2 Friends, one Guy and Me... :-(

Hiya friends,

After a long gap i'm posting here...
Actually i urgently have to ask something...For the first time in life..i feel i need advice...😭

Okay i will tell you what bothers me... please read and afterwards can u give me ur views on this..?😳


Here goes...

okay i have 2 friends, i will call them A and B...and they both like one guy..and both tell everything to me..individually...I'm known as the adviser of the Group nah isliye..

Okay and what do i find out...they both love he same guy..uff..
and then when they ask me for advice..i'm like ab kya kahoon..😕
who should i give advice...? i mean both are my friends and how can i tell one..go for it...and the other forget him

Then i decided to ask the guy if he is seeing someone...but another girl who sits with him in the same class..told me he kinda has a crush on me...

so what now..?? i'm toh dead..i don't like him at all..and when my friends will know he crushes me..toh what will they think..?

and now i cant even ask the guy nah..coz what if he will say i love you..my god

i don't care if it;s true abt his feelings for me..i just don't want my friends to think anything wrong abt me regarding that...but u know..i think that will happen anyways...they will start seeing me as the rival😕

i do want to talk to them abt it..
but u know what..when i talk to one..she says plz don' tell the others( others coz we are in a group of 4--close close friends--we are called the fantastic four😛)
and when i talk to the other even she says that...so basically i feel as if i'm being dragged in and yeah i don't know..

i so want to tell them to talk to each other abt it..but i don;t know..it's dil da mamla yaar..what if they start looking to each other as rivals..?? i dont' want that to happen..

please tell....?? Thanks in advance😳

Love,
Gracella

ok gracy, heres what to do!! get together with ur two friends, sit down somewhere ( don't involve ur 4th friend right now... cuz ur friends don't want anyone else to know)
n talk it out.. tell them hey i have been trying to tell u guys something.. but didn't how to .. um soo the thing is that you both like the same guy. 😕 😕
tell them that they both have been asking u for advice but u can't betray either of them.

then tell them that their crush likes u ...MAYBE n ur not sure.. but thats what you heard, but you DON'T LIKE HIM AT ALL!!make it clear that u have nothing to do with that guy.
onc eu have done that, leave it upto your friends to make a decision... if they r good friends , they will probably both give up on him for the sake of friendship. if they do, then great!!awesumm :D

if they don't then theres gonna be some fight.. all u can do is put some sense into them that its not worth ruining ur friendship for a guy. they will surely understand!!


don't worry.. they wont blame u!! 😃
but do tell them everything ASAP, before they hear it from someone else!!

seriously, here's what you do. Block everything out and go to your happy place.

My friends seem to think of me as the adviser too. everyone keeps talking about their relationships and problems to me. I mean, im flattered really but is all the whining really necessary? So...I go to my happy place, if they ask me anything, i say the truth, and i let them vent

it helps, believe me..

this happened to me a while back exactly like this,

here is what i did,

i took the 2 guys up to a place where we all liked to go where we all felt relaxed and happy, i sat them down and said,

"guys recently you have both been coming to me and telling me you both like a girl, well the problem is you both like the same girl and well i was in a tight spot cos i am not gonna choose between yah so you 2 need to decide what happens now, all i will say is no girlis worht falling out over, also the other thing is that one of her friends has told me she has a crush on me which i dont want either of you too think i orchestrated cos i didnt for 2 reasons

1. i dont like her at all

2. i would never do that to any of my friends and you know this.

i left it at that and went home, later on they rang me and we went out and told me they decided not to bother pursuing her as our 20 year old friendship was worth more than a girl.

hope this helps gracy,

@ pinky good advice

all you guys gave great advices!! 👏 👏
Celia, as I love to call you..I would totally go with what kal-el..tht is the right way to go... 😊
Hope things work out for you.. 😳 😳

Great advices guys! I agree with Pinky & kal-el

Gracy i will come back later, but for now, Is there any need to tell them that he likes you?

As that can go wrong, they will say you are making this all up that he likes you as you secretly like him etc etc. 😳

And even if you said that girl told you, they still may not believe you 😳

So you kind of need to hint at each girl that the other friend likes him too, or have a girl night and topics of course leads to guys 😆 and then you can say oh so whose your crushes and let them find out from their.

Sometimes if to girls like the same person...they can be happy discussing him, ahaha...but this is their problem here after, anyways will b bk later with proper advice.

I 2 years back, was involved in one guy and 3 girls 🤣 kind of thing...but it was the guy who fancied all three of them 🤣 omg wat a looser....anyways he had stil feelings for the previous girl, end up liking me when i sed noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo 🤣 he moved on to the next and now me and the third girl we were pretty good friends then and now we are much closer as she is in our close circle of friends and sometimes we have a laugh even now about it😆

So if he claims he loves you do wat i do and say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO 🤣 Sometimes they still dont let go....lke another situation, i think gracy di i have been in every situation.

I can go on i know many situations or indirectly like you been in them. I have another one, lol will tell u laterzzz😳 same kind of thing 3 guys and girl😆

What i just do is the IDC attitude stay out of it or as if you dont know anything about it😳 Kind of works being naive about it😉

in the 3 guys and a girl, it was easier as i am not there to see them every day, just a few times every 2 years, lolll...but its like on goin since like 6 yrs

For me it was like just stay out of it kind of thing but when my two friends fancied the same guy they werent bothered as they werent goin to ask the guy out or anything so it was easier😳

All of u guys gave soo much of great advice..👏

I was in a similar kind of situation except that it was like that, my friend loved that guy but that guy had a crush on me.. Ur situation is much more complicated than mine. This is what i would have most probably done if i was in ur situation, just as pinks and Nug has said, call both of ur friend together and just tell them the truth that both of them have a crush on the same guy and ur torn between both of them. However make sure to tell them that they deserve much better and that the guy is most probably not worth them because what if both of ur friend start fighting for that guy now.😕 Leave the decision on them when u have told them.😳

However i agree with Saira, what is the need to tell ur friends thats the guy has a crush on u, they will most probably think that u have a crush on him as well thats why ur telling them this...Am sure u guys bond of friendship is very strong and it won't break up that easily...☺️

Gracy my Bachaa... yOu stuck in such a hOrrible situatiOn and in such cases we really need sum1 tO suggest the rite way fOr us... cOz there are nOt twO sides of stOry... there is just One side and thats friendship and On every side where ever yOu luk yOu have tO save yOur friendship...

Well... nOw yOu have tO realise that what is gOing On actually... yOu knOw sumthing!! God make cOuples and cOuple are just Of twO ppls.. sO when God nOt allOwed third One tO cum in between Of sum1 then hOw dO a man;s nature actually allOw him tO cum bw any cOuple... Or in simple wOrds, yOu can say, One Of them is nOt actually in lOve...

what yOu have tO dO is tO understand the nature of feelings fOr the guy, yOur friends(BOth) have... then make yOurself sure that which One is actually a cOuple sO tht yOu gO fOr the cOuple... 😊