The closure Abhira never got and will never get

I am glad how honest and upfront Abhira is with her feelings. Jo Maan main aata haa bol deti haa. She doesn't believe in ghut ghut ke jeena. Which is good.

Also, the problem is that Abhira never got a closure of BSP s death. She wasn't able to see the kid she carried for 7 months. The kid for whom she fought so hard and so long. From her husband. From death itself.

No, it's not practical to risk your life for foetus. Ideally Abhimaan should have just gone for an abortion and then latter adopted. But it's also understandable that she still feels that void of losing a kid. Especially because there there was no closure.The closure she is still seeking. Desperately craving that feeling of mother child connection. Now the feeling of being left out is just adding onto it.

Isn't it just natural?

I totally understand, that Abhira is feeling left out because she herself had a failed pregnancy and then all options she had was to find a surrogate.

But she has gone a bit bonkers.

Personally I always had an issue with how doormat she has become in every situation. Instead of uplifting herself from the trauma and grief she has went through, she is always ready to go back to her abuser (at once) without any second thoughts.

Now, the want of the baby has surpassed all logic in her eyes. Even if for once she felt that maybe Ruhi in her present mental state shouldn't go through a pregnancy, she never let the thought stay with her.

Going on a babymoon was the worst of all things she could think of and then getting rooms with interconnection and then having s*x with your guy plus, then arranging a solo candle light dinner without making sure that Ruhi just doesn't bump into it unknowingly (which happened obviously) is way beyond dumb.

Like, dude if you need to get to the hospital, wait for the f*king cab for 15 mins. Why are you running on the road? Does she think that she going to instruct the doctors to do their job any better?

Everytime they show her getting sad/hyper over trivial things, after agreeing on the big concept of surrogacy is idiotic.

You need your own kid even if you are infertile, then you hire a surrogate, and then you start playing the victim card even when surrogate is a fresh widow with an infant of hers.

I just can't give her the benefit of doubt or call her selfless and natural anymore.

Originally posted by: nancy56

I totally understand, that Abhira is feeling left out because she herself had a failed pregnancy and then all options she had was to find a surrogate.

But she has gone a bit bonkers.

Personally I always had an issue with how doormat she has become in every situation. Instead of uplifting herself from the trauma and grief she has went through, she is always ready to go back to her abuser (at once) without any second thoughts.

Now, the want of the baby has surpassed all logic in her eyes. Even if for once she felt that maybe Ruhi in her present mental state shouldn't go through a pregnancy, she never let the thought stay with her.

Going on a babymoon was the worst of all things she could think of and then getting rooms with interconnection and then having s*x with your guy plus, then arranging a solo candle light dinner without making sure that Ruhi just doesn't bump into it unknowingly (which happened obviously) is way beyond dumb.

Like, dude if you need to get to the hospital, wait for the f*king cab for 15 mins. Why are you running on the road? Does she think that she going to instruct the doctors to do their job any better?

Everytime they show her getting sad/hyper over trivial things, after agreeing on the big concept of surrogacy is idiotic.

You need your own kid even if you are infertile, then you hire a surrogate, and then you start playing the victim card even when surrogate is a fresh widow with an infant of hers.

I just can't give her the benefit of doubt or call her selfless and natural anymore.

This entire post is so problematic on so many levels. Then I don't even know what to say.

But Ok. That's your opinion. I will agree to disagree.

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

This entire post is so problematic on so many levels. Then I don't even know what to say.

But Ok. That's your opinion. I will agree to disagree.

I'd always welcome a difference of opinion

If you have a better perspective and you might wanna share it here, countering me, I will not fight on it.

Maybe I'll see a thing or two differently

Abhira didn't even want the child to begin with, this obsession for baby is key way for ruining it all for the character...

And no, BSP ka closure is one thing but this isn't a replacement policy you know...

If you can't get a baby, adopt it damn woman... You don't need to have khoon ka rishta all the time!! You had your own experience na already of being mom, pregnancy phase, handling a baby Right after your delivery... So what if he wasn't your blood! What difference would have it made?

Sorry, but Abhira is a very problematic character as whole! Firstly, she doesn't really pay heed to bado ki advice, who were basically Right this time, no matter how pathetic and bad people they are... Their concern was legit and real... Aur kisi ka nai toh kam se kam listen to Swarna for once... But na, she is adamant on wanting Khoon ka baby from surrogacy with her husband's ex, really makes me feel she doesn't know her sister at all! She has gone bonkers....

She doesn't even learn from her mistakes, but khair... She will hence deserve all miserable life she gets on... I don't even feel bad for her seeing her crying clips and all... Woman signed up for it And closure all hazar cheezo ka lena chahiye but she just needs her baby... Aur kuch nai...

