What should I do?

Hi I'm new here😳 one of my friend told me about this site😳

I have a little problem or a big one😭

I'm in love with this guy and parents don't like him. the problem is that this guy my one of my cousin son, so he's like my cousin.we have been going out for 3 years now and he wants us to get married, my parents know about our relationship but they are against it. I love this guy as much as I love my parents😭 I can't leave my home for him cause I don't want to hurt my parents and I don't want to break up with him, cause I tried it many times but its hard😭 and we always get back together. My parents want me to get married to someone else and he told me that he will break the wedding😭

Please help me I really need help or some advice😭

~Nisha~

Originally posted by: Nisha2Sweet

Hi I'm new here😳 one of my friend told me about this site😳

Me too 😳 this is my first response in this section.

Originally posted by: Nisha2Sweet

I have a little problem or a big one😭

No biggie, this is just the begining 😆 only matter of deciding the route you got to choose.

Originally posted by: Nisha2Sweet

I'm in love with this guy and parents don't like him. the problem is that this guy my one of my cousin son, so he's like my cousin.we have been going out for 3 years now and he wants us to get married, my parents know about our relationship but they are against it. I love this guy as much as I love my parents😭 I can't leave my home for him cause I don't want to hurt my parents and I don't want to break up with him, cause I tried it many times but its hard😭 and we always get back together. My parents want me to get married to someone else and he told me that he will break the wedding😭

Please help me I really need help or some advice😭

~Nisha~

@ Bold - You cann't have a joy ride in both the boats, have to choose either one. @ Red Bold - Seems you have already decided what to do, in such cases any advices doesn't matter still some thoughts

1. Are you both independant and earning your own dough, most importantly can you sustain living independantly, if (God Forbidd) things went worse ?

2. What will be the impact of family, friends with your decision ? Is marriages in cousins allowed ?

3. Do you have siblings and any good/bad decision you make might impact them ?

4. Where do you see yourself 5 - 10 years in your personal and professional life, with either route ?

5. Should a loved one (bf) interfere in personal decision you make, if he really loves you, thinking from deeper persective of the word LOVE ?

6. Take a deep breath think about all this, take your time. Best is avoid dating or indulging much at family member when you in the process of deciding what to do, plan a good 2 - 3 days (if possible). Do keep the practical Vs Emotional aspect at 60 : 40 ratio.

7. Once you finally decide then go for it 100% either parents way or BF's way, no looking back, keeping in mind whatever will happen will be for good.

All the Best !!

Welcome to IF, hope u have fun!

Nisha I hate to be a bad news but whether its now or later u HAVE to make a decision. As raj5000 mention in above " You cann't have a joy ride in both the boats"

I know alot of people might see that falling in love with your cousin is wrong, well I don't think fallen in love is wrong BUT I hope this is actually LOVE n not a little crush.

you r in a bad situation and I hope everything works out👍🏼

Originally posted by: raj5000

Me too 😳 this is my first response in this section.

No biggie, this is just the begining 😆 only matter of deciding the route you got to choose.

@ Bold - You cann't have a joy ride in both the boats, have to choose either one. @ Red Bold - Seems you have already decided what to do, in such cases any advices doesn't matter still some thoughts

1. Are you both independant and earning your own dough, most importantly can you sustain living independantly, if (God Forbidd) things went worse ? Yes we both are working

2. What will be the impact of family, friends with your decision ? Is marriages in cousins allowed ? No not in my family, and if I do get married to him my family told me I'll be DEAD for them😭

3. Do you have siblings and any good/bad decision you make might impact them ? No I'm the only child

4. Where do you see yourself 5 - 10 years in your personal and professional life, with either route ? doing my career and I would love to be with him

5. Should a loved one (bf) interfere in personal decision you make, if he really loves you, thinking from deeper persective of the word LOVE ? Yes I think cause he have some rights to do it.

6. Take a deep breath think about all this, take your time. Best is avoid dating or indulging much at family member when you in the process of deciding what to do, plan a good 2 - 3 days (if possible). Do keep the practical Vs Emotional aspect at 60 : 40 ratio. I tried but its 50:50

7. Once you finally decide then go for it 100% either parents way or BF's way, no looking back, keeping in mind whatever will happen will be for good.

All the Best !!

thanks😭

Originally posted by: Angeleyes 2

Welcome to IF, hope u have fun!

Nisha I hate to be a bad news but whether its now or later u HAVE to make a decision. As raj5000 mention in above " You cann't have a joy ride in both the boats"

I know alot of people might see that falling in love with your cousin is wrong, well I don't think fallen in love is wrong BUT I hope this is actually LOVE n not a little crush.

you r in a bad situation and I hope everything works out👍🏼

thanks, I know I need to make a decision but its soo hard to do I don't know wat to do😭.

and I'm sure its LOVE