I don't understand what Anupama is trying to do - Page 2

Originally posted by: BeyondHorizon

For Anupama their marriage was over the day she got to know about Vanraj’s EMA. She put up with a show of being married for the sake of her in laws and kids. Yes she told Vanraj it will be her choice but she had probably made her choice and she said it today. In her mind she had divorced him that day itself. But she decided to stay in the same house coz of her family. Her choice was clear. Now that the cat is out of the bag, she is free. Anupama was being mature to advise her kids to think of him as a good dad and she knows Baa Babuji need Vanraj coz he is the care giver in the family. At least for now and no matter what happened between them she knows he had been a good son which is why she wants them to forgive Vanraj. She would have walked away from the house eventually had it not been for Babuji’s firm stand.

I completely agree with you. I feel proud of her to not give into negativity and be matured with everything but I don't understand her trying to stop Vanraj from leaving the house. Didnt she say herself that she will not leave the house as this is her house. I just feel all this is a bit confusing.

Originally posted by: Susan.Dsouza

anupama is not selfish she can clearly see baa , babu ji and her kids is not happy vanraj leaving here she is not thinking about her but here she thinking about family for her family is everything agar family sad hoge wo bhi kabhi khush nahi reh payege yes even first i want anupama to leave the house but i dont want this now after what vanraj said i want anupama to stay that house and show ravanraj usske bina bhi yeh ghar aram se chal sakta han only may b this make him realize what he lost

I am saying Anupama is selfish infact she is behaving the opposite. In fact I would have liked to see her selfish for the first time for herself and for her self respect.

Yes I want Anupama to show that Vanraj is not needed to run this house but without Anupama he cannot run this house. That would be a big blow for him.

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Yeah I would have liked to see her being up divorce first too...

But I’m happy after today’s epi where Baa asks her to forgive Vanraj and she refuses!

That scene was gold and I was so happy that she didn't give into the blackmail. I was kind of also surprised with the reality check that Baa gave to Vanraj about Anupama not being wrong and it was their fault that Anupama is like this today. I was really not expecting this from her. But her telling Anupama to forgive and move on I could clearly see. That happens most of the time.

Originally posted by: Lennie

Ever since Anupamaa found out about the affair, everything ended for her... like she said in todays episode... when she saw Vanya in the bedroom, on her bed.... that betrayal and all else, her relationship ended there and then. But what did not end was her relation with her in-laws, her responsiblity and love and care for them. She has given that house 25 yrs, more then her own mother's house... This is her home.... she has spent more them here then anywhere else and with her inlaws then her own parents.

And Vanraj day by day does something so low, that any respect remaining he loses - the dude has no respect left.

The things he tells Baa about how Anupamaa, has attitude, she took my house, she did this and that - Everything he says is what Vanraj has done and doing.. the one with the ego is him, the one with attitude is him. Still now he doesnt believe any of this is his fault - its hers. Now what can you tell this man, disgusting.

Agree.

Anupamaa time and time again, told Vanraj - that atleast have some thought about his parents and so on... but he cant even do that... his dad had a heart attack, two days later he is out roaming with his mistress. He gets the hump cos he was late to the diwali puja, instead of standing and praying - he shuns his family and aarti time, to go and sulk.

Even now, he thinks everyone shouldnt hate him, should talk to him, and blames Anupamaa on how they are behaving. The man is delusional.

Anupamaa also told him, that she wont tell his parents, but he should - even after Vanraj taunting her that he is going to marry Kavya, Anupamaa said - ok congrats, when is it - are you telling your parents - The man is coward.

He didnt have to leave... but he chose to, if he was that worried about his parents, he would of stayed but again he leaves knowing full well Anupamaa is there (just like he use to go to work, his affair, going cinema... all this he did knowing that someone is at home, taking care of his parents, house and kids) its why he has so much freedom and that man says he is suffocated - Excuses and more excuses.

Vanraj out of the house is better, cos that house can survive without Vanraj and his toxicity.

Anupama's thinking is not about marriage and serving her husband anymore - thats finished, and dead. But being there for her in-laws who she sees as her parents, and her kids. Keep caring for them and also do something for herself too etc

Totally agree. He is just not ready to accept his mistake with his big sized ego. I am like are you serious. Every like that Baa said yesterday about them being the reason why is like this was incredible.

Originally posted by: piyu008

I feel you, her scene with Bapuji... I was like - oh here she goes again.

Exactly how me and my mother felt while watching it. 😃

I get it she is being mature and all - but practically it is almost impossible to feel empathy for someone who did wrong and hurt you so much. You can get over it a little bit, but not in a short time. She first has to heal herself first.

I think writers themselves are confused trying to balance out her character of a woman who is trying to be strong - and at the same time a woman who loves her family to the point of sacrificing everything. Even while writing this - it doesn't make sense to me😆

Exactly. For now I would have liked to see Anupama making a stand but her going around trying to get Baa Bapuji to accept Vanraj and not let him leave this house. I mean on one end she says to Vanraj she will not leave this house this is hers and on other end she tells them to not let Vanraj leave this house. I just don't get that. Now if the writers had shown that Anupama is leaving this house but Bapuji stops her and says that you will not leave this house but Vanraj will I would have understood. But this I dont understand.

I do the point of leaving the house and agreeing to divorce. I mean - to her it is his house (Meanwhile the reason she gave was everyone's happiness - ya it is confusing 🤪) and she does not feel the connection anymore so her readiness for divorce doesn't bother me.

Same here.

Her staying back for kids and stuff - that is also acceptable. But I do think she needs to set a firm boundary - her decision to be herself - just 'Anupama' seems to be disappeared somewhere.

There is a pattern - first it was her 'Pati' and now it's her 'Parivar'. rather than blindly putting a priority on something she needs to find a balance.

And I do believe - whatever self-esteem we are seeing now is all thanks to Vanraj's continuous trash behavior. If he were to bend down a little - she might have given up - and would have back to the original Anupama. She still lacks a lot of self-respect.

Agreed. Frankly the makers cannot show Vanraj nice because if he bends down a little even audience will be like he made a mistake he is saying sorry. Then they couldnt show Anupama standing up in a way that she is now. I would have liked to see her eagerness for separation even if Vanraj says sorry. But since this is ITV we will have to settle for this.

Yes Anupama needs to work a lot on her and that is how the story should proceed.