Abhira thinks "ye sab jo ho rha h uper wale ka plan h." And she promised Goenkas ki hum sab milkar rahege.
Ab promise kiya h toh obviously needs to pressurize both Abhir and Ruru to accept herself and baaki Goenks family and do " Hum saath saath h".
Besharam is just helping his wife, because he will do whatever to keep her happy.
Toh pehle they come with gentle requests and when Abhir / ruru don't accept their requests they turn the table and do the whole " tum laahak nhi iss pyar ke bla bla blue blue".
Leads seems very insensitive and self centered in those scenes today.
Upar waale ka nahi, 4 logon ko upar pohonchakar, hell mein baithi mumma ka plan hai
Also, in the four generations that rishta-verse had, the current FL is the most weird one
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