What is khuddari?

Today a lot of discussion is going on regarding #khuddari in the EDT. There I just don't want to argue with anyone anymore, so asking you all a genuine question, if somebody raises her voice in her inlaws house over any sort of ill- treatment with her, irrespective of the fact that whether she is working or a homemaker. Is it not unfair to say she can't do the same because the ones on whom she is raising her voice is feeding her food and giving her a shelter to stay?

Bandi kare toh kare kya? Doormat bane ya bagawat kare? Ab agar bagawat kare toh zaruri toh nahi ki pati ko chor de, woh us ghar me apne pati ke saath rehte hue bhi galat ko galat keh sakti hai ya nahi?

I genuinely want to know as I'm not married yet.

How come dadisa and the great lawyer poddar family doesn't know that prenup in india stands void and invalid in court

I thought everyone knows there is nothing like Prenup in our country. Ghanta lawyer hai yeh family

Originally posted by: Sneha.Narayanan

I thought everyone knows there is nothing like Prenup in our country. Ghanta lawyer hai yeh family

During contact marriage

If she was not a contract bahu and had a intention to continue with marriage i have no issues her raising voice for ill treatment.

But ab had no intention to continue as poddar bahu at that time. Knowing Armaan's state of being illegitimate child her raising voice will have impact on armaan as he should stay in the house for rest of the years until death.

Ab should have went with the flow and should have minded her own buisness and let armaan handle the things for her. As in the end armaan is not getting aby benefit from this marriage and it was only ab who was getting some security,food and a place to stay

Post contract marriage

She will be a stranger here so she has no rights to get involved in family matters. I will never like someone coming and giving gyaan when i am dealing with family matters as I know more about my family than outsiders. Unless the situation is someone beating a kid or a women etc then definitely ab can Interfere as that's a crime.

Post falling in love with armaan

She is still his gf and not a bahu yet and she is still staying in their house and also may be getting free food. But she still goes and taunts dadisa main poddar firm ko hila dungi looks wierd as you are eating the food that was earned by very own poddar firm.

She has evey right raise her voice when someone talks about her mom without knowing her mom. She can very well raise her voice when someone talks about her parents.

Like wise dadisa has every right to raise her voice when she insults or talks about those things which dadisa has built with her own sweat and blood. Only dadisa knows the struggle she and her husband has gone through to build that firm.

Dadisa and ab both should stop going personal and mind their own buisness. Ab can take stand for kids under 18 years. Rest all are adults who can take stand for themselves if needed.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

During contact marriage

If she was not a contract bahu and had a intention to continue with marriage i have no issues her raising voice for ill treatment.

But ab had no intention to continue as poddar bahu at that time. Knowing Armaan's state of being illegitimate child her raising voice will have impact on armaan as he should stay in the house for rest of the years until death.

Ab should have went with the flow and should have minded her own buisness and let armaan handle the things for her. As in the end armaan is not getting aby benefit from this marriage and it was only ab who was getting some security,food and a place to stay

Post contract marriage

She will be a stranger here so she has no rights to get involved in family matters. I will never like someone coming and giving gyaan when i am dealing with family matters as I know more about my family than outsiders. Unless the situation is someone beating a kid or a women etc then definitely ab can Interfere as that's a crime.

Post falling in love with armaan

She is still his gf and not a bahu yet and she is still staying in their house and also may be getting free food. But she still goes and taunts dadisa main poddar firm ko hila dungi looks wierd as you are eating the food that was earned by very own poddar firm.

She has evey right raise her voice when someone talks about her mom without knowing her mom. She can very well raise her voice when someone talks about her parents.

Like wise dadisa has every right to raise her voice when she insults or talks about those things which dadisa has built with her own sweat and blood. Only dadisa knows the struggle she and her husband has gone through to build that firm.

Dadisa and ab both should stop going personal and mind their own buisness. Ab can take stand for kids under 18 years. Rest all are adults who can take stand for themselves if needed.

Anyway I get your point and respect your opinion in this.

Please someone forward this to dadisa

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Originally posted by: Debospeaks

I think that she said when dadi sa along with fufa tried to wrongfully loose her license by bribing, don't know if I'm wrong but she was eating foods brought by Madhav, who doesn't work in that firm.

Anyway I get your point and respect your opinion in this.

Everything lies in how a person conveys. So yeah that's all i wanted to say

Originally posted by: Debospeaks

Today a lot of discussion is going on regarding #khuddari in the EDT. There I just don't want to argue with anyone anymore, so asking you all a genuine question, if somebody raises her voice in her inlaws house over any sort of ill- treatment with her, irrespective of the fact that whether she is working or a homemaker. Is it not unfair to say she can't do the same because the ones on whom she is raising her voice is feeding her food and giving her a shelter to stay?

Bandi kare toh kare kya? Doormat bane ya bagawat kare? Ab agar bagawat kare toh zaruri toh nahi ki pati ko chor de, woh us ghar me apne pati ke saath rehte hue bhi galat ko galat keh sakti hai ya nahi?

I genuinely want to know as I'm not married yet.

And just bcz u respect a particular elder of your family, it should not be a compulsion to agree on each and every decision taken by them. If u feel that its wrong, then voice it out. Afterall respect should not come with a baggage of fear.

You should never take any ill-treatment from anyone including inlaws.

In the very initial days it makes sense to observe and be open minded but if the mistreatment is obvious then voice it out to husband first. If the man is good then your work gets easier. If not then you have to stand up for yourself. If a girl is working that gives them a very big strength so that you do not feel that you are at the mercy of husband/in laws. And if you are not working then you should let ur parents/siblings know and tell them how you want to approach them if things are going out of hand.

I seriously cannot relate to the illtreatment that this Hindi serials give to the FLs. No swabhimani woman should ever stay in any of these sasurals. But again how I think depends upon how was I brought up and what I saw growing up. In many parts of India, girls learn from he childhood that in laws are Gods and you have to listen to whatever they say and that is what they blindly follow. But that never should be the case. And that's why education and self dependency is a must for any girl so you know not to stay in an oppressed household.