Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai 20 Mar 2025 Written Update and EDT - Page 4

Originally posted by: nutmeg7

I wish they show Abhira break down in guilt, self blame and Armaan address that. They could show Abhira focus on career, find a higher purpose in life. They can show adoption. Instead they are showing desperate IVF attempts despite Abhimaan barely having money and surrogacy with Ruhi. Can it get any more depressing?! So difficult to see Abhimaan like this. Especially abhira, She clearly blames herself for everything at this point. I wish they had shown Abhimaan talk it out atleast. Can they stop baccha baccha and adopt or have Abhira find a higher purpose.

It was sad indeed. But then . Isn't this what life is all about ? They are making it look like everyone is having babies but abhira can't. And she's asking the doctor "I'm a good person so why Me" . It sounds very shallow , although she's grieving and I don't wanna criticize her at this moment ..she's making it sound like a jealous person . .uske paas hai mere paas kyun nahi.

But seriously , today I went to the hospital with my daughter (govt hospital ) & there , people with all kinds of ailments come , those who are extremely sad to lose their loved ones , those who are suffering with chronic problems , those who can't afford certain treatments , I mean if we see frm this angle , life is full of misery for some..once i heard a mother wailing, I was in the car parking & it came frm pediatric center which was so far away.she mightve lost her young child .... Abhira imo is still better placed compared to those ..

I know not having a child becomes the biggest kami in somebody's life & they try all methods before giving up ..but isn't it all about the mindset ? "Mera bacha" "meri family" , "mera pati isse better deserve karta hai" , "main kya itni buri hoon" , "mere ghar ki photo frame mei cute sa baby nai aayega" , it's all mera mera mera mera mera mera...and she didn't come across any lady who isn't going through trouble ? I guess at least 50% do , either in conceiving or while giving birth or while pregnant or post pregnancy and tons of other problems with bringing up the child.

She still has an option to adopt a child , give him/her a good life. So many needy children need good families . Will abhiras motherly instincts fail therr ?

For a moment I can let go of desperation she has , but approaching ruhi & rohit 🤣 or whatever the hell it was , they approached them , are they this shameless to accept their help after bsp 1 kaand ? With what face do they brag about self respect ?

Originally posted by: Krinya

It was sad indeed. But then . Isn't this what life is all about ? They are making it look like everyone is having babies but abhira can't. And she's asking the doctor "I'm a good person so why Me" . It sounds very shallow , although she's grieving and I don't wanna criticize her at this moment ..she's making it sound like a jealous person . .uske paas hai mere paas kyun nahi.

But seriously , today I went to the hospital with my daughter (govt hospital ) & there , people with all kinds of ailments come , those who are extremely sad to lose their loved ones , those who are suffering with chronic problems , those who can't afford certain treatments , I mean if we see frm this angle , life is full of misery for some..once i heard a mother wailing, I was in the car parking & it came frm pediatric center which was so far away.she mightve lost her young child .... Abhira imo is still better placed compared to those ..

I know not having a child becomes the biggest kami in somebody's life & they try all methods before giving up ..but isn't it all about the mindset ? "Mera bacha" "meri family" , "mera pati isse better deserve karta hai" , "main kya itni buri hoon" , "mere ghar ki photo frame mei cute sa baby nai aayega" , it's all mera mera mera mera mera mera...and she didn't come across any lady who isn't going through trouble ? I guess at least 50% do , either in conceiving or while giving birth or while pregnant or post pregnancy and tons of other problems with bringing up the child.

She still has an option to adopt a child , give him/her a good life. So many needy children need good families . Will abhiras motherly instincts fail therr ?

For a moment I can let go of desperation she has , but approaching ruhi & rohit 🤣 or whatever the hell it was , they approached them , are they this shameless to accept their help after bsp 1 kaand ? With what face do they brag about self respect ?

Originally posted by: Krinya

It was sad indeed. But then . Isn't this what life is all about ? They are making it look like everyone is having babies but abhira can't. And she's asking the doctor "I'm a good person so why Me" . It sounds very shallow , although she's grieving and I don't wanna criticize her at this moment ..she's making it sound like a jealous person . .uske paas hai mere paas kyun nahi.

But seriously , today I went to the hospital with my daughter (govt hospital ) & there , people with all kinds of ailments come , those who are extremely sad to lose their loved ones , those who are suffering with chronic problems , those who can't afford certain treatments , I mean if we see frm this angle , life is full of misery for some..once i heard a mother wailing, I was in the car parking & it came frm pediatric center which was so far away.she mightve lost her young child .... Abhira imo is still better placed compared to those ..

