Rakhi and her concerns

It’s very clear from day 1 , rakhi Dave has no trust on shah family except anupama. She knows very well neither 3 children has any training to do household work nor baa, Bapuji and vanraj.

The family is of 7 people and all the task of other 6 were single handedly managed by 1 housewife. Now next generation is added in the picture and new scenario too where none of daughter in law will be housewife and all will be working woman.

Being working woman myself, I can definitely say, none of the working woman can have time to do all the kind of domestic jobs from kitchen to ironing of clothes. Mostly working woman cooks for family and pay for other domestic work like ironing to dusting to bartan in urban cities.

Rakhi’s fear about other six family member can expect the things from kinjal to do ironing on everyone’s cloth like anupama did or to do each and every household work like anupama did is not at all wrong.

The way other six never thought about how much overloaded anupama was, they will never think about kinjal too.

Rakhi knows other six very well and I like her idea about sending maid in the house . For me , she is not interfering in her daughter’s house . She is protecting her daughter from other six lazy people which includes anupama’s 3 aalsi bacche 😆😆

If kinjal refuses rakhi’s maid then rakhi should leave the matter but I have faith in new daughter in law Kavya since she is also working woman with no time/interest to do ironing on everyone’s cloth or other stuffs😆

BUT I have faith in kinjal , she has art of saying NO. She is kind of person who knows what should be done when.

I still remember that episode where she had said NO to baa about taking off for vanraj’s birthday pooja things.

Art of saying NO matters a lot when you are staying in joint family.

If you remember, Kinjal tried to hire Jhilmil full-time when Anupamaa started working, but Leela shunned her for taking decisions without approval from Vanraj or her.

Housewives may cook for love, but when they keep giving their best every single time, the family starts treating it as a duty or obligation.

Kinjal is learning all of Anupamaa's recipes and that is good. But she needs to draw a line and not let her career get compromised for cooking. She can cook with all her effort as special gestures, on festivals, birthdays, anniversaries, or even Sundays, but not as a habit, else she will be taken for granted like Anupamaa.

Let the family get used to the fact that maid food is normal food and her food is special, which she is doing just out of love, not because she "has to"

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

If you remember, Kinjal tried to hire Jhilmil full-time when Anupamaa started working, but Leela shunned her for taking decisions without approval from Vanraj or her.

Housewives may cook for love, but when they keep giving their best every single time, the family starts treating it as a duty or obligation.

Kinjal is learning all of Anupamaa's recipes and that is good. But she needs to draw a line and not let her career get compromised for cooking. She can cook with all her effort as special gestures, on festivals, birthdays, anniversaries, or even Sundays, but not as a habit, else she will be taken for granted like Anupamaa.

Let the family get used to the fact that maid food is normal food and her food is special, which she is doing just out of love, not because she "has to"

Completely agree with your each word 👍🏼

Rakhi ke hote hue kinjal ki halat anupama jaise bilkul nahi hogi jiska log maid jaise fayda utha rahe the.

Kinjal definitely needs to draw the line and I don’t want kinjal to compromise her career for lazy members and their selfish needs.

Of course kinjal can cook on occasions but these people has mentality to use daughter in law like maid .

I have huge problem with that mentality where people wants to eat only of daughter in law’s hand and also proudly flaunts they hum sirf bahu ke hath ka khate hai , maid ka nahi pasand.

Agar maid ke hath ka khana pasand nahi hai toh either khud cooking karo or nayi maid Lao apne liye 🤢

Her concerns may be right but still her actions of asking kinjal to befriend Kavya is still baseless and non justifiable. Because by befriending kavya, ye sab concern dur nahi honge Rakhi ke, infact pura ghar against ho jayega woh alag.

But it's true 1 baar, 2 baar ya 3 baar koi DIL ke parents to interfere karne dega uske baad usko bhi mana hi kar denge ye unke ghar ka mamla hai. And most importantly Kinjal is capable of handling these situations. She will keep a maid full time but if Rakhi tries to do it she will get more irritated because she wants to do it her way, atleast trust her for once. Give her a chance, if she fails, than obviously you are there for her.

I am sure Kinjal will not compromise her career for it unwillingly.

Originally posted by: neo7

Her concerns may be right but still her actions of asking kinjal to befriend Kavya is still baseless and non justifiable. Because by befriending kavya, ye sab concern dur nahi honge Rakhi ke, infact pura ghar against ho jayega woh alag.

But it's true 1 baar, 2 baar ya 3 baar koi DIL ke parents to interfere karne dega uske baad usko bhi mana hi kar denge ye unke ghar ka mamla hai. And most importantly Kinjal is capable of handling these situations. She will keep a maid full time but if Rakhi tries to do it she will get more irritated because she wants to do it her way, atleast trust her for once. Give her a chance, if she fails, than obviously you are there for her.

I am sure Kinjal will not compromise her career for it unwillingly.

Yesss I like that maid idea but her concerns of asking kinjal to befriend with Kavya is completely baseless.

