Kubler Ross - Stages of Death

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According to Kubler Ross, when we lose someone or something, we go through five stages.
The progression of states is:
1. Denial - The show is fine; this can't be happening. I'll give it time. If I am patient, they will change the show.
2. Anger - How can this be happening! What are the creatives doing? I can't stand the show anymore.
3. Bargaining - If I agree to remain a loyal fan, plead with the creatives, perhaps they will change the show.
4. Depression - I can't believe what they've done to the show!! This is horrible. The show is truly doomed.
5. Acceptance. - I can't fight it anymore. I might as well be prepared for the worst. But I am going to be OK.
I have sent emails that you guys have written here to the CVs, the stars of the show and the producers. I am at the point where I am no longer going to do anything. I have reached what we call the stage of acceptance and that is to accept that this drama is at it's last legs. We will NOT see anything change. We either accept it for what it is or stop watching. I have sent emails agressively for over two months and the show continues to have Maha Simi sacrificing all day long.
Even today when Abhi asked her about her dreams, she didn't say one word about Abhi in her dreams. Well, I guess that about says it all. She evidently didn't care about getting married to a guy of her choice right from the start. She might as well have married RB.
See guys, for me, even if she does not sleep with RB, it doesn't matter. The fact she agrees to do it and all for the sake of her family EVEN if it means losing Abhi, that is sad, truly sad. I am also frustrated at seeing Abhi's charcter getting ruined each day.
As for the rest of the show - the characters of Anita and Anuj - performed by two of the strongest actors on the show after Alka Amin - have been wasted. Omi-Neetu-Nakul-Vicky storyline is so boring, I fast forward all the scenes.
So I accept that we will not see anything different. May be, just may be, 10 years from now, someone who has not got much clout in Zeetv will read these posts and emails. When he/she gets his or her break, he/she will remember these comments and bless us with one classy drama. They will resurrect the characters of Abhi and Simi (or something similar) and give us the drama we wanted. Until then...this is it.

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Avatarana09 thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Currently i am in stage 3. now and then i reach stage 4 but i get back to stage 3. but very soon i will reach stage 5
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Very well put Laila and the beautiful stages…of life … worth framing. Now as you have accepted the fact that the show has no legs to stand on says it all about the sun shiner's that another loyal viewer has wandered off.
I fully agree with you the under the blue moon sky was so wasted and I have put it in one post They were on the charpaii under the blue moon and counting stars and talking about the whole world when this should have been their moment and the rest of the world can wait. I wass extremely disappointed at the creative's to have wasted another magical moment and drowned us again in the three days torture of the next episode.
Laila there are many issues with show based on the values it spreads. Our Indian society and all others as well survive and are built on the basis or MARRIAGE. For us it created kinsmen out of strangers, and in our culture it turns hostile outsiders in to INLAWS OR SAMDHIS and that is a very special bond so why are these show never show the reality of it but always turn it in to the jhagra.

Here I do not see that and the culture and the social values are gone. Even the being civil or cordial to each other is missing. Marriage helps families multiply their social capital. The INLAWS may or may not like each other but at least by marriage imposes a set of reciprocal obligations on them to be united in sad and difficult times and partly responsible for each other's well being. I truly thought we would see all that in this show with the promises were made ,but so far as once you put it is written on the back of a napkin. These are just some of my thoughts.

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Posted: 15 years ago
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hey laila..ross would get so wierded out tht we are using her stages of death and grief for a show...lol...
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: anu rulz

hey laila..ross would get so wierded out tht we are using her stages of death and grief for a show...lol...

The stages go back and forth and can apply to any type of loss. I see myself moving between Stage 3 and Stage 5. I keep hoping that something will change; that if I just find the right person on KB via FB, then I can make that change, but I need to finally let go and just accept the show has died and what I had hopped to have seen will never have happened...
Laila
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Laila Well I think for me its the stage 1 to 3 ..

Its mainly Simi's character

They have not kept her storyline proper.. Other reform but her character seems to be getting bad to worse..
Understood she is the oldest daughter of the house
So what arn't there many families where the oldest daughter is there but once she is married she has more responsibilities towards her husband

Simi being married is as good as not being married

Abhi is not her strength she think she can make decisions herself without anyone's help and thats what she has been doing
Never thinks that she has some consideration for her husband
He is took good for her and even if he gets angry he cools down but she never understands the greatness..

No appriciation in the form, of thankyou or make him happy by making some manpasand dish or somthing

They don;t even look as if they are a married couple

If the stopry is about a family living in 12/24 KB then give proper attension to the pairs who form this family of 12/24 KB

They give a good amount of attention to arguments between Anita and Anuj, Problems faced with neetu and Omi and now they are getting close

Then why such a unstable treate,ment with Abhi and Simi

Abhi is always on the doing side for Simi and she never appreciated his affection or make him feel that he is actually her husband
There is no maturity in their relationship..

There is total lack of proper scripting in this pairs acting which truly dissapoints me !!


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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: dolly9180

Very well put Laila and the beautiful stages'of life ' worth framing. Now as you have accepted the fact that the show has no legs to stand on says it all about the sun shiner's that another loyal viewer has wandered off.
I fully agree with you the under the blue moon sky was so wasted and I have put it in one post They were on the charpaii under the blue moon and counting stars and talking about the whole world when this should have been their moment and the rest of the world can wait. I wass extremely disappointed at the creative's to have wasted another magical moment and drowned us again in the three days torture of the next episode.
Laila there are many issues with show based on the values it spreads. Our Indian society and all others as well survive and are built on the basis or MARRIAGE. For us it created kinsmen out of strangers, and in our culture it turns hostile outsiders in to INLAWS OR SAMDHIS and that is a very special bond so why are these show never show the reality of it but always turn it in to the jhagra.

Here I do not see that and the culture and the social values are gone. Even the being civil or cordial to each other is missing. Marriage helps families multiply their social capital. The INLAWS may or may not like each other but at least by marriage imposes a set of reciprocal obligations on them to be united in sad and difficult times and partly responsible for each other's well being. I truly thought we would see all that in this show with the promises were made ,but so far as once you put it is written on the back of a napkin. These are just some of my thoughts.

Exactly They were alone they had time they cud have spoken some romantic things since she was'nt thinking abt her Rb proposal .. Some nice romantic thoughts like now that Anita is pregnant or even faking .. He could just say Aab Ghar mai Kushiyaa Ayeegi .. Mai mama banooga aur tum mami .. Pata hai bachpan mai somthing he could have spoken and she could have also continued Something yuaar to bring some sparks

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