Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus
No one is promoting Mishti's behaviour at all.
I think it's our expectations of angry-chorni Mishti that the writers have built up for us from the start of the show, that make it so hard for us to accept this behaviour from her, because ultimately we as fans always root for the underdog. We want Mishti to be strong, to be firey, to stand up tall, but honestly how much more can she take? The writers have thrown pretty much every worse scenario in her face and yet she is still standing (barely but yes she is still alive). I don't think there would be anyone in real world as resilient as Mishti after everything she has endured - ofcourse with the help and support of Abir and BP but still, ultimately it is MISHTI who chooses to fight through them. But if life doesn't allow her to catch a single happy break, how do you expect her to be the same angry chorni? everyone has a breaking point, and the makers have dragged Mishti right to the bottom.
I'm not saying what she is doing is right. Absolutely not, her self-respect is way more important than she thinks of herself. All I'm saying is many of us are able to understand her plight because numerous girls, women experience the same horrific feelings.
Like I mentioned in one of my earlier posts today: this feeling/insecurity (whatever you want to call it) that Mishti has to constantly measure her self-worth against everyone else's happiness is something she has grown up with. Even Mishti 1.0 angry chorni always felt guilty or backed down from her fiery avatar whenever BP's reputation was at stake, or Kuku's happiness was at stake and ofcourse anything for Abir. That's who she is, who she has been and maybe who she will always be.
No matter how much Abir reassures her how much he loves her, how strong she is, what a fighter she is etc etc. Ultimately it is Mishti herself who personally endures every emotion and trauma, and yet she manages to pick herself up often just for Abir. She still keeps on going FOR ABIR and his happiness which is linked to her happiness. So although the end result may be her happiness and well-being, the driving force for her to fight through is for Abir, not necessarily for herself, not for her own self-respect and not for her happiness because she has never been that kind of person. Now whether that is truly healthy or the right way to live, is another topic for another day.
She has never fully understood nor fully realised the value of herself, Abir has definitely helped her start that engine of being proud of who she is, but that natural feeling of I'm not worthy of this love, the happiness, this affection etc will not away -- until and unless Mishti herself consciously chooses not to fall in her own trap of emotions.
It's Mishti's flaw, it's her personality. It makes her realistic. Perhaps it takes a small piece from her as a role model, but that doesn't mean she is the worst FL. There are still way way way more positive and inspiring qualities that Mishti has, which we can learn from and the flaws she has is also important for us to learn that we should remember to respect ourselves first, but yes there is a limit to that as well. It's a very fine line.
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