Kinjal is enough capable to manage Kavya.

Very true , 1-2 baar bhi log apne ghar mai interference tolerate nahi karege. I don’t get is why rakhi is giving unnecessary weightage about Kavya is kinjal’s sasuma!

I like the part where she openly shared her concerns to anupama because no matter what anupama is real saans of kinjal and not kavya.

Tania I am staying in Ahmedabad...But my joint family is in Mehsana...We have a cook who cooks for 50 people everyday. We are sweet merchants, so everyday ladies are in the kitchen and men too. And saying No in a joint family is very difficult thing. We cant say no easily. Its a stereotype but this is a reality. There are lot of tantrums and all. So sometimes I feel Khud Kaam Kar Lo

Your whole post is true...Bang on

I come from a conservative family. Not so modern thinking you can also think it that way. But Rakhi's interference everytime is not tolerable. If Rakhi would have interrupted in my house, then it is a strict no...

Rakhi had all the rights to protect Kinjal before engagement but after marriage its Ghar ka Mamla. In real life the impact of what a mother says is more on daughter. The impact is greater than MIL's words. In real life no one is like Kinjal. Kinjal has a sense of right and wrong. But every DIL in real life is more attached to mother rather MIL. What if Kinjal was like Kavya and she will burn the whole home.

Rakhi doesn't want her child to do household work that's true. Nobody wanna be anupama at the end of the day. But u r working dont you do some work. Everyone has to do. I am also doing even though I am a daughter. In my home we work together. Kitchen is with us. Cleaning is with me. Gardening is with my father. Sweeping the compound is with brother. My Bhabhi is working but she is in the kitchen and other household chores like Kapde sukhana only. Rest will be handled by someone else. We have servants but only for Jhaadu Pochha

Kinjal is a sensible child. To do any work be it office or home interest is necessary. She worked with interest and thats what necessary. She is not doing work because she has to because she wants to. The family members need to learn division of work.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Yesss I like that maid idea but her concerns of asking kinjal to befriend with Kavya is completely baseless.

Kinjal is enough capable to manage Kavya.

Very true , 1-2 baar bhi log apne ghar mai interference tolerate nahi karege. I don’t get is why rakhi is giving unnecessary weightage about Kavya is kinjal’s sasuma!

I like the part where she openly shared her concerns to anupama because no matter what anupama is real saans of kinjal and not kavya.

Exactly aaj jab woh mixer wala fight hua usko tabhi samajh jana chahiye tha ki kinjal can shut Kavya's mouth in a second. She doesn't need anyone to handle kavya and we know kavya vs kinjal jab bhi hoga ghar main sab kinjal ka hi side lenewale hai, jab Baa uski side hai toh kavya kya hi kar legi. Aaj mixer tak leke chali gayi uske kitchen se aur kavya kuch nahi kar payi. God that was hilarious 😂😂😂

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

Tania I am staying in Ahmedabad...But my joint family is in Mehsana...We have a cook who cooks for 50 people everyday. We are sweet merchants, so everyday ladies are in the kitchen and men too. And saying No in a joint family is very difficult thing. We cant say no easily. Its a stereotype but this is a reality. There are lot of tantrums and all. So sometimes I feel Khud Kaam Kar Lo

Your whole post is true...Bang on

I come from a conservative family. Not so modern thinking you can also think it that way. But Rakhi's interference everytime is not tolerable. If Rakhi would have interrupted in my house, then it is a strict no...

Rakhi had all the rights to protect Kinjal before engagement but after marriage its Ghar ka Mamla. In real life the impact of what a mother says is more on daughter. The impact is greater than MIL's words. In real life no one is like Kinjal. Kinjal has a sense of right and wrong. But every DIL in real life is more attached to mother rather MIL. What if Kinjal was like Kavya and she will burn the whole home.

Rakhi doesn't want her child to do household work that's true. Nobody wanna be anupama at the end of the day. But u r working dont you do some work. Everyone has to do. I am also doing even though I am a daughter. In my home we work together. Kitchen is with us. Cleaning is with me. Gardening is with my father. Sweeping the compound is with brother. My Bhabhi is working but she is in the kitchen and other household chores like Kapde sukhana only. Rest will be handled by someone else. We have servants but only for Jhaadu Pochha

Kinjal is a sensible child. To do any work be it office or home interest is necessary. She worked with interest and thats what necessary. She is not doing work because she has to because she wants to. The family members need to learn division of work.

I understand your all the words Kosha!

