Congratulations for the Barbaadi - Page 3

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Maa bus 10.20 baar instruct kar sakti hai phir aise bado bachon ko phir aapne aap samajh karna chahiye. Jub aise bade bache jub instruct dene pe hi kaam karenge

To maa to yahi kahegi ki tum logon se 50 baar kehne se acha hai main yeh kaam khud hi karloon

Jaise koi baccha lkg mein padh raha hai to use teacher bolti hai ki kitaab khol o copy kholo, likho. But jub student 10 standard mein jaata hai to teacher nahin kehti ki tum kitaab nikalo ise padho likho

Tub 10 tha class student apne hi bag se copy nikalta hai padhta kyonki us time bache ko kaafi samajh aa jaati hai

To khuch cheeje in age ke hisaab se apne aap aati hai batana nahin padta

Anupama ne to kabhi ek baar bhi instruct nahi kiya, 10-20 baar to bahot durr ki baat hai 😆

Jab bhi 15+ pakhi ne coffee sandwich manga, ek bar bhi nahi sikhaya ki khud ja kar banana sikho, thoda responsible bano, main nahi bana kar dugi.

Teacher to baharwali hai, nahi bolegi but agar mera 20 saal ka baccha book le kar mere samne baitha hoga but book kholega nahi toh mai to ek awaz de kar bolugi beta book kholo or padhna start karo .

Lol agar bacche kamchor besharam aalsi ho toh maa uski age ko dekh kar hath pair jod kar nahi baith sakti hai😆

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Maa bus 10.20 baar instruct kar sakti hai phir aise bado bachon ko phir aapne aap samajh karna chahiye. Jub aise bade bache jub instruct dene pe hi kaam karenge

To maa to yahi kahegi ki tum logon se 50 baar kehne se acha hai main yeh kaam khud hi karloon

Jaise koi baccha lkg mein padh raha hai to use teacher bolti hai ki kitaab khol o copy kholo, likho. But jub student 10 standard mein jaata hai to teacher nahin kehti ki tum kitaab nikalo ise padho likho

Tub 10 tha class student apne hi bag se copy nikalta hai padhta kyonki us time bache ko kaafi samajh aa jaati hai

To khuch cheeje in age ke hisaab se apne aap aati hai batana nahin padta

maine anupamaa ko 1 baar bhi instruct karte nahi dekha, 10-20 toh bohot dur ki baat hai.

And frankly, main aaj bhi kabhi kabhi, mummy bolti hai tab kaam karne uthti hun, warna apne office ke kaam main hi padi rehti hun. So agar mummy khud se bol degi ye kaam kardo toh isme koi badi baat nahi hai.

Aur agar age ke hisaab se nahi samajh aati, toh samjhao, naaki ki ram bharose raho ki samajh aayegi tab karenge kaam. Sab bhagwan bharose nahi choda jaata.

Originally posted by: neo7

Exactly my point, chokra nalayak bane toh tame ene sudharo and if u are not teaching them right thing, then u do not have right to cry that bimaar hun phir bhi mujhe saara kaam karna pad raha hai.

I know one thing if Anupamaa will tell them to do some work, they will not refuse, itna toh dekha hai maine, in that matter they are obedient, but agar saamne se nahi bol rahe ki hum madat karde, toh haq se bolo unko ye kaam kardo, naa ki unko sab haath main laa ke do. Isme Maa ki galti zyada hai bacho se.

And honestly, agar maa sab karke degi na, bache kabhi khud se kaam nahi karte, aaj bhi aar mujhe mummy kuch laake deti hai khud se toh main bhi aalsi ho jaati hun kaam karne main, its normal human tendency. But majaal hai mummy ne kuch kaam bola ho aur main manaa kar saku, bilkul nahi.

SO it is Anupamaa's responsibility to make the kids responsible, if they are not.

Muje bhi same lagta hai, agar anupama unke par responsibility daalegi to do some household work, they will not refuse but anupama ne apne baccho ko kabhi nahi bola ki yeh tum khud se karo, agar koi ready made sab bana kar hath mai la kar rakkhega toh koi bhi baccha kamchor ho jayega ,hum bhi kamchor ho jayege😆

Before marriage, my mummy was like aj tu yeh khud se sikh leh, aj to woh khud se sikh le, i was 24 but i didn't know how to drape gujarati saree, my mummy was like i know you will wear saree only on some pooja/occasion still you should know how to drape saree on your own without taking anyone's help for palla or anything. At the age of 24 i had learnt to drape gujarati saree on my own just because of my mother's insistence. I am glad i did it because it was helpful couple of times after marriage when nobody was around me to help me with saree on some occasions.

