Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai 16th Jul 2024 Written Update and EDT - Page 38

Originally posted by: Ohgod!

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This suits poddars, goenkas (+RUHI) very well. What say folks?

Originally posted by: Susi26

Why Dadi has so much hatred for Abhira?

According to my hypothesis, the reason why Dadisa hates Abhira is that Abhira has her own mind. She thinks independently, whereas Dadisa is a certified control freak who wants to micro-manage her minions.

The rest of the fam falls in line and even though dissatisfied, they still dare not rebel against their situation. The usual non-confrontational mango people.

Abhira, on the other hand is a loose cannon. She's stubborn, opinionated, idealist and a go-getter. A dangerous adversary to a control freak. Dadisa knows she cannot pull Abhira's strings and that makes her unpredictable - a liability if you will. She knows Abhira has the power to sway her oppresses family, as is evident by now.

Dadisa hates Abhira because she's afraid of her.

Originally posted by: barbieflora

According to my hypothesis, the reason why Dadisa hates Abhira is that Abhira has her own mind. She thinks independently, whereas Dadisa is a certified control freak who wants to micro-manage her minions.

The rest of the fam falls in line and even though dissatisfied, they still dare not rebel against their situation. The usual non-confrontational mango people.

Abhira, on the other hand is a loose cannon. She's stubborn, opinionated, idealist and a go-getter. A dangerous adversary to a control freak. Dadisa knows she cannot pull Abhira's strings and that makes her unpredictable - a liability if you will. She knows Abhira has the power to sway her oppresses family, as is evident by now.

Dadisa hates Abhira because she's afraid of her.

Originally posted by: Solitudelover

I only thought so because of supporting actress award less than 2 months into the show which I felt was strange. I did not think the same for the prev actress though, so it was really not about who is playing Ruhi

Okay My mistake

Because previously many theories were made in this forum about Pratiksha as well about her being favourite or related somehow to DKP n team So reading your comment I thought it's the same

Originally posted by: Susi26

I disagree! Why would Dadi be scared of a 23 yr old who is nothing before her.. Abhira’s only credibility until now is being at the shadow of Armaan.. whatever she achieved is because of him.. she already admitted that. Staying in the same house, she can still be opinionated which we already saw from day 1. Dadi tolerated her already for 10 months. Now she don’t want to stay in the same house as hers.. this is hatred. She hates because of Abhira’s attitude and behavior towards her and many other reasons, which I’ve already stated.. not because she’s afraid of her

Abhira holds a power not unlike the one dadisa herself holds with the other family members. While dadisa uses the power to push or control others which has its limits, abhira effortlessly uses it to help others be in control of themselves which makes abhira's power far more superior then dadisas. Abhira is the only other person who can make the other family members listen to her, the only other person who was capable of uniting madhav and vidya and dadisa being a smart women understands that. Which is why she is afraid of abhira and with that fear comes her hatred towards abhira.

Phupasa hates abhira because of her attitude but dadi's hatred much more than that.

Originally posted by: Susi26

Just watched the episode.. the flashbacks that dadi got while driving the car were of Madhav, Manisha, Vidya and Armaan.. all were questioning Dadi with respect to her denial for Abhira being accepted into the house. And the moment she got heartache she was thinking of Armaan saying that he will marry Abhira again. So its clear that Abhira and Armaan is the reason for all this..

Why Dadi has so much hatred for Abhira?

Is it because she is an orphan who doesn’t have anyone or any background? But she already accepted her as bahu even before the deal truth was out.

Is it because she did law and wants to work against to Dadi’s rules where women are not allowed to work? But Dadi already gave her permission to study law and work as a lawyer in Dev’s firm.

The reason Dadi always belittle Abhira and doesn’t want to see her in that house is because the way Abhira behaves with Dadi.. according to Dadi, Abhira is always galat. Because of the way she handles things, talks and the way she has driven all the members to her side. Before she used to dislike her, but now she hates her. Usually being the bahu Abhira has to convert that dislike into acceptance, but due to her behaviour and attitude she couldn't receive the long due blessings from dadi.

Dadi feels she got defeated before Abhira, yes it’s true, because Abhira challenged dadi that she will overtake poddar firm, which she actually did it as fufa is no more in the good books, Armaan choosing Abhira above poddar firm( he already gave resignation once) and now both of them caused dadi to leave the house and if dadi is not there, no address for the firm too.