I know not having a child becomes the biggest kami in somebody's life & they try all methods before giving up ..but isn't it all about the mindset ? "Mera bacha" "meri family" , "mera pati isse better deserve karta hai" , "main kya itni buri hoon" , "mere ghar ki photo frame mei cute sa baby nai aayega" , it's all mera mera mera mera mera mera...and she didn't come across any lady who isn't going through trouble ? I guess at least 50% do , either in conceiving or while giving birth or while pregnant or post pregnancy and tons of other problems with bringing up the child.

She still has an option to adopt a child , give him/her a good life. So many needy children need good families . Will abhiras motherly instincts fail therr ?

For a moment I can let go of desperation she has , but approaching ruhi & rohit 🤣 or whatever the hell it was , they approached them , are they this shameless to accept their help after bsp 1 kaand ? With what face do they brag about self respect ?

Simple answer Abheera wants " Poddar waris" not a child from an orphanage....Then can show off like last time ....Ruhi is just stupid ....Ab kya kand hoga ....

From a mother who struggled to have her own kid, I can relate to Abhira's feelings. With miscarriages, failed IUIi's. IVF's. It does take a lot on your mental health. Your in grief and there is no why. Only a person who goes through it can understand this. Yeah it's easy to say adoption is an option, but if that doesn't come from inside you will never be able to love the baby same way. Why set the expectations for a child and don't meet them.

What I agree with you is going with Roohi as surrogate and seeing the past it would definitely make no sense

Originally posted by: LoveMatters

From a mother who struggled to have her own kid, I can relate to Abhira's feelings. With miscarriages, failed IUIi's. IVF's. It does take a lot on your mental health. Your in grief and there is no why. Only a person who goes through it can understand this. Yeah it's easy to say adoption is an option, but if that doesn't come from inside you will never be able to love the baby same way. Why set the expectations for a child and don't meet them.

What I agree with you is going with Roohi as surrogate and seeing the past it would definitely make no sense

My close friend , I've seen her struggling for the same. She doesn't want to go for ivf for some reason .she's married for 8 yrs..

Someone in my family , they were deciding on adoption after 9 yrs of marriage but miraculously she got pregnant and gave birth to a girl and a boy in 2 yrs..

Another friend had multiple ivf attempts & she got pregnant in her last attempt & after she had a boy , she miraculously got pregnant naturally (her tubes were blocked & it was impossible for natural pregnancy to happen )

We all have ppl around us who are struggling, so why can't I connect to abhiras pain ?

You see it's triggering & sensitive topic.

Bec she's being given such dialogues & scenes . First , she was aware , arman was also aware that pregnancy & baby is a distant dream , so where is that acceptance now ? Wouldn't it be better to not get married in an impulse if this was the case in future ? I say this again and again , they proved vidya was right that time..

second , She is desperate to give arman his happy family , this is also one of the reasons . She feels immense amount of guilt but why ? If they knew after marriage , the case would be diff. Why would she say "ye mujhse zyada deserve karta hai " why ? He married her knowing he can't be a father?

She thinks she lacks everything in life if she doesn't have a baby, her life is meaningless , that's another reason & this mindset is not healthy as many ladies go through the same & these r areas beyond human control , it was Destined to be that way..birth & death nobody can control... Easier said than done , I know that but still..

I agree adoption is a couples choice ..won't advocate it much .. Many take their family's child as their own & raise them..I've seen one disaster in my immediate family so again, I'll never advocate it..

What I mean to say is , we are normally focused on that one thing that we lack in life..be it money ,career , family , kids , after kids their education , health etc , and everyone lacks somewhere or the other....philosophical baat hai but what's the other choice than try to understand God's will? Kahin toh Mann ko samjhana hota hai. Else ruin their mental peace and whatever they have , in the desire to have what they can't.

Last & most imp...if they want to show positivity & a mother is incomplete without baby , they must show abhira becomes pregnant with ivf procedure right ? But she doesn't. And they turn to ruhi and rohit which was the main point behind abhiras desperation to become a mother.

Ps this is strictly about the show , nothing personal .

Originally posted by: Krinya

My close friend , I've seen her struggling for the same. She doesn't want to go for ivf for some reason .she's married for 8 yrs..

Someone in my family , they were deciding on adoption after 9 yrs of marriage but miraculously she got pregnant and gave birth to a girl and a boy in 2 yrs..

