'Cougar' couples in bollywood

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Desi cougar couples grab the limelight

New Delhi February 5, 2010

Preity Zinta and Indian cricket captain Mahendra Singh Dhoni shot for an ad-film and in the process joined a unique list - though strictly in showbiz terms - of India's cougar couples.

A cougar couple is one where the woman is older than the man by around eight years. Thirty six-year-old Preity happens to be at least seven years older than Dhoni.

The ad- film they shot, for a cooking oil brand, had the couple donning a Gladiator- inspired look. While Dhoni is dressed in rugged warrior attire, Preity flaunts her figure in body- hugging silver gear with a red cape. The theme of the soon- to- be- aired commercial is cricket.

"Women now are more independent than ever, so the audience is slowly learning to accept a reverse age difference in relationships projected on screen - even cougar couples. No longer is life stuck in the rut where a woman, donning a sati-savitri image, has to be younger than the man in a relationship," says ad guru Prahlad Kakkar, who directed the commercial.

Come to think of it, while Bollywood is not quite up to it yet, cougar couples have incidentally been visible on Indian television, ironically considered a regressive medium by many.

On the Zee TV soap Astitva, Nikki Aneja as Dr Simran marries Abhimanyu Saxena (played by Varun Badola), who is 10 years younger than her according to the script. And in 12/ 24 Karol Bagh , Simmy (played by Smriti Kalra) romances Abhi (Neil Bhatt), who is eight years younger than her.

Interestingly, Preity is the first actress to strike a cougar match on screen.

Social acceptance apart, Preity and other senior actresses are in the mood to team up with younger men because right now in Bollywood, a new set of much- younger actors, including Ranbir Kapoor, Shahid Kapur and Imran Khan, are emerging as superstars.

In Bollywood of late, the most notable instance has been Konkona Sen Sharma pairing up with Ranbir Kapoor in Wake Up Sid! . Although Konkona, at 31, doesn't strictly qualify as a cougar opposite the 28- year- old Ranbir, it was a rare example of reverse age difference in casting.

Also, Bipasha played 28- year- old Neil Nitin Mukesh's girlfriend in Aa Dekhe Zara despite being three years older to him. In the recent past, 32- year- old Vidya Balan romanced Shahid Kapur, 29, in Kismat Konnection. Shahid also romanced 32-year-old, Rani Mukherji, in Dil Bole Hadippa. The trend is interesting, considering senior actors such as the Khans and the likes of Akshay Kumar and Hrithik Roshan are constantly insisting on being paired with much younger girls such as Deepika Padukone, Kareena Kapoor, Asin and Zarine Khan.

"Showbiz is increasingly depicting such love equations because viewers are ready to accept bold women," says filmmaker Jag Mundhra. " Since no one expects a modern day girl to be a copy of the fifties woman, age issues are finally vanishing." Adds Kakkar: " When it comes to showbiz, a lot depends on the script and the filmmaker's vision. Also, how a girl looks is what matters instead of age difference. For example, Preity shares an amazing chemistry with Dhoni in the ad." There are several real- life examples of reverse age difference couples in Bollywood. Saif Ali Khan was 12 years younger than his ex Amrita Singh. Nargis and Sunil Dutt were separated by just a year, while Aishwarya Rai is older than Abhishek by three years.

http://indiatoday.intoday.in/site/Story/82561/Cinema/Desi+cougar+couples+grab+the+limelight.html

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This was an interesting read, bollywood so far hasn't really experimented with "cougar" couples a term which I heard for the first time😆. Beacuase in Bollywood, the actors have to be the main lead, so an older girl would look odd. But in TV, actresses are the main lead, so it works to have them old. But I still think many people would pick a normal couple over a "cougar" couple.

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ramas thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
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hmmmmm interesting I hear the term first time myself. And I am surprised most girls are 2-3 years older and it is mentioned. What about male actors working with 10-20 years younger actresses. Why was that never a issue?
No one bothered or cared to write about it.
I am really upset at this doglapan of our society.
any ways that is not the issue here.
Look at the age diff between saif and kareena . Do any one care to mention them.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Ashwariya is five years older than Abishek. I believe that Rani, Bipasha etc are probably older than their ages - add three-five for each actress. Rani so does not look in her early 30s and Bipasha is 27? Give me a break. Actresses are notorious for lying about their ages.