She is OK with her mom being tagged as the one responsible for her massi's death...and her wearing pink slippers is more or like her fake attempt to feel baby inside her like Ruhi does...Anyways, nothing is worse than her being ziddi about biological baby...

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

Abhira didn't even want the child to begin with, this obsession for baby is key way for ruining it all for the character...

And no, BSP ka closure is one thing but this isn't a replacement policy you know...

If you can't get a baby, adopt it damn woman... You don't need to have khoon ka rishta all the time!! You had your own experience na already of being mom, pregnancy phase, handling a baby Right after your delivery... So what if he wasn't your blood! What difference would have it made?

Sorry, but Abhira is a very problematic character as whole! Firstly, she doesn't really pay heed to bado ki advice, who were basically Right this time, no matter how pathetic and bad people they are... Their concern was legit and real... Aur kisi ka nai toh kam se kam listen to Swarna for once... But na, she is adamant on wanting Khoon ka baby from surrogacy with her husband's ex, really makes me feel she doesn't know her sister at all! She has gone bonkers....

She doesn't even learn from her mistakes, but khair... She will hence deserve all miserable life she gets on... I don't even feel bad for her seeing her crying clips and all... Woman signed up for it And closure all hazar cheezo ka lena chahiye but she just needs her baby... Aur kuch nai...

She is OK with her mom being tagged as the one responsible for her massi's death...and her wearing pink slippers is more or like her fake attempt to feel baby inside her like Ruhi does...Anyways, nothing is worse than her being ziddi about biological baby...

Agreed. Abhira is a extremely problematic character.

It's hilarious how people refer abheera as a doormat when she is literally a lunatic who keeps on vomiting her disgusting viewpoint without any consideration for others. Adding to it this she got a surrogate in place of her to go through the ordeal of pregnancy.

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

Abhira didn't even want the child to begin with, this obsession for baby is key way for ruining it all for the character...

And no, BSP ka closure is one thing but this isn't a replacement policy you know...

If you can't get a baby, adopt it damn woman... You don't need to have khoon ka rishta all the time!! You had your own experience na already of being mom, pregnancy phase, handling a baby Right after your delivery... So what if he wasn't your blood! What difference would have it made?

Sorry, but Abhira is a very problematic character as whole! Firstly, she doesn't really pay heed to bado ki advice, who were basically Right this time, no matter how pathetic and bad people they are... Their concern was legit and real... Aur kisi ka nai toh kam se kam listen to Swarna for once... But na, she is adamant on wanting Khoon ka baby from surrogacy with her husband's ex, really makes me feel she doesn't know her sister at all! She has gone bonkers....

She doesn't even learn from her mistakes, but khair... She will hence deserve all miserable life she gets on... I don't even feel bad for her seeing her crying clips and all... Woman signed up for it And closure all hazar cheezo ka lena chahiye but she just needs her baby... Aur kuch nai...

She is OK with her mom being tagged as the one responsible for her massi's death...and her wearing pink slippers is more or like her fake attempt to feel baby inside her like Ruhi does...Anyways, nothing is worse than her being ziddi about biological baby...

Originally posted by: ThukkadRajaShah

It's hilarious how people refer abheera as a doormat when she is literally a lunatic who keeps on vomiting her disgusting viewpoint without any consideration for others. Adding to it this she got a surrogate in place of her to go through the ordeal of pregnancy.

When she isn't going back to her abuser ( like the poddars, ruhi, armaan-in some cases), she is behaving aggressively like a bully. And it happens pretty naturally to her, when she is in the position of power.

She is pretty much like Kaveri Poddar, always knowing what's right. But the only problem is, that she, infact is obviously not always right. But her rigidness, her need to have a baby out of a mentally disturbed woman, is a bit meh.

Baby abhira was rigid and strong headed too, but for the right reasons.

Originally posted by: nancy56

When she isn't going back to her abuser ( like the poddars, ruhi, armaan-in some cases), she is behaving aggressively like a bully. And it happens pretty naturally to her, when she is in the position of power.

She is pretty much like Kaveri Poddar, always knowing what's right. But the only problem is, that she, infact is obviously not always right. But her rigidness, her need to have a baby out of a mentally disturbed woman, is a bit meh.

Baby abhira was rigid and strong headed too, but for the right reasons.

Well, abheera likes going back to abusers because she herself is a abuser. Ruhi did become mentally disturbed after spending time with pschychopath abheera, otherwise no SANE woman would become a surrogate and leave her own life at the mercy of a pervert like abheera.

Ruhi's sister love has been prooving harmful for her own self.