I myself being working woman and daughter in law of someone’s house understands 2 points very well

• I am doing cooking and all the other management stuffs in my house. Being working, I give 9 hours to my office daily and rest of the time to my responsibility towards house so I am not at all in favour of not doing any domestic work. All my point is about mentality and selfish expectations from the daughter in law when there is lazy family members around. Maa baap humko kisi ke ghar shaddi kar ghar basane ke liye bhejte hai , lazy family members ki seva karne ke liye nahi. Responsibilities ke naam par itne saal anupama ko shah family ne exploit kiya hai and yahi mentality bahot sari families mai dekhne ko milti hai. I am against the EXPLOITATION MENTALITY.
• I completely understand bahu ke maayke walo ko sasural mai interfere nahi karna chahiye BUT “jab sasural khandani ho only tab” Yaha kinjal ka sasur extra marital affair karta hai, kinjal ki saans se talak le kar nayi biwi le kar aata hai, anupama ko ghar mai kitne samman se rakhte the yeh to sabko pata hai, jab jamai ki maa ki ghar mai maid jaise halat hai to uski beti ki kya halat karega aisi mentality vala lazy family!!!! Since usko shah family kitne paani mai hai yeh pata hai, agar usko maid ka idea aya toh bhi sirf kinjal ko suggest karna chahiye tha,direct maid bhejna nahi chahiye
• Mere yaha maine jaadu pocha wala, bartan wala and dhobi bhi hire kiya hai. I have no time to iron everyone's cloth like anupama did. I have no time to do afternoon bartan since it's my office hours. We do machine wash for cloths and later jo bhi available ho woh kapde sukhane ke liye taar par rakh deta hai.
• Meri family ko acche se pata hai ki mera sasural kitna khandani hai and humare yaha bahu sirf naam ki laxmi and kaam ki maid aisa scene nahi hai so my mother has no worries for me and there is no need to interfere to protect me.
• @bold red : I totally agree with the point. I hope jab mere bhai ki shaddi ho tab koi acchi ladki aye jo mere ghar ko todne ka kaam na kare.
  
  

Originally posted by: neo7

Exactly aaj jab woh mixer wala fight hua usko tabhi samajh jana chahiye tha ki kinjal can shut Kavya's mouth in a second. She doesn't need anyone to handle kavya and we know kavya vs kinjal jab bhi hoga ghar main sab kinjal ka hi side lenewale hai, jab Baa uski side hai toh kavya kya hi kar legi. Aaj mixer tak leke chali gayi uske kitchen se aur kavya kuch nahi kar payi. God that was hilarious 😂😂😂

Kinjal has guts to manage the things, it was hilarious and glad to see how kinjal managed kavya and mixer thing ⭐️Rakhi unnecessary senseless interfere kar rahi hai. I have confidence kinjal will handle kavya in future too.

Rakhi's role is limited to worrying for her daughter 😆May be this is the reason writers are writing such scenes for her😆otherwise she doesn't fit anywhere in the show 😆

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

I understand your all the words Kosha!

I myself being working woman and daughter in law of someone’s house understands 2 points very well

• I am doing cooking and all the other management stuffs in my house. Being working, I give 9 hours to my office daily and rest of the time to my responsibility towards house so I am not at all in favour of not doing any domestic work. All my point is about mentality and selfish expectations from the daughter in law when there is lazy family members around. Maa baap humko kisi ke ghar shaddi kar ghar basane ke liye bhejte hai , lazy family members ki seva karne ke liye nahi. Responsibilities ke naam par itne saal anupama ko shah family ne exploit kiya hai and yahi mentality bahot sari families mai dekhne ko milti hai. I am against the EXPLOITATION MENTALITY.

Bolded lines: Amazing. Anupama ke saath exploitation hua hai...

• I completely understand bahu ke maayke walo ko sasural mai interfere nahi karna chahiye BUT “jab sasural khandani ho only tab” Yaha kinjal ka sasur extra marital affair karta hai, kinjal ki saans se talak le kar nayi biwi le kar aata hai, anupama ko ghar mai kitne samman se rakhte the yeh to sabko pata hai, jab jamai ki maa ki ghar mai maid jaise halat hai to uski beti ki kya halat karega aisi mentality vala lazy family!!!! Since usko shah family kitne paani mai hai yeh pata hai, agar usko maid ka idea aya toh bhi sirf kinjal ko suggest karna chahiye tha,direct maid bhejna nahi chahiye

Now I get a clear view of your context

• Mere yaha maine jaadu pocha wala, bartan wala and dhobi bhi hire kiya hai. I have no time to iron everyone's cloth like anupama did. I have no time to do afternoon bartan since it's my office hours. We do machine wash for cloths and later jo bhi available ho woh kapde sukhane ke liye taar par rakh deta hai.
• Meri family ko acche se pata hai ki mera sasural kitna khandani hai and humare yaha bahu sirf naam ki laxmi and kaam ki maid aisa scene nahi hai so my mother has no worries for me and there is no need to interfere to protect me.

Same is the way my Bhabhi is treated at my house. BingoooooAnd that should be the way to treat a DIL

• @bold red : I totally agree with the point. I hope jab mere bhai ki shaddi ho tab koi acchi ladki aye jo mere ghar ko todne ka kaam na kare.

Milegi Milegi achhi milegi...majority people are well mannered...There are some evil people but we have the capacity to identify people

Yes I understand your context now much clearly...

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