Today’s epi - Abir’s outburst at Mishti

Did not understand Abir’s outburst at Mishti. He called Kuhu’s selfish, flawed, matlabi behavior “bachpana”? Yet, goes on to chide Mishti saying her habit is to fight for everything? Has Abir lost his marbles?

The girl never fights, Mishti does everything in her power to set things right. So what is Abir referring to? Way out of character for him so if the writers are trying to create a rift between Abir & Mishti, this sounded too contrived and forced.

I hope Abir is put through the wringer by Mishti, and that he feels guilty and angry at bachpana bro’s effort to blacken Mishti’s name. He has a lot of groveling to do to get past what his runaway tongue said.

There is some truth to what Abir said .Does this girl know how to handle relationships in a diplomatic way . She only does what she thinks is right and cares a damn about how other feel . The divorce papers and keeping Meenu secret from Kuhu during her marriage are best examples . If she always supports right then why didn’t she say anything to her best friend when he tried to kill Abir .isnt that double standard

Abir is too blind to see Mishti’s short coming and I doubt if BP or BM will ever show the mirror to this girl

I didn’t understand one thing: After learning the truth Abir didn’t question or think why Kuhu did the galti in the first place? It seems so strange that He didn’t try to find out the motive behind the pill saga?!

Also, he still doesn’t know that the actual target of the pills was Mishti and not him. That fact alone has the potential to change his thought process entirely regarding the pill fiasco if he learns Mishti’s life could have been in danger.

So keeping these two things in mind the only other things he heard between the sisters was that Kuhu has the habit of blaming Mishti, she let Parul be blamed for her mistake and she is selfish and only thinks of herself. Maybe all these had him to conclude that this was Kuhu’s bachpana?

Writers definitely didn’t do a clean job of writing this and kept a wiggle room for themselves.
Abir’s dialogue about Mishti was so out of character, especially a) since he exactly knows how she is and b) Mish just told him that she has been aware of this since day one but didn’t tell anyone till now

Same way, Mish insisting on disclosing this suddenly after hiding it herself for so long seemed quite random to me

I want to hold off till tomorrow before I pass my complete judgement on Abir. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...

If he starts with his bro jaap again tomorrow, I might break something... but I have hope seeing his clenched jaw while Kuhu is badmouthing Mishti.

But the writers definitely inserted this to create a tiff between AM. And tomorrow I have a feeling that Abir will start off with something else while talking to Kuhu which might be misunderstood by Mishti and she will leave. And after that Abir will give Kuhu a piece of his mind but Mishti won’t hear that...

But in any case He better go above and beyond to make it up to Mishti for this goof up of his!

The writing is off balanced sometimes I agree , but as a disjointed viewer , who doesnt care much about the Jodi and actors (although I am liking all of them except meenu), I am enjoying the drama. Firstly the next episode must be seen to check abirs reaction . Two, mishti will always have a hard time with this family bec of kuhu meenu and partially abir. Abir doesnt care for meenu that much but he cares for kunal and kuhu too much . I am sure he wont believe kuhu's words but frankly , what's the solution for this ? Two sisters who just got married in the same family cant live peacefully together? And they should all part ways bec of this ? Well this is what meenu actually wants to prove .

So let them make mistakes and learn from them . There is no and there wont be any deep connection between mishti and kuhu except that mishti will not care for kuhu unless she gets in her way and create problems for her.and kuhu will keep flipping as per the story progresses..sometimes she will be pro mishti sometimes against. However it will be totally wrong if abir misunderstands mishti again.

Yes, abir didnt word it correctly,it wasnt mishti's mistake anywhere n I hope he talks to her tomorrow n explain what he actually meant (mujhe zara samajh nai aaya)😆

Idont disagree completely with abir.

