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tanya

@tanyaaaa26

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

heelo friends this is my first post here as i really need ur advice and really be greatful to u guyz for helping me out

here is my frendship problem

supreet my friend i dont know weather she thinks me as her frend or not but i really care for her alot wenever she was in pain i felt that pain wenever she needed me i was standing by her side

but wenenever i needed her she was not there she always says that she also cares for me but my heart never felt that

i always liked her but she always ran after other girls

she is so sweet on phone but wenever she is face to face wid me she is not the one whom i talked on phone, last week their was a chritmas party in our skol she said all of our group frends to dance wid her but said to me very lightly and i was so keen to take her photos i took so many of hers andvery less of others.

she give respect to those girls who sometimes disrespect her but i always supported her but felt that she didn't like me that much that she liked others who didn't even done a single thing for her .i cried day and night for her from pas t one year .in this one year i many times became determined not to talk to her but again wen she's infront of me i melt .so i want to ask u guyz wat shud i do further how shud i handle this realtionship with her.

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love_vs_hate

@love_vs_hate

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Posted: 15 years ago

Hey Tanya! I really appreciates U that U always helped ur friend whenever she was in trouble , u always gave her respect and all that... I think U should keep ur self away from her for some days and try to make her realiz that why r u doing so... hey,if she don't like ur company , leave her, after somedays she will follow U... (in simple,usay jalaanay ki koshish karo) She thinks that she is superior more thn U and U r following her all the time... So,plz try to prove her this thinking wrong U r doing all that because of ur Friendship... aftr sum days maybe she will be fine.. and U should behave like other girls with her for somedays.. when she will be fine... She will must say that U were after all her best friend... If this formula doesnt work then tell us again we will think some thing much better thn this one idea.. best of luck... 😃

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tanya

@tanyaaaa26

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

thx love vs hate thx for the advice but i tried this formula nos of times and u know on phone she said i am her best frend but infront of ppl she is again the same and i stayed away from her and she called me many times and talked very sweetlty and melted my heart but once i am fine with her she is in her usual form again so wat to do now?/

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Harjot.

@Angel-Jot

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Posted: 15 years ago

Hey! I had the same situation with my friend. It was sort of simliar and i what i think is that your friend Supreet, is trying to fit in with other girls and i think she might be thinking that being too close to u in front of others would mess up her chance to try to fit in. You should talk to her, face to face and try to be better friends with the other girls Supreet hangs out with. If its still not working, let it go. If your friend does care for you, she'll come to you. I tried to fix everything with my friend and always hoped that someday everything will be like it was but people change yaar. When people change, friendship changes. Those girls might be a bad influence on your friends but leave your friend to decide what she wants after talking to her. Hope that helped. Good luck!! Maybe your situation might actually be cleared unlike of mine. :)

Luv,

~Jot~

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tanya

@tanyaaaa26

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

thanku so much jot for ur valuable advice

Edited by tanyaaaa26 - 15 years ago

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love_vs_hate

@love_vs_hate

Inactive

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

yeah,i also think that if she doznot gv u the importance then she is also not the girl who should gain ur importance, U will get more cool friends in future INSHAALLAH...!

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iwantitall

@iwantitall

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

ivee seeeenn sooooo mannyy ppl of thtt sortt yaaarr...

believeeee mee whttt u neeedd to do is tell herrrr

thhttt shee is juusss tryingggg to fit in widdd d oderss in vain

givee her urr opinionn

if shess flyingg highh she'll cuumm bakk dwnn

or ratherr let her learnn the tougher way

throughh experiencee

anddd showww her thttt whenn all her FAKE friends are gone

andd she cumss bakk on earth.. shee wont findd u waitnggg there

yaaarr i knwwwwwwit mussss b toughh

buuutt b stronggg... leaaaaaarrrnn frmmm urr mistakess

Dont givve a shit bout those ppl who dont give a shit about you!

anddddd frommm nwwww learnn to judge ppl

anddd be the bttrrrr judgee of who to hangg out widd!!

we are all here for u whenn u neeedd helpp swtyyyy

mwaaaahhzzzzz

sindhya

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tanya

@tanyaaaa26

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

thankyou so much sindhya u must have ssen ppl like her even i have but she is just too complex person whom one cannot understand there was a day wen her close frend was not talking to her and she came to me and i gave her full support(after all i was hurted by her then also i supported her)but wen her prob was solved she was again the same anyways i wud definately try to be strong and will try to leave her behind in my life!!

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Riya

@princessonline

Dazzler

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Posted: 15 years ago

Hey tanyaaaa26 first I just want to tell you that your not alone and a lot of people go through this in life, and I know how painful it is because I have been through it and seen many people close to me go through this and I tried helping them out. I know that the advice we give maybe quite hard for you to do, but its better then the day to day pain that you go through. I would also say to talk to your friend about this, but if you don't think you will be able to talk to her then I would say write her a note and tell her how she has changed from the time that you met her, how you have always supported her and stood by her when she needed help but when you needed the support and care from her she wasn't there for you, tell her how you feel inside maybe she will understand. If she still doesn't give you the respect that you deserve then I would say leave her no friendship is worth being hurt every singe day. I just want to say that if she doesn't see how much you have supported her and cared for her and goes to the other girls who have done absolutely nothing for her then she will never understand how you feel. All your friend wants is to be popular and that is why she is chasing those girls. She doesn't notice that shes loosing such a wonderful friend in her craze of becoming popular. My friend was exactly like yours, but I wasn't as great of a person as you are who tried to fix things and I just let her go and now I have such a wonderful. amazing best friend and I am so glad that I left someone that didn't value my friendship and I would give you the same advice. If she doesn't value your friendship now then she'll never understand and she'll do the same thing over and over again and there's no point of being friends with someone like her. When she sees how happy you are with your new friends she will defiantly come back and try to be your friend again but you'll be so happy with your new life with new best friends that you won't want to go back to her. Try to find new friends that love and care for you. I left that friend and I have the most amazing people in my life now and the bestest friends ever and it makes life so much better and easier. Friends are there to build up your confidence and make you feel special, friends are those people who will catch you if you fall and I think you should find friends like that for yourself. I wish all the best of luck and hopefully everything gets better for you in this new year 2010. Hope I helped you
Be strong you deserve way better then her.
I am sorry put so much of my story in it too, but it was just the way I could explain it.
Rhea

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tanya

@tanyaaaa26

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

#10

Thx rhea I think u r right from now I will try to be Be strong Enough to move forward in my life without her and thx for sharing ur story wkd me it was really encouraging.

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