Yaha baccho se zyada galti maa ki hai ,anupama is never asking them to learn or do on their own.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Muje bhi same lagta hai, agar anupama unke par responsibility daalegi to do some household work, they will not refuse but anupama ne apne baccho ko kabhi nahi bola ki yeh tum khud se karo, agar koi ready made sab bana kar hath mai la kar rakkhega toh koi bhi baccha kamchor ho jayega ,hum bhi kamchor ho jayege😆

Before marriage, my mummy was like aj tu yeh khud se sikh leh, aj to woh khud se sikh le, i was 24 but i didn't know how to drape gujarati saree, my mummy was like i know you will wear saree only on some pooja/occasion still you should know how to drape saree on your own without taking anyone's help for palla or anything. At the age of 24 i had learnt to drape gujarati saree on my own just because of my mother's insistence. I am glad i did it because it was helpful couple of times after marriage when nobody was around me to help me with saree on some occasions.

Yaha baccho se zyada galti maa ki hai ,anupama is never asking them to learn or do on their own.

Seriously, kaamchor banne main time nahi lagta. Agar mummy na bole ya na sikhay toh ban hi jaate hai aise. Waise I can't drape saree khud se even today. Maari paatli sarkhi aavej nai.🤔

But khaana banana mujhe mom ne mere 10th ke vacation main sikhaya tha. And meri sisters ko bohot late sikhaya tha. So main toh mummy ko sunati thi mujhe itna jaldi sikha diya khana banana, unko kyun nahi sikha rahi, sab kaam mujhe hi karna padta hai😆 But the irony is that my both the sisters now love cooking and mujhe naya naya item banake khilate hai 😆

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Anupama ne to kabhi ek baar bhi instruct nahi kiya, 10-20 baar to bahot durr ki baat hai 😆

Jab bhi 15+ pakhi ne coffee sandwich manga, ek bar bhi nahi sikhaya ki khud ja kar banana sikho, thoda responsible bano, main nahi bana kar dugi.

Teacher to baharwali hai, nahi bolegi but agar mera 20 saal ka baccha book le kar mere samne baitha hoga but book kholega nahi toh mai to ek awaz de kar bolugi beta book kholo or padhna start karo .

Lol agar bacche kamchor besharam aalsi ho toh maa uski age ko dekh kar hath pair jod kar nahi baith sakti hai😆

@bold - lollsss we both wrote this line 🤣

Common aisa thoda hi hota hai itne bade bache 26 year ki samajh nahin ki use kya kaam karna. I Dont believe this

Age ke hisaab se bache ki mental growth bhi hoti hai

To kya toshu ki mental growth nahin hui ki woh thoda bahut kaam apne aap se kar sake

Yeh jo bade bache kamchorii kar rahe jaan bhuj ke kar rahe hain

Ki haan mummy to kaam kar he degi main kyon karoon

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Common aisa thoda hi hota hai itne bade bache 26 year ki samajh nahin ki use kya kaam karna. I Dont believe this

Age ke hisaab se bache ki mental growth bhi hoti hai

To kya toshu ki mental growth nahin hui ki woh thoda bahut kaam kar sake

Yeh jo bade bache kamchorii kar rahe jaan bhuj ke kar rahe hain

Ki haan mummy to kaam kar he degi main kyon karoon

Toh galti mummy ki na 15 saal ki umar se unko kaam karna kyun nahi sikhaya, wait kyun kiya ki 26 saal ka ho and agar mujhe zaroorat pade tab dekhenge. And it is better late than never. ANd abhi bhi khud se nahi samajh raha tohdaanto aur samjhao, bacho ko iss umar main daant kar samjha nahi sakte aisa kahin nahi likha.

Agar apne bache ki bhalai chahte ho toh koi bhi umar ho usse daanto aur sikhao kya karna chahiye, na ki apna palla jhaad lo usse, ki ab ye bada ho gaya hai toh khud hi samajhna chahiye, bhale hi mujhe dikh raha hai woh galat hai but main kyun bolu, 26 saal ka ho gaya hai ab.

