This one burning question!

is not related to our current headache😆

But it was doing rounds of my head, and since all of us here are folks who absolutely hate people taking shit, i had to ask this.

How much does infidelity break the person who was cheated on?

I haven't watched the show from starting so i am not all to aware of anu's reaction but i do recall her passing out on seeing the two together, and how numb she was after that.

But then i also recall her taking care of vanraj post accident, being his emotional support, talking him into marrying kavya and being friends.

Personally, i find this all unfathomable. I agree that one cannot forego 26 years of love just like that but isn't the wound supposed to be more deep because the trust that was shattered had been nurtured for so long.

Perhaps it was her humanity and respect for baa ehen she looked after him. But how come she was all helping when it came to him marrying the woman with whom he cheated on her.

Has anupama ever been humanely bitter about it. With such pain comes anger, and hatred. Did it not pinch her seeing the two together? If i was in her place, i would have spent every waking moment cursing aand jabbing the two with jibes. Isnt that human? And i'd say this is one situation where rationale and logic would gladly go for a hike.

Kavya pretended to be a friend. But was sleeping with her husband. Anupama even having a decent conversation with her doesn't make sense to me. If i was in her shoes, i would have definitely tried to make her life a living hell with sharp words. Unfortunately it is usually kavya doing the honors and anupama taking it with calm and some wit.

And becoming friends with your ex?! That too not some 26 hafte ka bf but 26 saal ka husband who never treated you with respect while showered the other woman with all the affection! Is that possiblle. Vo bhi after a few months of an extremely bitter separation.

Someone who cheated for 9 years has long disqualified the race of trust. And yet in the start of anuj track, she was all normal with him, smiling at his dost remark and all.

I would have been unable to do any of it. You take your friendship and shove it up your a**!

How come you get to be all happy after ruining me brutally!

Agar mujhe abuses aate nhi toh main seekh leti but i would have blasted him off regardless of family and all. Because kahin ka kahin, kabhi na kabhi toh insaan apni sochtaa hai na, apne lie bolta hai na!

Also did the man ever properly apologise? I fathom not. Then those two behaving like a couple who separated mutually doesnt fit at all.

Yes, dil main nafrat palna is toxic. But gussa dabana is way more harmful.

There is no forgiveness for infedility. Only with the passage of time, and good memories can those horrors be dulled. But it hasn't been even a whole year into divorce and she graces that ass with civil behaviour, no less. Truly unfathomable.

Done with my rant. Feel free to express your views coz thats what i came looking for.

Agree with what you are saying but sometimes as a good parent you have to put your own bitterness aside for the sake of the children. A person will need to deal with it but still will have to compartmentalise it all in order to move on. But still I imagine it will take time which is not reflected in the drama.

25 years of commitment and devolution is a very long time and for it to end up in a mirage I would imagine it to be very devastating indeed.

But in this case the children are not exactly children, they are all grown up. Having said that I have never been able to work out what age Pakhi is meant to be so that I don’t get too annoyed by her actions and behaviour… whatever it may be, she is still very immature with the way things have panned out.

It’s good that a drama has highlighted infidelity but I don’t feel that they pursued it from Anupama’s perspective and feelings. We had a couple of emotional episodes but that is it. Rest was all about moving on. The level of emotion coming out with Anupamaa’s non-boyfriend was not expressed with the ema in my opinion. Which probably reflects the perspective that society holds… it’s kind of hushed under the carpet when it’s a man and we need to forgive and move on but totally different when it’s a woman.
I think Vanraj apologised during the resort episodes but it wasn’t a wow wow apology and never really acknowledged the wrongs he did by Anupamaa and of course his latest behaviour makes it look like he has never done anything wrong at all. He justified it by he never wanted to marry an uneducated person but then he didn’t help her grow he Cut her down.

Even if a relationship has run its course there will always be the heartache of being cheated and lied to. The deceit is hard to handle.