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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: mesimi

Abhi is a normal human being

So far they showed his tolerance. Now he gets irritated about the secret she kept from him. Well didnt we all want this from him.

He could have stayed back at office but he honours her request so he came.

Obviously abhi and simi know the truth that simi was rejected multiple times since she is not smart and also fat.And when Abhi as husband already in foul mood regarding bhalla gets to hear about admirers in KB for his wife, since he knows about bhalla issue, he got irritated quickly.

Abhi is not god and picture perfect. They felt the need to show flaws from his side also. So they showed him walking off from lunch. Though not correct, I feel its okay.

Actually today was the first time their age gap issue in society was brought out. When Vishal asks about how they met in college and their love story, both are uncomfortable. Its the first time they both are presented with their age issue. That aggravated the situation for Abhi.

We love the character too much to accept flaws from him. But from a lover and boyfriend before, Abhi is a husband now. So things are different when it relates to Simi and him. She also din understand that and kept him in the dark. Not discussing neetu's issue with him earlier was okay since they were unmarried and it is not about herself. So okay if Simi did not tell Abhi about Neetu's pregnancy.

Today also Simi's demand was not correct. She tells him to take half day off for going for lunch. Its not milis wedding or betrothal.Well in 12/24 KB it is not even important if a father attends a daughters wedding. So why is Abhi needed for going for lunch to Vishals house. Manju saying that i promised them all will go, call abhi right now....whats all this? is Abhi their servant. So its okay the behaved. People have to learn. At least Mili pitched in saying he is in new job and will be busy learning his job so its ok she said. His own wife will not care about that. Wont Vishal's people understand if Simi says that her husband could not come because its his new job and so no leave was granted. Very funny wife and her family. How else will he behave? Simi knows he is angry so why then irritate him further saying...ghar ke damaad ho...responsibilty...etc. did he ever shirk his responsibilty, just not fair.

If Abhi was really mad at Simi, he should have left her and gone. He did not. He is readily caring for papaji, defends Sethi khaandaan in front of neighbors, is willing to face the society together for the mistake his sister-in-law did by getting pregnant before marriage. A little irritation on his part can be forgiven. He was not like this. Its Simi's fault that he has turned into an angry character. She better put up with this.

Simi has done enough damage to his reputation before they got married. Insulted him time and again, was willing to marry Nakul in spite of being married. All that while he has been there for her. He has left his home, his comfort, his people, his luxury, his belongings, his jeep, his money, his time, his energy and everything for her sake. The least a man will expect is peace which is also lost in serving 12/24 KB. There was no hurry for Abhi to get married. He would have had the time to comfortably seek a job, settle down and marry the girl of his choice. Its her indecisiveness that forced him to marry her even before he had a job and house. He had one. Thanks to Simi's indecisiveness or rather wrong decision in rubbing shoulders the wrong way with Nakul,Abhi never had his job and flat. Then whats the point in saying Abhi should think if not for Simi, where he would have slept that night. Well if not for Simi, he would at least be having a place to sleep. Thanks to Simi again.

So all of you saying Abhi should not react this way is expezcting too much from actually speaking a 22 year old guy. He is extremes in showering love and in anger too. Abhi does not lose the freedom to be angry because hei damaad of 12/24 or because he is Simi's husband.

ABHI IS FINE

Mesimi, agree with u r points.

I know many of them in this forum will be very angry with abhi, but yes mesimi as you said abhi's anger is valid also they are trying to show that how much everr matured he is at the age of 23 he still has the abruptness and anger of the person of that age.

Even manju one told simi, Abhi is young and his at this age his bolld is the boiling blood so have patience with him and treat him nicely.

Abhi is very very angry with simi , but he alo values him, during the chowki, he didnt want her to be sad m, so on mili and anujs request he wiped of her tears so as to show that he is not angry with her and can enjoy the rest of the evening, but still he was angry with her, inspite of every thing he gave RS tablets went to guruduwara, after coming back he knew if simi tries to talk he might melt so stopped her talk and told he wants to sleep,

when in the night she was waiting for food , he came and washed his hands and sat to have dinner that too when she told him to wash his hand anc come for dinner , yes he told her he cant take leave from work coz its his second day and ita a valid reason , she should understand , next day when manju tells to cal abhi , she could have very well said that he cann not come as its his second day, rather than just think of what to say , but he did come in the afternoon, so its ok , he is valuing her and at the same time he is showing anger , which is required .

