Leaving toxicity for new beginning -Akshara

Yes I Agree that Akshara was far good than Abhira and in real we are also like Akshara bit we don't say ourself a selfish, because reality is bitter.

Originally posted by: ashle

I recently went through journey of fl of all seasons of yrkkh. Season 1 was good. But season 2-3-4 has so much abuse of fl by her loved ones. Romance is few dreamy sequences rest is all telling, blame games, misunderstanding, throwing out of house it's pathetic. Many will disagree but I feel akshara of season 3 was the most relatable and strongest character of all seasons. She has done lots of mistakes but she also indirectly selfishly chose her happiness and peace. She left instead of facing Arohis constant blames and hatred and flourished away from Goenkas. She after constantly fighting to innerself to sacrifice her love chose to be selfish and be with Abhimanyu. She always followed her heart and lived on her terms even if her actions resulted in tragedies she accepted punishment. But never changed herself, she had self respect and pride almost borderline arrogance. When abhimanyu gave attitude she gave back in double when he left her finally she tried to mend but as he rejected she didn't go back again. She chose peace and herself over constant hatred and blames, She found her peace and made family with Abhinav in tranquil kasauli and faught hard to protect her family from the toxicity of Goenkas and Birla. When abhimanyu asked her to come back even though she still had conflicted lingering feelings for him she respected her marriage with Abhinav and when sanctity and validity of her marriage was questioned she sworn to make her marriage real and be good wife finally letting go of her past. Even if she was heiress to Goenka properties she chose her husbands humble home and self respect. After abhinavs death Even though she didn't want she chose her traumatized childs welfare and decided to marry abhimanyu again,she was overjoyed with pregnancy news and instead of giving in to Manjiris illogical demands she gave her ultimatums for her son's happiness. Arohis death was unfortunate she was devastated but having personal experience of living in blames for mothers death she chose to spare Roohi that torment I guess she should have stayed back but her children deserved carefree and happy childhood so she chose them selfishly and left udaipur for the last time to never come back. Even After losing abhimanyu and abhir she knew going back will bring more hatred and blames for her only so she chose to leave and lived her best life with her daughter raised her with loving care and memories of her last love Abhinav. She was happiest in the end away from all the misery and toxicity that Goenkas gave her. It is not easy to leave behind everything and start new that helplessness and loneliness not everyone can handle people are always connected with family even if they live in other continent it is a feeling that you have place to go back to but Akshara never had that place with Goenka and birla she found it with Abhinav when he willingly gave her home in her own name. This is what is needed in today's life when you have toxic relations but lack courage to leave them and find our own chance at happiness.

Your statements are contradictory.

Also I feel Akshara was the weakest FL. She lacked empathy, love and care. She always had one goal, to be seen and become great infront of others and she managed to screw everyone's life, including Abhira

Strongest according to me was Naira. She actually stood for what she believed in, she changed people like Mimi, Manish and Swarna.

Strong is not about finding fatherji or pathiji. Stong is about proving to the world that a woman does not need a mard to survive, they can achieve, build career, and raise her child alone rather than finding random pathiji, fatherji for every child. Akshara gen 4 may be strong as she raised ab alone but gen 3 ak is joke on a strong woman.

Being strong doesn't mean staying alone whole life i will handle everything on my own i don't need mard etc etc strong means you are capable enough to take control of your life and start over, after such bitter relationship ending most people are afraid of getting in new relationship for fear of past experiences but Akshara even though she didn't move on she understood Abhinavs kind nature she chose perfect father for her child and give him the best childhood, she wasn't very much ambitious and studious but decided to start studying and become lawyer. Staying alone is very easy but letting other people in your life is very difficult and akshara was able to do that.

Yes moving on is very good if you do it for love. But what ak did was never love what she did with abhinav she did with abhimanyu too when abhira was in her tummy. If abhimanyu was so good then why she hided the fact their child is alive.

She married abhinav and just made him father but never gave him love as his wife. She wanted to do same with abhimanyu. This is not called move on but this is called as being opportunistic and marrying ppl for benefits than for commitment or love.