What is not mentioned is that age differences are one thing, but the age the couple are at is also an issue. A 22 year old and 30 year old woman is rare. I have seen very few cases of this even in the west - Niaomi Watts and Heath Ledger and Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake. In both of these cases the women were very good looking and so the attraction was understandable. However with Simi and Abhi it totally defeats me. It's as though the writers said, let's have a couple with an age difference. Let's not even bother about give a reason for the guy to like her, he just falls in love with her. Heck, let's not even waste time with a make-over. Indian audiences are so dumb they can be fooled and will by anything. And tragically that is what has happened time and time again. It's just a few people like Bee, Belle, and myself (from my memory) who has issue with it and a few people on this forum insisted that we accept the age difference without question because Abhi and SImi were a cute couple and that we were "age discriminating" and didn't understand that love could happen between two people blah blah blah.
Guys, the key thing in all those cases in the article is the guy was over the age of 24/25 and that it is when the brain becomes the "adult brain" and before then, even if the guy is an adult, he's not fully adult. So in a wierd way, Abhi, despite his maturity is a kid😕
The show is dumb period. I have completely lost interest in it. There is nothing new or orginally. The first three months were great and the past two (December and January) were awful. I don't expect much to happen and it's all going to be very predicatable. As for the Simi - Abhi chemistry, I've seen more interesting things growing on bathroom tiles.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Thanks for the article !! I agree wth Laila abt the way being young is dealt in the show
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Ok guys, it's really a bit annoying about the double standards in Indian society. I've been married almost 18 years now, and there's a 7 year age difference between my husband and I (he's the older one). Now this is not viewed as being in ANY way abnormal BUT, if it was reversed, there would be WAVES of dissapproval emanating from all corners of our sphere of friends/relatives, and even amongst aquaintances of aquaintances who hear about it.
When it is accepted that love is blind, does it really matter who is older and who is younger in a relationship? It's just a male chauvinistic societal norm that the guy has to be older in a relationship, more so in Indian society since you are supposed to respect an older person, just because they are older than you whether they are worthy of respect or not (This being another issue entirely of course :] ). So by making sure the guy is older, society ensures that the norm of chauvinism continues. This is the part that I find annoying, since it's smacks of double standard hypocrisy!!! Well, that is my personal opinion anyway... hope I did'nt ruffle too many feathers! Lol :)
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Originally posted by: s.munagala

Ok guys, it's really a bit annoying about the double standards in Indian society. I've been married almost 18 years now, and there's a 7 year age difference between my husband and I (he's the older one). Now this is not viewed as being in ANY way abnormal BUT, if it was reversed, there would be WAVES of dissapproval emanating from all corners of our sphere of friends/relatives, and even amongst aquaintances of aquaintances who hear about it.

When it is accepted that love is blind, does it really matter who is older and who is younger in a relationship? It's just a male chauvinistic societal norm that the guy has to be older in a relationship, more so in Indian society since you are supposed to respect an older person, just because they are older than you whether they are worthy of respect or not (This being another issue entirely of course :] ). So by making sure the guy is older, society ensures that the norm of chauvinism continues. This is the part that I find annoying, since it's smacks of double standard hypocrisy!!! Well, that is my personal opinion anyway... hope I did'nt ruffle too many feathers! Lol :)

I totally agree with you. even my huby is 5 years older than me. and that is perfectly all right. my brother and brother in law married a girl 8 years younger and that was ok.
Why eyebrows are raised when girls are older and so much storm is created by relatives friends and family members.
I hope trend and mind set cahnges now that we will live in 21st century. How long we will live with such old fashioned ideas.
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hi everyone.......hope all are doing fine.......a very Happy New Year to all of you.........i agree interesting article and I too heard this term for the first time....cougar couple........not heard of many such couples in real life atleast apart from these celebrities.....and i agree with Raksha these double standards in our society is pathetic.......and Laila I agree with you totally......what did a young handsome rich guy like abhi see in an elderly not so good looking woman like simi...totally beats us....but its this thrill factor and their chemistry which attracted me in the first place in this show.........when i went home not one of them whom I know watches this show...so that means the makers can't fool Indians easily 😉..its we NRIs i guess who have been taken for a ride😳...anyways i used to watch back home and Mom too along with me saw a few episodes......just loved the way RS stands up for them and their relationship........but somehow I fear slowly I am beginning to lose interest though not totally and since now I would be interested in joining in the discussions will still watch it..........I really don't know when simibhi will be happy together 😕......really waiting to watch that........

