Originally posted by: usernameyrkkh
By people calling her bholi, seedhi, saaf mann ki, etc. Is she well-intentioned? Sure. But is she naive? Heck no. This 40s-something woman is immensely dumb at best & willfully ignorant at worst. Treating dumb/ignorant women as 'innocent' is so deep-rooted in our society that the audience is enjoying it!
We've already seen how cunning she is with financial golmaal. Enough iski-topi-uske-sarr has happened with the workshop. She's too dumb for paperwork but very quick at asking for huge amounts of money at odd hours.
Now coming to how willfully ignorant she is.. There was no freakin way, even in the show's world, that Anu could have landed the partnership with Anuj if he didn't have a personal connection with her. And yet, she asked him to treat her like a normal employee to keep up appearances in her head. She surely should have taken up the golden opportunity! But at least Kavya, for example, is self-aware & honest enough to acknowledge the beneficial personal connection with Anuj.
Then there's Samar. The trauma that he survived at the hands of Vanraj is so much worse than what Anu herself survived. V entered Anu's life in adulthood & had her silent consent while abusive her. But Samar, he has lived like this literally all his life. He has no happy childhood memories of a loving father to go back to. While Anu herself divorced Vanraj & keeps reminding him about how bad he was to her.. She only ever pushes Samar to go back to normalcy with Vanraj. We already know that Anu can recognise abuse. So when was the last time she acknowledged the abuse that her child faced? Let alone apologize for allowing that to happen to him in her presence? Samar is now so hungry for paternal love that he has latched on to a man he has known for barely a month..
... That isn't bhola & seedha hona. Those actions by a woman whose whole identity is built around being a great 'Maa'.. That's willful ignorance & selfishness.
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