rahter than keeping quiet she should have talked and been on abhis side. rather than just keeping quiet. Infact waht ever abhi is saying and doing simi deserves it

who will not get angry when he sees his wifes ex fianccee kissing his wifes name and flying the kite with her name on it , and making fun of her, and as at that time he cannot do anything rather than just stand there and look . and yes she has hidden al lot more things form him like kalawati thorwing garbage in front of their house, RB keeping loud music, RB sending his friends to brign ice at late night............................... she is still hiding things from him

also when he goes for lunch, his future brother inlaw asks how many people might have fallen for her , obviously he will get angry , as simi was a person who was rejected many times and he knows that, that too he knows with one man he is having a lot of problems and obviously he might be thinking wonder if she is hiding much more things from him.

yes he did a wrong thing by abruptly getting away from the table and walking of , but he did excuses himself as he knew if he sat for some more time he might talk more and give more sarcastic comments. so its good in a way to move out.

Infact simi deserves it as she really had taken him for granted in a way too much. and if her really resolves the issue as of now then simi will still be the same and wont change her attitude towards him and as of now its required. Simi did better value abhi , and as of now she has not shown her pacifying abhi or trying to make him understand the issue, she goes near him and just stands and asks un wanted questions .

He has never got angry before when she had done things with out asking him, but now its not the same , he is her husband and had all the rights to know each and every thing.

if she can hide such major things form him , then in future she will hide more. So i feel his anger is valid

he might have ben having a thought , incase he diddnt get the stay order , would she go to bhalla without abhis knowledge.. this is an obvious thi king which he might have in his mind and this might be aggrevating his anger to abhi.

Abhi is not a perfect man, he should get angry and will get angry on such things,and ofcourse he should be possesive about her....................hope fully very soon simi should also be possesive about abhi also.

and i am sure once very soon abhia nd simi will patch up, they will have a wonderful time together. and also between husband abnd wife there should be fights............................ :)

Edited by ssree - 15 years ago

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Rumi007

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Posted: 15 years ago

#12

I agree with you mesimi about the points you mentioned here but Abhi should not express his anger in front of others.There may many problems between husband and wife but they should not take it in front of other people.That may create a bigger problem.They should solve problem themselves.It's true that Simi's mistakes are very very bigger but they can solve it within their room.

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ssree

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Abhi himself is acting like a older person and not a 22 year old man.

he is acting as a jealous insecure prson.

Ofcourse he will act insecure , y wont he, just imagine in the morining it self he saw RB kissing the kite wiht simis name and talking nonsense, then in the afternoon , he heard vishal say that she might be having a lot of followers from the university till her house, where as he knows how insecure she feels about herself and she never talks to any guys ............ how come a sudden change

True Simi should not have asked him to take day off.

But before that when she was nice to him asking how did he react.ed?

give me space. Was he ever concerned how was simi's day at work.

of course he was concerned about simis work, he used to ask her , he used to make tea ,used to drop her to college, also was it the right time for simi to ask him what is he working as ......... that was one of the weired question, dosent she know what he is working as , if at all she diddnt know why couldnt she ask this when he went for the interview, what type of wife is she then she dosent know what he is working as

mesimi in real life pyar se pet nahi bharata.

He should value simi as she was not once upset with him when he was not working and alwys supported him just like he supported her.

Abhi is valuing her, other wise inspite of he telling her she wont come , why would he come for dinner, in vishal house abhi ans simi was sitting together also.

I can understand his anger. But talking such way when she is nice is not justified.

when we said simi was wrong when she asked him to do everything after asking her.

Now abhi is wrong acting like she has committed horrible crime trying to protect him from going to jail at least that was she felt and he proved her right.

di, simi has commited a crime by not telling him , is a very big mistake which cannot be taken lightly, Just imagine if he wouldnt get the stay order in time , wouldnt she go to RB. soi many things she him from him so many things she decided wioht out asking him, but he never said a single word andstood by her.

Abhi should not lecture about wife knowing to give space to husband.

She was just askingher wuestion without non stop, not even giving him a space to breathe.

Abhi was very wrong treating and humliating simi in front of strangers.

agree that was wrong , but thats the difference they are showing , but he did say sorry and he left from there

i hate the man with master's mentality considering their woman their slaves.

we live in 21st century where man and woman are equal .