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I liked what all of u have written in this thread and what ever is written is true and agree up by me 😉.

we know the age difference of celebrity couples because they r in lime light and what ever they do it will be taken by the media, where as common man does any thin no one is interested.
now evben in may channels they show the love of couples the girls alder than the boys ( i have noticed it in 2-3 other show. just recently started ) so i think the trends are changing .....😉
I personally know many couples whose wife is 2-3 yrs older than the husbands, and many gor married 15-18 yrs before, so even at thet time there used to be such marriages, but no one took into so much consideration,........... toady we are taking and thinking about this age difference after 12/24 KB show started. and in this show we dont mind the age difeerence of abhi ans simi because of these two onsreen chemistry and their cuteness ans innosence. but if it was in real life we would really have our comments.
( but we still wouldnt want simi and abhi to be seperated. as we know this is a show )
as laila said 22 yrs is still young ans immature to know whats life and love. and he desperately love a lady who is 30 yrs ( which in the starting of the show she was 28yrs. and we all assumed abhi was 24) .
ya 24 and 28 we would have all been happy and enjoyed watching gthe show. suddenly when the cvs increased simis age and reduced abhi age we were all shocked. .. any way what can v say. ( if the cvs wand we an give them another chance to increase ahis age and bring dowms simis age)
but in this show they show even if abhi is 22 he is lot more mature and know wehat he wants in life than simi who is 30yrs.
i always felt that the cvs borught nakuls entry in to show, as the cvs would want to know which story line the media or the viewers will accept whether its the nakul simi or abhi simi.
when they know that the viewers dont accept the nakul simi pair they bring simi and abhi pair and show their romance , and the viewers happy, and when the cvs know ok the simbhi pair is taken for granted by the viewers they suddenly bring nakul into picture and change the whole story line.
the cvs dosent know what the viewrs will accept that may be the reason why simi is never open with her dialogues ( as she says its for her father she is accepting roks, ir she never openly shows her love for abhi), till the end abhi and nakul will be there , and as per the viewers vote or opinions the cv will make simi get married.
i fell its high time the cvs take one decision and go ahead with one story line.
basically the story was supposed to be of a girl falling in love with a boy younger to her and how they cope up withthe differences in the society, so i main lead ( that ths girl and the boy should have been more strong and adament about the future) lets see whats the cvs do with htis story line. I personally feel the cvs should go along with the story line of abhi and simi and show how they face the problems. first of all solve the major issue of daggars, then manju, then anita, Mr. T and later the society. and how they are happy and enjoy life . but i fell simi should be more stronger.
as most of the viewers in this forum are NRI and are living outside inda for years we might not know or are not fully aware about the indian society ans culture. we see every thing in a broad minded way and we take it positively , where as in india i think there are stipp people who follow the old traditiona and culture.
for us even if the girl is 8/10/12 yrs is not a proble as we have seen life and couple is in way, where as in india this might be some thing new.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I have recently shifted base from India. People do talk if girl is older. It just dies down soon after the marriage is over and people find new topic to discuss. 2-4 years age difference is taken in better light than 8 yrs difference
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Originally posted by: Lata

hi everyone.......hope all are doing fine.......a very Happy New Year to all of you.........i agree interesting article and I too heard this term for the first time....cougar couple........not heard of many such couples in real life atleast apart from these celebrities.....and i agree with Raksha these double standards in our society is pathetic.......and Laila I agree with you totally......what did a young handsome rich guy like abhi see in an elderly not so good looking woman like simi...totally beats us....but its this thrill factor and their chemistry which attracted me in the first place in this show.........when i went home not one of them whom I know watches this show...so that means the makers can't fool Indians easily 😉..its we NRIs i guess who have been taken for a ride😳...anyways i used to watch back home and Mom too along with me saw a few episodes......just loved the way RS stands up for them and their relationship........but somehow I fear slowly I am beginning to lose interest though not totally and since now I would be interested in joining in the discussions will still watch it..........I really don't know when simibhi will be happy together 😕......really waiting to watch that........

hey.."WELCOME BACK"..!!!🤗

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