Kuhu does act out of immaturity. I think a lot of her behVior is driven by childhood trauma and scarring, which leads to het adult insecurities but her behavior is still stemming from childhood. Its almost as though for a second she regresses to being young and acts in thay regressed state not realizing what she did. Very freudian

Mishti does fight about everything. Mishti is known as the more mature one and she does acts accordingly but with kuhu she immediatly jumps out and bickers rather then let it go. I dont blame her at all she has every right to defend herself.. but that defensiveness leads to escalation and fighting. She makes sure to advocate.. thats a better word then fight. She advocates a lot for herself and for others very often .

So i dont disagree with abir.. i think it just came out in a bad way but that was the point in the writing anyways

Originally posted by: xxMATSxx

Idont disagree completely with abir.

Kuhu does act out of immaturity. I think a lot of her behVior is driven by childhood trauma and scarring, which leads to het adult insecurities but her behavior is still stemming from childhood. Its almost as though for a second she regresses to being young and acts in thay regressed state not realizing what she did. Very freudian

Mishti does fight about everything. Mishti is known as the more mature one and she does acts accordingly but with kuhu she immediatly jumps out and bickers rather then let it go. I dont blame her at all she has every right to defend herself.. but that defensiveness leads to escalation and fighting. She makes sure to advocate.. thats a better word then fight. She advocates a lot for herself and for others very often .

So i dont disagree with abir.. i think it just came out in a bad way but that was the point in the writing anyways

Yes. That may be the point and I find mishti doing this too often. Starting from the day when both had to perform but mishti took the centre stage and forgot there is a kuhu around. I need to understand her character more.

But kuhu's behavior..what trauma are you referring to? I dont know😕 I can say for sure ,she is not immature..she needs healing ..... She is fixated on one point that is mishti takes away the limelight . N she sees every situation with this blinder on..whether or not this is the actual situation. Healing is one way to cure . Another is , shock treatment . Like janmashtami day . She doesnt hate mishti like meenu hates mishti. She wants to prove herself better in everything . If any harm comes to mishti she wont like it. This is what I have understood of her..

I have read max have a problem with kuhu not being held accountable for her mistakes..well it doesnt matter , that's how it is in real life too..somewhat 😆 When was meenu held accountable ? Only when she was caught. N she was forgiven way too quick.

Am I correct in thinking the episode ended in the midst of that conversation?

Should Abir not be given a chance to explain, which will be in tonight's episode?

From what I saw, he is a reasonable guy. Men do see differently from women and also think differently. They are more pragmatic and women are emotional.
Also, in real life partners do show one another their weak points so as to forewarn them, to teach them their weak points but not to belittle or blame them (unless that relationship is going down the drain then it is whole 'nother story). Maybe his delivery is wrong or editing is done in such way as to make people think he is blaming Mishti.

What I know is Misbir love one another in a mature way. They know and understand each other especially after their breakup. I don't think they can easily forget the real self of each when they had taken so much pains to understand (the whole concept of the first part of the story). Both know family means everything and that yes, they can love each other and still support someone else even if it means they are in two different camp - just like real life.

However, here of course the blasted writers can twist things and make it look like they are hurting the one they love. I doubt Abir forgot Mishti's background and his words could be because he hates people keep giving her the homebreaker tag and he wants to change that so in his own way he is telling her to be less independent and forward talking and be more 'think first then talk'. I know that is what real soul mates do. They hurt when their loved one is percepted so differently so they will try to change people's view by doing something similar.

