanity and the child’s she should move on.

Originally posted by: rjhaveri

I think the time is ripe for Kinjal to re-evalute her relationship. Toshu is the mirror image of his father, he is emotionally abusive and controlling. He is always looking to blame others for his failures, and he lashes out at people who love him i.e. Kinjal.

If I were Kinjal, I would move out of that relationship, and that house where the female matriarch is a misogynist. She has her mother's support, she can start a new life.

Hell, if she loves Anu so much, she could move in with Anu and will be accepted and supported with open arms.

Living in this abusive relationship and bringing in a child into it would not be right to the child

Couldn't agree more!

Having small differences once in a while is fine, but right from the get go, they both fought and squibbled on every thing grave or trivial.

She should have evaluated their marriage much sooner. I wonder if she was trying to fix it and thats when they decided to start a family. But the man changed in mind mid way. 🤔

In all this, the biggest loss is for the unborn child for no fault of his/hers. How unfortunate!😕

yes. take the baby and run!

I agree, she should run.

I have a huge problem with this whole Toshu character. I know there are such entitled brats in real life too sometimes, but he is an exaggeration.

For starters, a man who is SO CRUEL and so disrespectful to his own mother is just plain sick. His whole thinking and viewpoint is sick. The writers have written him on such a way that he makes your skin crawl.

Kinjal is delusional to love him at all at this point, and its downright stupid to be with him.
But logic is not the writers’ forte I’m afraid.

Originally posted by: ektag06

@bold - cannot agree more. She should’ve pulled the bandaid then. Not once but twice in front of her and never stood up for his mother ever. How can a child be this ungrateful? And why would you want to be with such a person? And how many chances are too many chances?

And why in your sane mind would you plan a family with such a man? She has shown him his place time and again but with no change or remorse. I understand love is important but how can you remotely love someone who does not know the basic concept of respect? I’m ok with children having differences with parents. We all have been through it but he is next level.

For her own peace of mind and sanity and the child’s she should move on.

I have a friend who is married has been married to a man for over 25 years, she has faced constant emotional abuse. She converted to his religion, followed his rules (don't talk to your friends or family, don't go out, etc, etc). He is super religious, he comes from another country, hates her country, abuses her country, her family. He did not let her go to her mother's funeral. He is constantly afraid someone will convert her back to her original religion. In the initial 2 years of her marriage she realised she had made a mistake, she thought maybe if they have children it will get better... and so the story goes for all marriages where women make the same mistake, ironically her younger son taught her self worth and rebellion (he encouraged her to meet up with me, as her husband hates me sight unseen due to the fact that I happen to be his wife's best friend despite having lost touch for over 25 years and my religion), he is an atheist. (South Asian).

I have another friend who married her high school sweetheart, she had one child with him, she was unhappy, he was having affairs - she thought something was wrong with her. She thought maybe if they had another child things might get better. Her beat her black and blue while she was pregnant. I do not understand why women would even think of bringing in innocent souls into their messed up lives, just "incase" it repairs it? Kick the dude and move on ladies! (East Asian)

Originally posted by: rjhaveri

I have a friend who is married has been married to a man for over 25 years, she has faced constant emotional abuse. She converted to his religion, followed his rules (don't talk to your friends or family, don't go out, etc, etc). He is super religious, he comes from another country, hates her country, abuses her country, her family. He did not let her go to her mother's funeral. He is constantly afraid someone will convert her back to her original religion. In the initial 2 years of her marriage she realised she had made a mistake, she thought maybe if they have children it will get better... and so the story goes for all marriages where women make the same mistake, ironically her younger son taught her self worth and rebellion (he encouraged her to meet up with me, as her husband hates me sight unseen due to the fact that I happen to be his wife's best friend despite having lost touch for over 25 years and my religion), he is an atheist. (South Asian).

I have another friend who married her high school sweetheart, she had one child with him, she was unhappy, he was having affairs - she thought something was wrong with her. She thought maybe if they had another child things might get better. Her beat her black and blue while she was pregnant. I do not understand why women would even think of bringing in innocent souls into their messed up lives, just "incase" it repairs it? Kick the dude and move on ladies! (East Asian)

Totally agree, i am very disappointed, way its shown in serial for both Kinjal and Anupama too. Why is Anupama, always show as so dumb and regressive, a mother knows her child best. Agree, she can and will keep on forgiving him when it involves her.

But does Anupama really think of Kinjal as her daughter? If yes, would she have supported this idea or asked Kinjal to reconsider.. No i am not talking about abortion here. Its Kinjal's choice whether to keep baby or not. But at least re-think about her marriage and take a divorce.

Anupama is NO different than Baa here in certain ways, supporting her son and not taking a stand for so called daughter. And the modern independent Kinjal has turned a meek, dependent old anupama.

Originally posted by: rjhaveri

I have a friend who is married has been married to a man for over 25 years, she has faced constant emotional abuse. She converted to his religion, followed his rules (don't talk to your friends or family, don't go out, etc, etc). He is super religious, he comes from another country, hates her country, abuses her country, her family. He did not let her go to her mother's funeral. He is constantly afraid someone will convert her back to her original religion. In the initial 2 years of her marriage she realised she had made a mistake, she thought maybe if they have children it will get better... and so the story goes for all marriages where women make the same mistake, ironically her younger son taught her self worth and rebellion (he encouraged her to meet up with me, as her husband hates me sight unseen due to the fact that I happen to be his wife's best friend despite having lost touch for over 25 years and my religion), he is an atheist. (South Asian).

I have another friend who married her high school sweetheart, she had one child with him, she was unhappy, he was having affairs - she thought something was wrong with her. She thought maybe if they had another child things might get better. Her beat her black and blue while she was pregnant. I do not understand why women would even think of bringing in innocent souls into their messed up lives, just "incase" it repairs it? Kick the dude and move on ladies! (East Asian)

@bold - CANNOT just cannot agree anymore. high time we stop producing humans to be duct tapes. it doesn't work like that. i'm not sure but it may have worked previously keeping the society and the chaar log in mind, not anymore. and what are you going to tell that child? why should they go through something like that?

and who are these 4 log and where do they disappear when you need them the most? Infact why even consider them in the first place?

Firstly, I do not remotely agree with the concept of affairs/EMA. As 2 consenting and "mature" adults, just accept differences and move on and then go about doing your thing. Why the whole cheat business?

Originally posted by: ektag06

@bold - CANNOT just cannot agree anymore. high time we stop producing humans to be duct tapes. it doesn't work like that. i'm not sure but it may have worked previously keeping the society and the chaar log in mind, not anymore. and what are you going to tell that child? why should they go through something like that?

and who are these 4 log and where do they disappear when you need them the most? Infact why even consider them in the first place?

Firstly, I do not remotely agree with the concept of affairs/EMA. As 2 consenting and "mature" adults, just accept differences and move on and then go about doing your thing. Why the whole cheat business?

Firstly, I do not remotely agree with the concept of affairs/EMA. As 2 consenting and "mature" adults, just accept differences and move on and then go about doing your thing. Why the whole cheat business?

So true!

Instead of an Ema & breaking someone's trust. Making a mockery of relationships it's better to be honest & move on. It might hurt but betrayal hurts 100 times more