Another friend had multiple ivf attempts & she got pregnant in her last attempt & after she had a boy , she miraculously got pregnant naturally (her tubes were blocked & it was impossible for natural pregnancy to happen )

We all have ppl around us who are struggling, so why can't I connect to abhiras pain ?

You see it's triggering & sensitive topic.

Bec she's being given such dialogues & scenes . First , she was aware , arman was also aware that pregnancy & baby is a distant dream , so where is that acceptance now ? Wouldn't it be better to not get married in an impulse if this was the case in future ? I say this again and again , they proved vidya was right that time..

second , She is desperate to give arman his happy family , this is also one of the reasons . She feels immense amount of guilt but why ? If they knew after marriage , the case would be diff. Why would she say "ye mujhse zyada deserve karta hai " why ? He married her knowing he can't be a father?

She thinks she lacks everything in life if she doesn't have a baby, her life is meaningless , that's another reason & this mindset is not healthy as many ladies go through the same & these r areas beyond human control , it was Destined to be that way..birth & death nobody can control... Easier said than done , I know that but still..

I agree adoption is a couples choice ..won't advocate it much .. Many take their family's child as their own & raise them..I've seen one disaster in my immediate family so again, I'll never advocate it..

What I mean to say is , we are normally focused on that one thing that we lack in life..be it money ,career , family , kids , after kids their education , health etc , and everyone lacks somewhere or the other....philosophical baat hai but what's the other choice than try to understand God's will? Kahin toh Mann ko samjhana hota hai. Else ruin their mental peace and whatever they have , in the desire to have what they can't.

Last & most imp...if they want to show positivity & a mother is incomplete without baby , they must show abhira becomes pregnant with ivf procedure right ? But she doesn't. And they turn to ruhi and rohit which was the main point behind abhiras desperation to become a mother.

Ps this is strictly about the show , nothing personal .

You bring very valid points dear and agree with you on most part. The dialogues are sadly written sometimes but we blame ourselves most of the time even though we are not at fault.

I already had a kid and my kid wanted a sibling. I cried for years thinking I will not be able to give him but then it worked. I think it's more human tendency but I do think like you stated itv can use these tracks to educate us better but instead they make it as per TRP. Otherwise they will never turn to Rohit/Roohi.

Originally posted by: Krinya

It was sad indeed. But then . Isn't this what life is all about ? They are making it look like everyone is having babies but abhira can't. And she's asking the doctor "I'm a good person so why Me" . It sounds very shallow , although she's grieving and I don't wanna criticize her at this moment ..she's making it sound like a jealous person . .uske paas hai mere paas kyun nahi.

But seriously , today I went to the hospital with my daughter (govt hospital ) & there , people with all kinds of ailments come , those who are extremely sad to lose their loved ones , those who are suffering with chronic problems , those who can't afford certain treatments , I mean if we see frm this angle , life is full of misery for some..once i heard a mother wailing, I was in the car parking & it came frm pediatric center which was so far away.she mightve lost her young child .... Abhira imo is still better placed compared to those ..

I know not having a child becomes the biggest kami in somebody's life & they try all methods before giving up ..but isn't it all about the mindset ? "Mera bacha" "meri family" , "mera pati isse better deserve karta hai" , "main kya itni buri hoon" , "mere ghar ki photo frame mei cute sa baby nai aayega" , it's all mera mera mera mera mera mera...and she didn't come across any lady who isn't going through trouble ? I guess at least 50% do , either in conceiving or while giving birth or while pregnant or post pregnancy and tons of other problems with bringing up the child.

She still has an option to adopt a child , give him/her a good life. So many needy children need good families . Will abhiras motherly instincts fail therr ?

For a moment I can let go of desperation she has , but approaching ruhi & rohit 🤣 or whatever the hell it was , they approached them , are they this shameless to accept their help after bsp 1 kaand ? With what face do they brag about self respect ?

@bold who approached Ro-Ru? Ruhi herself volunteered to be a surrogate of Abhimaan's child. Neither Armaan nor Abhira approached her. None of them suggested that Ruhi should become a surrogate. It was Ruhi's own great idea. Armaan will be against it and Abhira will be in its favor. She won't approach, beg or request infact Rohit and Ruhi requested Ar-Ab to sign legal document associated with surrogacy.

@rest agree. Adoption is the best option which Abhira will never avail. It would've better if she was unable to adopt because of the news of her taking Daksh away or because of FIR against her. Than maybe that desperation to have a child any other way would still make 10% sense.