Main chahte hoon yeh pakhi toshhu jaadu khud bhi anupama se poochein hum yeh kaam kaise kare

Sirf anupama hi nahin bula bula ke instructiion. De. Inhe khud bhi apne aap poochna chahiye ki kya kaam karna,

Maanlo ki anupama ghar mein nahin ho aur toshu ghar mein akela ho aur koi rishtedaar aa gaya toh kya jub anupama instructiion karegi tabhi kya toshu rishtedaar ko chai nashta dega ?

Maanlo ki khuch din ke liye anupama apne mayka chali gayi tub yeh toshu aur pakhi kaise kaam karenge

Jub anupama inhe phone pe instructiion degi tabhi yeh kaam karenge?

Meri maami ne kabhi apne bacchon ko instruct nahin kiya. Lekin woh sara kaam apne aap se karte theyyam

Yahan tuk ki mami apne mayka 15 din ke liye chali jaati thi aur unke teen bachche 15 , 22 ke they lekin woh mami ke bina khud khaana banate they jub ki mami ne kabhi instruct nahin kiya. Mami sara kaam khud karti thi

Yahan tuk ki mehmaan bhi aa jaayen to bhi mami bhi sara kaam khud karti thi

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Kavya to bahut khush hogi ki use khuch karna bhi nahin pada aur yeh sub apne aap chale gaye

Kavya tabhi hyper hoti hai jub uska vanraj use ignore karta hai. Ae long as vanraj is not ignoring kavya. Kavya shaant rehti hai kavya ko baa bapuji pakhi toshu yeh sub apni life mein kya kar rahe hain kavya ko isse koi matlab nahin hota hai

Aisa to hai nahin vanraj 9 year mein bus kavya ke saath raha ho . Vanraj to kavya ke saath affair hote hue bhi anupama aur family ke saath raha hai. Tub to kavya ne 8 saath kabhi hangama nahin kiya tum apne bache apne parents ke saath kyon rehte ho

Kavya ne hangama isliye nahi kiya kyonki us time vanraj kavya ko ignore nahin karta tha

Kavya ne tub hangama kiya jub vanraj ne kavya ko fully ignore kiya

Vanraj need to make balance vanraj fail to make balance between wife and parents .

Vanraj ko bhi responible banna padega. Aisa nahin hota ki anupama se shaadi hui to anupama mein kami lagi to anupama ko chod kur kavya ke paas gaye

Ab kavya mein kami lagi to vanraj anupama ke paas chale gaye

Ab kavya mein kami hai to ab kya vanraj kya teesri shaadi karega ??. Aise to koi na koi kami to life partner mein rahegi to aise kub tuk vanraj bhagega aur aise kub tuk shaadi karta, rahega

So vanraj need to compromise and adjust and make balance in relation ship

Jub tuk bahut badi baat na ho tub tuk marriage mein adjust karke rehna chahiye

Shaadi hai koi gudde gudiya ka khel nahin

Vanraj ne compromise kiya hota to baat yahan tak aati hi nahi. Ek hi shaadi mein woh khush hota

Originally posted by: neo7

Seriously, kaamchor banne main time nahi lagta. Agar mummy na bole ya na sikhay toh ban hi jaate hai aise. Waise I can't drape saree khud se even today. Maari paatli sarkhi aavej nai.🤔

But khaana banana mujhe mom ne mere 10th ke vacation main sikhaya tha. And meri sisters ko bohot late sikhaya tha. So main toh mummy ko sunati thi mujhe itna jaldi sikha diya khana banana, unko kyun nahi sikha rahi, sab kaam mujhe hi karna padta hai😆 But the irony is that my both the sisters now love cooking and mujhe naya naya item banake khilate hai 😆

Heheh mare b same issue hato, paatli sarkhi aavej nai , you tube videos mathi tips and tricks joi hati , that was helpful. Saree practice thi j avde. Apde to varas ma hardly 2-3 vakhat perta hoi atle pro ni jem perta no fave😆

That’s really good you know cooking from 10th std. I knew only basic cooking like gujarati rotli shaak thepla bhakhri.

After my engagement, I did resign from my job and stayed with my parents for 6 months before getting married. During those 6 months, I learnt punjabi/Chinese/ undhiyu and all. I was living in hostel since the age of 16 for higher education so I never got a chance to learn it early. I am glad I took break of 6 months before marriage so I got a much needed family time before marriage.

You are very lucky you have sisters 👯‍♀️