Abhi never considered simi as slave, he alwyas helped her, he never gave her any work and never treated her as a slave at any cost , . he has all the right to be angry with her and thats it .......... his anger is justifies and also there is a saying where there is fight there is only there is love .

can any one tell me when did she try to prove herself, and try to pacify him, she diddnt and is not even making an effort to get him back, here as she herself should have done it long time , the very time he got angry and left the house

once they showed her imagining, that she is talking to abhi and saying sorry to him that too b y crying , so it proves she herself know that when she cries abhi melts and will be with her , also the excuse she gave him ( even if she was imagining ) was that there are so many problems at home , and if he dosent talk to her, she is worried and she dosent have anyone with herside.. so is it that she wants him only when needed and not otherwise ????

Edited by ssree - 15 years ago

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ramas

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Posted: 15 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: rumi005
I agree with you mesimi about the points you mentioned here but Abhi should not express his anger in front of others.There may many problems between husband and wife but they should not take it in front of other people.That may create a bigger problem.They should solve problem themselves.It's true that Simi's mistakes are very very bigger but they can solve it within their room.

I totally agree with you there. especailly not in front of simi;s younger sister's to be in laws since abhi though younger is currently in the postions of oldest son in law. who should be helping relation not hurting by creating wrong first impressions. Mathurs were shocked listening to abhi even though he said sorry and excuse me.

Abhi should have at least pretended to be happy for mili's sake. Mili has always helped him.

vishal complemented Simi he should have been proud vishal is talking about his simi.Abhi should not be thinking about scum bag like bhalla.

He should have said excuse me I will be right back rather than I should be going.

Abhi is letting RB affecting their relationship and exactly falling in his trap. he should realize waht happened with Simi and what is RB doing right now is totally different thing and keep tehm seprate and try to find a solution to how to keep RB away from simi rather than accusing of her of hiding more things from him. Simi is in double whammy at the moment she is subjected to Abhi's anger and more humiliation from RB.

Rb wrote a dirty note and simi hid it but right now RB is openly kissing a kite name Simi in front of Abhi's eyes. So waht is abhi going to do to stop him that is what he should be thinking.

Is he going to let RB get away humiliating Simi worst way and keep accusing simi?

I don't understand this attitude at all. i know he can not beat him up . But he has to think calmly and find a way or at least think of taking simi away from there.

He should be the one protecting simi rather than get her subjected to more such RB's sick behavior.

Edited by ramas - 15 years ago

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Jenila

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Posted: 15 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: ramas
I totally agree with you there. especailly not in front of simi;s younger sister's to be in laws since abhi though younger is currently in the postions of oldest son in law. who should be helping relation not hurting by creating wrong first impressions. Mathurs were shocked listening to abhi even though he said sorry and excuse me.

Abhi should have at least pretended to be happy for mili's sake. Mili has always helped him.

vishal complemented Simi he should have been proud vishal is talking about his simi.Abhi should not be thinking about scum bag like bhalla.

He should have said excuse me I will be right back rather than I should be going.

Abhi is letting RB affecting their relationship and exactly falling in his trap. he should realize waht happened with Simi and what is RB doing right now is totally different thing and keep tehm seprate and try to find a slotion to how to keep RB away from simi rather than accusing of her of hiding more things from him.

Rb wrote a dirty note and simi hid it but right now RB is openly kissing a kite name Simi in front of Abhi's eyes. So waht is abhi going to do to stop him that is what he should be thinking.

Is he going to let RB get away humiliating Simi worst way and keep accusing simi.

I don't understand. thsi attitude at all. i know he can not beat him up . But he has to think calmly and find a way or at least think of taking simi away from there.

He should be the one protecting simi rathe than get her subjected to more such RB's sick behavior.

I agree that Abhi did wrong, but he excused himself and even he said allow me to go, becoz he knows if he would have sat there more, then he would have said more, which will be an insult for the sethi family, and as a damad it is his responsibility to take care of the family.

Every Man or Husband is possessive about there wife, it is really hard to make up the mind, when his beloved wife has kept the secret of of RB proposal. It will be haunting him becoz he has nothing with him ( Parents & sister loves, home, all other luxuries). He lives for simi & his soul is simi, if his soul is only fooling him, then what is the use.

Di, Abhi has protected simi every time, every moment, whether it was from RB, Nakul & every body.

Its now simi's time to prove her love to Abhi and do Maanaving.

Abhi is suffering more rather than Simi.

Iam sure he is gonna do some plan against Bhalla and simbhi are going to patch up very soon.

Edited by Somini - 15 years ago

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ramas

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: Somini

I agree that Abhi did wrong, but he excused himself and even he said allow me to go, becoz he knows if he would have sat there more, then he would have said more, which will be an insult for the sethi family, and as a damad it is his responsibility to take care of the family.