Anyway I personally feel we are entering the heart of the story...both girls will implode in their own way...stories will change and shift...exciting and heartbreaking times ahead...just hope writers don't get too wacky with their ideas!🤣

Also Abir will be in for a shock when he realise what he is calling 'childish' is almost attempted murder in other's eyes!...I hope we get a whole episode dedicated to Mishti help him get over his trauma. Heck, everyone has a trauma in that show so why not Abir?!🤣

I have just seen the epsisode. And yes, so I think Abir was trying to explain to Mishti and used the words that people percieve her by but not what he believes of her. He did not do it deliberately but immediately realised his mistake. He saw how hurt Mishti is. I will stand by their mature love, they know one another so I hope we seen sensible conversations. Abir is not wrong from his viewpoint and neither is Mishti. They are now living together so they have to come up with a way they can mix their viewpoints and create something new, just for them as Misbir, while still retaining their own independent thoughts. Seeing the precap, it looks like Abir is about to blow at Kuhu...I bet he is still thinking about how he hurt Mishti and then to hear K's words...I bet he will say 'here I was defending you to Mishti'...now his eyes will open to K's reality...

Originally posted by: yyyy

There is some truth to what Abir said .Does this girl know how to handle relationships in a diplomatic way . She only does what she thinks is right and cares a damn about how other feel . The divorce papers and keeping Meenu secret from Kuhu during her marriage are best examples . If she always supports right then why didn’t she say anything to her best friend when he tried to kill Abir .isnt that double standard

Abir is too blind to see Mishti’s short coming and I doubt if BP or BM will ever show the mirror to this girl

@ purple - she does. The beauty of her character is she is strong - self sufficient actually, all because of her background. No she cares very much and due to that she takes it all by the hand, just to stop her loved ones from feeling hurt or sad.

So it makes sense she would want to deal with things alone and in her own way. Mishti's characterisation has been done beautifully and I will have to say it is consistent. Others had wavered but so far she is true to the original concept. I guess it is because the story is centered around her.

Originally posted by: xxMATSxx

Idont disagree completely with abir.

Kuhu does act out of immaturity. I think a lot of her behVior is driven by childhood trauma and scarring, which leads to het adult insecurities but her behavior is still stemming from childhood. Its almost as though for a second she regresses to being young and acts in thay regressed state not realizing what she did. Very freudian

Mishti does fight about everything. Mishti is known as the more mature one and she does acts accordingly but with kuhu she immediatly jumps out and bickers rather then let it go. I dont blame her at all she has every right to defend herself.. but that defensiveness leads to escalation and fighting. She makes sure to advocate.. thats a better word then fight. She advocates a lot for herself and for others very often .

So i dont disagree with abir.. i think it just came out in a bad way but that was the point in the writing anyways

@bold

Did something happen to her in childhood and did they show that in the parent show? I have never watched the parent show, so my knowledge about it is close to zero.

All I know is that she is Shaurya's illegitimate daughter, but Varsha accepted her. And looking at her equation with Varsha now, I assume she has loving parents since childhood.

Or by childhood trauma you are referring to Mishti coming to live with them in the Mah house and she developing her insecurities?

Mishti’s whole life has been about defending her right to have a family. I would say she has had childhood as well as adulthood trauma with the constant bullying and mental abuse she has been subjected to in the Mah house. The difference is, she is mentally strong so she was able to rise above it and she doesn’t use it as an excuse for misbehaving.

@bold2

I am not sure what you are referring to here.

From what I have observed Mishti generally doesn’t bother with Kuhu until Kuhu gets in her way or tries to hurt her.
But even then in most instances Mishty has let go... including the false Email Kuhu sent from her account and even her mandap!

Even now, after marriage, they made a pact to mend their ways, the first chance Kuhu got, she broke the pact by tinkering with the necklace. If then Mishti asks her to keep away from the pooja preparations, I wouldn’t call it jumping out and bickering. She tries to ignore Kuhu’s unreasonable acts most times, but at some point she is bound to lose her patience!

Even with this pill fiasco, Mishti didn’t jump to action right away.

She heard Kuhu badmouth her in front of BB, so she rightfully called her out on it, it’s a different matter that Kuhu did have an ounce of a regret for doing so, but still Mishti let it go...

Abir has every right to get angered on his Mishti!!!! He cant do that to his broo!! And when they fought i was thankful to kuhu because i knew that their patchup will be a treat❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️