No one from the elite class would behave the way Rakhi does, sure they wouldn't but an upset mother would definitely behave that way.
Remember Toshu and Kinjal eloped and got married following which she lost all her rights as a mother because now apparently Kinjal is Shah family's bahu and member and only they have a right to say and tell anything to her. She had agreed to the marriage on the condition that Paritosh would live with them as a ghar jamai to which he had even agreed but then Anupama came and dragged him away back home, and Kinjal earlier I guess had made it clear that she wouldn't go against her parents especially her mother but she did right and now she downgraded her lifestyle. Every parent aspires to see their child do well as per their standards and wants them to walk on the path they wish to see them treading upon. Rakhi never liked the Shah family especially owing to how Anupama had turned out to be during the introduction. So if she wants to insult and berate them tp her heart's content she actually can irrespective of what her class is or who she is especially if it makes her happy since she anyways can't get her daughter back and why complain when Paritosh does the exact same thing, seems like Rakhi and Toshu are on the same page.
If Anupama can scold Pakhi, lecture Toshu to walk on a certain path why can't Rakhi do the same? She wanted her daughter to get married into an elite household, where all her needs would get attended, where she could get all the luxuries which her mother believes she deserves instead of toiling around and slogging off all day from work to home back and forth. Yes Kinjal doesn't want all of that and she is an adult fine, but Toshu wants to live the elite life now doesn't he? Tomorrow if he buys a house of his own or gets a house of his own from Rakhi whatever it may be and decides to go and live there why does he and Rakhi get judged for it??? And don't say he got it as alms, anupama also didn't purchase the Shah house on her own dam she also got it as a gift only, now if you say its because she toiled and slogged of for that family for many years and is now their so called 'daughter' then toshu is also not exactly getting it for free, he is working for the Dave's too as their employee, and employers do provide their employees accommodation especially the top performers as perks even though he is also family member.
In this forum people conveniently ignore that as much as Paritosh is a member of the Shah family he is also a member of the Dave family, if he agrees with his in laws and supports them over his own family why is it so wrong when Kinjal does the exact same thing with Rakhi Dave??? If Kinjal disregards Rakhi, asks her to not worry or try to help her, keeps rejecting her help, disobeys her, then it's okay and not toxic but if Paritosh does the same to Anupama he is toxic. Kinjal literally takes Rakhi for granted, she would rather help the Shah's with the cafe instead of having dinner with her own parents. It's like now that she is married her responsibility is only limited to her sasuraal and her maayka is no longer important. I haven't seen her call and ask Rakhi or her dad of they are doing well, if they need her home in any manner, it's like she has no responsibility towards them at all and women like her are partly responsible for why the boy child is given a preference over the girl child, the assumption that once girls get married they rarely look back to their own family or care about them, she is literally proving that true, atleast Paritosh is filling in for her.
It's like as long as Anupama is supported by a character they are right but if they don't and turn against her they are bad.
I used to feel sorry Anupama earlier for how she was being treated but you know what I think she actually encouraged everyone to be that way given how she allowed everyone to just boss her around and she is still doing that by agreeing to stay in that house and she expects Kinjal to be the same although not so directly, that dialogue of hers, I learnt from my saas, and kinjal is learning from me. In short a donkey who works extremely hard, slog at office, slog at home and then expect nothing back in return or even if you expect and don't get it then just don't complain. And this is exactly what Rakhi hates, she wants her daughter to be headstrong, smart, calculative and self centred like herself not like her father or Anupama because those who arent get taken for a ride and Rakhi is not wrong. The fact of the matter is she doesn't trust the Shah's and yes she objects to them distributing pamphlets on the roadside because to her its an undignified job which could affect her daughter and her family reputation as well, remember she hasn't cut ties or disowned kinjal as her daughter.