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Arun - <--haa ji meri tasveer hai

@AsliiGuy

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Posted: 16 years ago

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No problem Megha behen, we are all here for each other..😳

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Believe

@-Believe-

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

I think we can advice to do this n that....But just wanna say...Relax your mind first,be +ve...I think your brother still not mature.....he still not see the life,hope he can change his mind and think positive,But your apporch with your brother should change...listen wat he says...understand his problem,try to care him,He need care n love...then try to convince the situation..Hope he will change..after all he is ur brother. cool yaar you can do it...best wishes...😊

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Aphrodite

@Showbizz

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Megha25
Thanks for your kind words EraN and Unnati.

I've decided to stay with my dad another semester because my dad needs me and I'm going to try not to let anyone get to me.

My dad's sisters or my aunts have called my dad to India to remarry. We're going to go and see her this year.

I'm hoping for the best. Will let you guys know if anything works out.

I think thats great news 😃 , hope your dad finds a very good wife who will support him and take care of him and also be a positive influence on you brother . All the best for your career .

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Mmm

@xsweetbabygyalx

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Posted: 16 years ago

#14

awww......you are doing the right thing by taking care of your dad, we are on the same boat on that part but I look after my mom. We pretty much are on the same boat except I don't have a brother.

I think you should search for a maid to ease your chores a bit while you let your dad search for a life partner because he won't be lonely and you can focus on your studies. My mom is also looking for a life partner and I myself am supporting her on remarrying because I want somebody to take care of her and love her while I work then go back to college.

about your annoying brother, try to ignore him. Try to explain to him that hitting dad isn't good, it's very bad. Try to take him to counseling to get some treatment to help him control his anger.

Best of Luck!

P.S. - keep me posted if my advice helps and things settle down at home. I think since your brother is a teenager, all teenage boys go through this stage but I hope he realizes his mistake soon.

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Eran

@umrao_jaan

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+ 3

Posted: 16 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: Megha25
Thanks for your kind words EraN and Unnati.
No problemo-always glad to help.😃

I've decided to stay with my dad another semester because my dad needs me and I'm going to try not to let anyone get to me.

My dad's sisters or my aunts have called my dad to India to remarry. We're going to go and see her this year.

I'm hoping for the best. Will let you guys know if anything works out.

I also hope for the best. And what about making your bro see a counsellor? That is very much needed.

Take care.

Love,
EraN

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Ophelia

@Ophelia

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

#16

We all tried talking to my brother, we tried being nice also (me, my dad, my aunt) but he doesn't even want to talk to us. We asked him to see a counselor but he doesn't want to go there. We can't force him can we? He only talks to his friends and stays in his room. We don't know much about his friends either.

But I think the best thing is for my dad to get remarried maybe my bro can bond with his new mom. But I'm afraid it might lead to heated arguments.

Now everything stable from before no arguments just silence from my bro's side. He got a new laptop and he's happy chatting with his friends.

Edited by Megha25 - 16 years ago

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Mmm

@xsweetbabygyalx

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Posted: 16 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: Megha25
We all tried talking to my brother, we tried being nice also (me, my dad, my aunt) but he doesn't even want to talk to us. We asked him to see a counselor but he doesn't want to go there. We can't force him can we? He only talks to his friends and stays in his room. We don't know much about his friends either.

But I think the best thing is for my dad to get remarried maybe my bro can bond with his new mom. But I'm afraid it might lead to heated arguments.

Now everything stable from before no arguments just silence from my bro's side. He got a new laptop and he's happy chatting with his friends.

omG.....this is a chaos.....may be seeking a psychiatrist might help.....my heart goes out for you.....i think since he's 17, i think all teen boys go through this dilemma of being irritated with everything around them.....does ur brother go out and chill with friends?

I don't think being nice would do the trick....may be he wants either some attention or some love.....i am pretty sure you, ur dad and ur aunt try best as u guys can to give him the attention and all the love but he's stubborn.

try to go outside as a family (u, ur dad, ur aunt and ur brother) to some fun places. Go out to eat once in a while. That might do the trick.

Best of Luck!

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Eran

@umrao_jaan

Inactive

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: Megha25
We all tried talking to my brother, we tried being nice also (me, my dad, my aunt) but he doesn't even want to talk to us. We asked him to see a counselor but he doesn't want to go there. We can't force him can we? He only talks to his friends and stays in his room. We don't know much about his friends either.

Why don't you or dad go and meet a counsellor first and explain about this problem? Then the counsellor will tell you how best to handle him. Miracles may not happen, but it's well worth giving it a try.

Wishing you all the best
EraN

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Arun - <--haa ji meri tasveer hai

@AsliiGuy

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: xsweetbabygyalx

omG.....this is a chaos.....may be seeking a psychiatrist might help.....my heart goes out for you.....i think since he's 17, i think all teen boys go through this dilemma of being irritated with everything around them.....does ur brother go out and chill with friends?

I don't think being nice would do the trick....may be he wants either some attention or some love.....i am pretty sure you, ur dad and ur aunt try best as u guys can to give him the attention and all the love but he's stubborn.

try to go outside as a family (u, ur dad, ur aunt and ur brother) to some fun places. Go out to eat once in a while. That might do the trick.

Best of Luck!

didnt catch those words...Good advice too.
I was not really close to some ppl in my family, but when you have fun things change...I think after you have fun and smile, you can say your true feelings and concerns because they will be listening carefully.

Also change of environment is good too, going somewhere else can have effects on ppl, our body is made up of chemistry and things do effect us, i.e. vibrations, color, sound and even light.

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Mmm

@xsweetbabygyalx

Explorer

Posted: 16 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: umrao_jaan

Why don't you or dad go and meet a counsellor first and explain about this problem? Then the counsellor will tell you how best to handle him. Miracles may not happen, but it's well worth giving it a try.

Wishing you all the best
EraN

I agree with Eran....when my little sister was out of control, we met a counsellor weekly, felt a bit of ease because we tried everything to calm her down....didn't quit worked the way we wanted to but it got us some help that we were looking for. She still gets out of control sometimes these days but we figured a way to keep her calm.

same here, also wishing you all the best.

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