Every Man or Husband is possessive about there wife, it is really hard to make up the mind, when his beloved wife has kept the secret of of RB proposal. It will be haunting him becoz he has nothing with him ( Parents & sister loves, home, all other luxuries). He lives for simi & his soul is simi, if his soul is only fooling him, then what is the use.

Di, Abhi has protected simi every time, every moment, whether it was from RB, Nakul & every body.

Its now simi's time to prove her love to Abhi and do Maanaving.

Abhi is suffering more rather than Simi.

Iam sure he is gonna do some plan against Bhalla and simbhi are going to patch up very soon.

yes Abhi always protected her when he was not even her husband and that is why we all fell in love with him . But now that he is her husband. I hope he puts aside what he is feeling right now about Simi and thinks about her safety. RB is going to be more aggressive if he is not stopped and we all know it.

So the best thing for now is think aout simi's safety. RB already proved to abhi he is not afraid of him any more. He may have to take some legal action or restraining order accusing him of harrassing his wife or something worst and trap RB in his own game.

Simbhi has to work together to solve this problem. Before RB really harms Simi.

Abhi should be thinking why simi was so scared when he held her after coming back home from business trip. She thought it was RB and that is why she was so scared. meaning even Simi is afraid.

Abhi should be thinking about this. That even simi is scared that RB may harm her.

Edited by ramas - 15 years ago

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Dhabu89

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: ramas
yes Abhi always protected her when he was not even her husband and that is why we all fell in love with him . But now that he is her husband. I hope he puts aside what he is feeling right now about Simi and thinks about her safety. RB is going to be more aggressive if he is not stopped and we all know it.

So the best thing for now is think aout simi's safety. RB already proved to abhi he is not afraid of him any more. He may have to take some legal action or restraining order accusing him of harrassing his wife or something worst and trap RB in his own game.

Simbhi has to work together to solve this problem. Before RB really harms Simi.

Abhi should be thinking why simi was so scared when he held her after coming back. She thought it was RB and tha tis why she was so scared. meaning even Simi is afraid.

Abhi should be thinking about this. That even simi is scared that RB may harm her.

Agreed that Abhi needs to protect Simi now more than ever and I think no matter how mad he is he will always protect her from the likes of Bhalla....So no worries there....He is a gentleman thru and thru

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Shankar

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

One thought -

If Abhi cannot be flawess, neither can Simi

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Bana

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Posted: 15 years ago

#19

A bit late to be weighing in on this subject when soooooooooo much has already been said, but here goes anyway...

Simi asking Abhi about his job and what he does is typical - usually after a husband-wife fight and some silent treatment isn't this how we try to break the ice, with safe non-controversial neutral questions or remarks, often inane small talk. Simi was just trying to ge the communication going by getting him to say something, anything! So I wouldn't crib about what she asked.

On the other hand, her pointing out to Abhi that he is the damaad and has some duties towards the family (to attend the Mathur lunch) was the outside of enough! How dare she tell him that - after all he has done for them even before they married, he is the very last person to shirk his family responsibility (actually he is only their damaad not their son and doesn't have to be part of all their chota-mota functions), and she of all people should know that and feel the weight of his goodness every minute. Instead she insults his goodness and dutifulness by calling it into question - that was unforgiveable. If I were Abhi I would have walked out when that was said.

No love can survive such utter and continuing lack of appreciation by one spouse of the other.

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nirmala

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Posted: 15 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: Bana
A bit late to be weighing in on this subject when soooooooooo much has already been said, but here goes anyway...

Simi asking Abhi about his job and what he does is typical - usually after a husband-wife fight and some silent treatment isn't this how we try to break the ice, with safe non-controversial neutral questions or remarks, often inane small talk. Simi was just trying to ge the communication going by getting him to say something, anything! So I wouldn't crib about what she asked.

On the other hand, her pointing out to Abhi that he is the damaad and has some duties towards the family (to attend the Mathur lunch) was the outside of enough! How dare she tell him that - after all he has done for them even before they married, he is the very last person to shirk his family responsibility (actually he is only their damaad not their son and doesn't have to be part of all their chota-mota functions), and she of all people should know that and feel the weight of his goodness every minute. Instead she insults his goodness and dutifulness by calling it into question - that was unforgiveable. If I were Abhi I would have walked out when that was said.

No love can survive such utter and continuing lack of appreciation by one spouse of the other.

very true 1000% correct

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