|| ZGH - DT & (Zaroon & Kashaf) AT ||-Epi 20 Discussions-pg11 - Page 115

Originally posted by: The.Lannister

This might be an unpopular opinion here but i will say it anyways. When i started with zgh, kashaf was my favourite character inspite of her pessimism, anger, cribbing, etc. But as the show is coming to an end all my sympathies lie with zaroon. I understand the girl suffered a lot becoz of her father but i think she insults zaroon by comparing him to murtaza. They are poles apart and i find it annoying that she lets her past affect her present. She rarely communicates what she truly feels with him, and given her background he can guess some things but it would be wrong to assume he can understand her completely without any effort from her. Kashaf disappointed me with the way she handled osama n then asmara issue. I was also pretty much baffled that she thought it unimportant to tell him about the house deal. It is as if she has set a mental timeline on her relationship. She is waiting for zaroon to betray her, to leave her, to behave like a typical husband. What she doesn't realise is that her own behaviour isnt helping their relationship either.

I understand she will take time to open up completely but she can at least begin the process now. If she says even 1% of what she is scribbling in that diary to zaroon, their relationship would be on a different level entirely.

Let me comment this. Love what you said.
You are right...in the last 3-4 episodes my sympathies were Zaroon inspite of his flaws. Kashaf needed to TALK to him about her daddy issues just like he spoke to her about his own issues. Zaroon isnt omniscient to understand everything. Murtaza whom Zaroon has seen is very different from the Murtaza Kashaf saw while growing up.
But to me it seemed Kashaf was 'punishing' Zaroon for Murtaza's deeds.

Originally posted by: pinkeye

I agree with each and every word of yours. And thanks for putting these points so brilliantly.

She had this pre conceived notions that her marriage will be a failure just lije her parents as all men are alike and Zaroon is no different. She was always shown her as someone who constantly cribs people are getting to know about their status, their family background and past and pity her. But in the end I feel it was she who primarilyitied herself and no one else did that. ZAROOn wax childish, egoistic, even unreasonably controlling at times, but one traot he surely had to deal with kashaf was the patience which is really necessary to sustain a relationship. I agree with it that kashaf hd the mental image of her husband who will cheat on her, betray her and she will live the life like rafia fid. May be it was her true pessi istic self, but it got on my nerves ultimately. And that loan issue and her snubbing Zaroon , not sharing anything made me think -was it like only zaroon working on that relationship at oneoint of time and she thought he was never worthy of her to be a true companion.i felt bad when she said to sidra that she does not share her problems with outsiders. Your husband is an outsider and then you think your relationship is going to be fine , rosy , sorry you are living in fool's paradise then. Yes she was scarred by her past, bt she was blessed with a stable married life and a loving partner imo who tried a lot, but she was still stuck up and thats what strained the relationship eventually.

Agreed Kashaf needs to be more open--but give a thought to her thinking--the serial brings it out. Zaroon is an MCP out and out-- instead of drawing her out he puts her back up --main tumhare shauhar hoon as if because he is her shauhar she must follow his dictum! ...and she has more than her share of gruesome memories of what a shauhar does to manipulate a women. I love Zaroon but my sympathies are with Kashaf purely because she has fought all odds to be where she is--she just needs some reassurance and love to flower! Zaroon could have been more single mindedly persistent like he was when he found ways to make her marry him!