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Originally posted by: The.Patthaaka.

So it is common there in that case?Hmm.

Oh so its preferred not to as per Islam?Good to know.

On a second note,what are ur takes in this?second cousins toh phir bhi I can understand,but first cousins-isnt it awkward? I mean u grow up with them,play with them and be with them like brothers and sisters.

BTW Jodah thanks for that informative post. its good to know ur cousins have started their family. Lucky couple. There have been a lot of cases where there have trouble with having kids in cousin marriages :(

i think it depends on the circumstances how we grow up with our cousins
in joint families its normal during growing up cousin treat each other as siblings until they didn't develop that kind of affection whether from childhood or later in adulthood

it is awkward if you always look up them as brother or sisters & suddenly there proposals comes
but its not awkward in some cases if there is liking
like the previous exp of my cousins they grewup in joint family & had liking for each other since childhood but the parents were against not because they are first cousins & like brother sister because both there fathers were buisness partners & some buisness matters turned there relationship sour ... but finaly the couple stood together & got married

you will be surprise to know in muslims ... parents can never made the excuse to there childrens that they can't get married because they are cousins & like brother & sisters
this excuse is always made by the boy or girl to say no for the cousin marrige exp boy says i can't marry her because i always looked her as a sister or the girl often says i can't marry him i always looked him as a brother ... i've seen many cousin proposals endup with this excuse

in our family we don't lived in joint family but most of us cousins went to same schools & colleges
my first cousin proposal came for my older sister though he had liking for her since childhood the whole family knew but my sister excused she always looked him as a brother.. as my sis was not in a relationship & the proposal was really good so take you your time was the call from family & during this time my sister meet her dream men during university & got married in 2010 now living happily but it was a hard time for my cousin to come out from this rejection phase

couple of other first cousin proposals talked too happened in our family but the boy & girl excused they always looked each other as brother & sisters.. other excused they already like someone else

a cousin proposal came for me i refused my excuse was not he's like my brother
because my brothers are very decent but my cousin is a flirt we had school collge together so nothing was hidden from me .. it was not a awkward but a irking situation for me
now i always call him bro when ever i meet him which obviously he don't like

my brother is happily engaged with our cousin as per his wish they are first cousin too

so mostly in muslims proposals do come from families its very common
as i said sometime cousin marriges are done by boy & girl will & some time the boy & girl are forced for these marriges for parents sake or family sake & sometime such marriges happen on family or parent wish & the couple also have no objection

in the end i can say
its awkward only then when you share sibling relationship with cousins & there proposals comes whether they got married or not but its a very temporary phase
but no awkwardness in those cases when there is liking between cousins .
so being first cousin getting married or proposal talks is normal in our communitites

Originally posted by: jodah

i think it depends on the circumstances how we grow up with our cousins
in joint families its normal during growing up cousin treat each other as siblings until they didn't develop that kind of affection whether from childhood or later in adulthood

it is awkward if you always look up them as brother or sisters & suddenly there proposals comes
but its not awkward in some cases if there is liking
like the previous exp of my cousins they grewup in joint family & had liking for each other since childhood but the parents were against not because they are first cousins & like brother sister because both there fathers were buisness partners & some buisness matters turned there relationship sour ... but finaly the couple stood together & got married

you will be surprise to know in muslims parents can never made the excuse to there childrens that they can't get married because you are cousins & like brother & sisters
this excuse is always made by the boy or girl to say no for the cousin marrige exp boy says i can't marry her because i always looked her as a sister or the girl often says i can't marry him i always looked him as a brother ... i've seen many cousin proposals endup with this excuse

in our family we don't lived in joint family but most of us cousins went to same schools & colleges
my first cousin proposal came for my older sister though he had the liking for her since childhood the whole family knew but my sister excused she always looked him as a brother.. as my sis was not in arelationship & the proposal was really good so take you your time was the call from family & during this time my sister meet her dream men during university & got married in 2010 now living happily but it was a hardtime for my cousin to come out from this rejection phase