She knew abhinav will be okay without getting husband rights so she used him first.

When abhinav died she did the same with abhimanyu and she wanted to marry him to raise her childrens.

Originally posted by: ashle

She only chose abhinav because of what they went through during abhirs birth she saw the immense love and adoration in his eyes for her child she gave him option to marry her and be abhirs father but she can't be his wife it was his choice and all choices may seem wrong to others but mother is not wrong to be selfish for her child, she grew up orphan and wanted complete family for Abhira, after abhinavs death she saw abhimanyu is truly redeemed and trying hard to be better person and lost that angry aggressive attitude, again she gave choice to abhimanyu, if she wanted family for her children what is wrong with that. If she would have met man again with equally good qualities like abhinav and she decided to marry him for third time again it wasn't wrong, there are so many hindi serials that shows how men have remarried young women to raise their kids while still being in love with first wife that his second wife struggling to find acceptance with families, children, and husband and also doing household duties so why akshara is being criticised for making same choice.

Whatever happened during Abhir's birth is self inflicted by Akshara or her dumb decision supported by a dumb man Abhinav..She knows the complications of pregnancy which sane woman will do that?I wonder whether she cared about the child ? Who will risk like that knowing the complications and the man who supported her didn't even think about her health ?which stranger younger will keep a pregnant lady with him ? Don't he thought of informing her relatives find out more about her nothing ...Always stupid decision by her and says she is victim...If she is really strong she won't hide Abhir's identity..She thinks she is right always ...If someone questions her then she ran away from there...

Same Abhinav chose Abhir over Akshara during child birth yet is hailed as so called Acha admi..Akshara used to give lectures to aarohi for lying n deceiving people but kudh aage jake she committed paternity fraud along with her husband n had no guilt or remorse over it so how was she the strongest fl of yrkkh ?

Akshara Goenka Birla Sharma was anything but strong

She loved Abhimanyu right still instead of accepting or exposing Aarohi's truth n being together with her love She chose to run away with her sister's fiance on the wedding day

Is running away with sister's fiance a sign of strength n self respect

The husband she chose n his family hurt her when she was pregnant n divorced her n she left n that was the Only time she was actually strong n had some self respect

Even I thought she genuinely loved Abhinav but her actions after his death proved that She just used him to raise Abhir as she herself was not capable of that as we saw how she handled Abhir's trauma depression phase n her never even mentioning Abhir to Abhira proves that she hardly had much motherly feelings for Abhir

She even after having support still wanted to abort Abhira because of Abhir n Manju mata It's not that nobody supported her Where was her so called strength

Abhimanyu ne divorce diya par Abhinav hai na then Abhinav mar gaya par Abhimanyu hai na

Abhir mar gaya par Abhira hai na

That was the philosophy of her life If not this person then that person Akshara Goenka Never loved anyone in her life except herself which is okay after all everyone does it But she behaved like she is doing some biggest Sacrifice for others while she was plain Selfish

Akshara is the woman who forcefully got her Only daughter married to a rich ex-student of hers about whom she don't know anything except his professional capabilities n his polite nature which sometimes even criminals have just to provide safety to her daughter

What was Akshara's thought process that married women are not harassed and that Only married women are safe from Pyscho's This should be because she could have just took a promise from Armaan to take care of Abhira n let Yuvraj be punished for his criminal acts as he is a capable lawyer but she got them married because she had this mindset that after marriage Abhira will miraculously be safe from that psycho

Abhinav n Abhir died in vain One she used for years n other one she forgot conveniently

Akshara Goenka was a plain opportunist who used people n situations for her own motives n painted herself as some mahaan sacrifice ki murat when actually she was ruining others life

But yeah I agree that she lived her life as she wished When she wanted family she returned to Goenka's or Birla n when she wanted to live alone she made a grand show of sacrificing for sister or her ex-husband or Ruhi n left as if she was the most bechari victim who is forced n abandoned by everyone