couple of other first cousin proposals talked too happened in our family but the boy & girl excused they always looked each other as brother & sisters.. other excused they already like someone else

a cousin proposal came for me i refused my excuse was not he's like my brother
because my brothers are very decent but my cousin was a flirt we had school collge together so nothing was hidden from me .. it was not a awkward but a irking situation for me
now i always call him bro when ever i meet him which obviously he don't like

my brother is happily engaged with our cousin as per his wish they are first cousin too

so mostly in muslims proposals do come from families its very common
as i said sometime cousin marriges are done by boy & girl will & some time the boy & girl are forced for these marriges for parents sake or family sake & sometime such marriges happen on family or parent wish & the couple also have no objection

in the end i can say
its awkward only then when you share sibling relationship with cousins & there proposals comes & specialy when both come to know about the proposal talk but its a temporary phase
but no awkwardness in those cases when there is liking between cousins .
so being first cousin getting married or proposal talks is normal in our communitites

Nice points u hv stated.

And yes in Muslim families, I suppose one does not assume a cousin to be a brother or sister as such, coz dey can marry each other. BTW my parents demselves r cousins. My dad's father and my Mom's mother were brother sister. And not only my mom and dad, but also my mom's bro married my dad's sister. And usually it's assumed dat children from dat reunion r born wid disability or something. But touch wood neither me or my siblings, nor my cousins hv any such problems. Maybe if der is some hereditary gene defect then dat cld affect children borne out of cousins getting married, but generally dat is not the case.

Also I hv my own cousins married to one another and also knw many cousins who hv done dat.

I'd be pretty much repeating the same as people above me, but anyways, I'd do so gladly, these serials are just that good.

Originally posted by: jodah

i think it depends on the circumstances how we grow up with our cousins
in joint families its normal during growing up cousin treat each other as siblings until they didn't develop that kind of affection whether from childhood or later in adulthood

it is awkward if you always look up them as brother or sisters & suddenly there proposals comes
but its not awkward in some cases if there is liking
like the previous exp of my cousins they grewup in joint family & had liking for each other since childhood but the parents were against not because they are first cousins & like brother sister because both there fathers were buisness partners & some buisness matters turned there relationship sour ... but finaly the couple stood together & got married

you will be surprise to know in muslims ... parents can never made the excuse to there childrens that they can't get married because they are cousins & like brother & sisters
this excuse is always made by the boy or girl to say no for the cousin marrige exp boy says i can't marry her because i always looked her as a sister or the girl often says i can't marry him i always looked him as a brother ... i've seen many cousin proposals endup with this excuse

in our family we don't lived in joint family but most of us cousins went to same schools & colleges
my first cousin proposal came for my older sister though he had liking for her since childhood the whole family knew but my sister excused she always looked him as a brother.. as my sis was not in a relationship & the proposal was really good so take you your time was the call from family & during this time my sister meet her dream men during university & got married in 2010 now living happily but it was a hard time for my cousin to come out from this rejection phase

couple of other first cousin proposals talked too happened in our family but the boy & girl excused they always looked each other as brother & sisters.. other excused they already like someone else

a cousin proposal came for me i refused my excuse was not he's like my brother
because my brothers are very decent but my cousin is a flirt we had school collge together so nothing was hidden from me .. it was not a awkward but a irking situation for me
now i always call him bro when ever i meet him which obviously he don't like

my brother is happily engaged with our cousin as per his wish they are first cousin too

so mostly in muslims proposals do come from families its very common
as i said sometime cousin marriges are done by boy & girl will & some time the boy & girl are forced for these marriges for parents sake or family sake & sometime such marriges happen on family or parent wish & the couple also have no objection

in the end i can say
its awkward only then when you share sibling relationship with cousins & there proposals comes whether they got married or not but its a very temporary phase
but no awkwardness in those cases when there is liking between cousins .
so being first cousin getting married or proposal talks is normal in our communitites

@ ..-Raindrops-.. i know it dear just wanted to clear the view of other friends without using the Arabic Islamic termologies 😳