By seeing dadi, I remember my grandfather who is now 93 yrs old. He used to dictate everyone in our house including my parents and relatives of their age, We started disliking whenever he intervened in our lives once we grew up into adults. But we got tuned to his discipline that we never went against him or even spoke a word against him. All his corrections were actually beneficial to our well-being. PH was like that until Abhira entered.. Now when I look back if I have to recall what all I learned from him.. I have to admit hat it has turned me into a better person not worse. People like him don’t change easily as per the present situations.. and there is nothing wrong in obeying the elders as their wisdom is better and they foresee the future better than us.

What all dadi predicted has come to true for better or for worse. If Abhira had toned down and think about the harmony of that house, she would have got that haq and ijjat that Armaan is wanting for. Now even Armaan lost that for himself. So what’s the big thing, they can still marry and choose to stay outside, but can they live in peace far from everyone. There will always be a void and emptiness in their hearts for staying away from family. It may not be new for Abhira, in place of her mom she got Armaan, but Armaan can he lead a life far from his family who was there with him since his childhood. Let’s see!,

There is a difference between elders tring to discipline you and trying to control you. Dadisa wants things done her way even if it is her son and DIL reuniting. She would purposely break them apart and then proceed to unite them herself to show the world that she is the only one capable of doing to.

When a ITV heroine behaves like a doormat, we say stop doing it. When she stands with her personality and identity, we say she has to tone down and think about the harmony of the family. It's funny that we still think that way .

And where is Harmony in podaar house. There are all puppets with a puppet master dadisa. They are led to believe that they are happy and content. Armaan even for once decides to do something he likes, he is ridiculed and his parentage brought up. Even during the Ar-ruhi wedding track, the minute she realised that Ar has fallen for Abira, she brought all of his childhood things and blackmailed and guilt tripped him into going forward with the wedding.imagine how many times dadisa would have brought that topic up to a point where even charu used it once

With abhira armaan can see the truth, and with abira he gathers courage. She is not a puppet. She ll not bend to dadisa. That is why despite everything he did not feel any guilt and asked abhira for marriage. Because he knows she is the only person who will love and stay with him no matter what dadisa sayd. Even ruhi with all her "naa bhulane wala pyaar" for armaan would have asked armaan to stay and suffocate with dadisa and others.

Originally posted by: All_A_MooPoint

There is a difference between elders tring to discipline you and trying to control you. Dadisa wants things done her way even if it is her son and DIL reuniting. She would purposely break them apart and then proceed to unite them herself to show the world that she is the only one capable of doing to.

When a ITV heroine behaves like a doormat, we say stop doing it. When she stands with her personality and identity, we say she has to tone down and think about the harmony of the family. It's funny that we still think that way .

And where is Harmony in podaar house. There are all puppets with a puppet master dadisa. They are led to believe that they are happy and content. Armaan even for once decides to do something he likes, he is ridiculed and his parentage brought up. Even during the Ar-ruhi wedding track, the minute she realised that Ar has fallen for Abira, she brought all of his childhood things and blackmailed and guilt tripped him into going forward with the wedding.imagine how many times dadisa would have brought that topic up to a point where even charu used it once

With abhira armaan can see the truth, and with abira he gathers courage. She is not a puppet. She ll not bend to dadisa. That is why despite everything he did not feel any guilt and asked abhira for marriage. Because he knows she is the only person who will love and stay with him no matter what dadisa sayd. Even ruhi with all her "naa bhulane wala pyaar" for armaan would have asked armaan to stay and suffocate with dadisa and others.

Originally posted by: All_A_MooPoint

Abhira holds a power not unlike the one dadisa herself holds with the other family members. While dadisa uses the power to push or control others which has its limits, abhira effortlessly uses it to help others be in control of themselves which makes abhira's power far more superior then dadisas. Abhira is the only other person who can make the other family members listen to her, the only other person who was capable of uniting madhav and vidya and dadisa being a smart women understands that. Which is why she is afraid of abhira and with that fear comes her hatred towards abhira.

Phupasa hates abhira because of her attitude but dadi's hatred much more than that.

Originally posted by: Susi26

let her hold power in her mumma’s house, with her mumma.. why to intrude into the matters of the dadi’s house which she thinks is only for 1 year . Being an outsider and challenging Dadi in her house for every other thing definitely brings hatred towards her. In the past there are many itv heroins who are strong and inspirational but never badtameez and egoistic.

If abira is batameez and egoistic, isn't dadisa and abhira just two peas in a pond. In a lot of ways they are very similar. It all comes down to the intentions.

Abhira may be impulsive but never batameez. She makes mistakes but owns up to it. Not like dadi and ruhi who justifies their wrong doings. It comes down to perspectives. There are people in real life like dadisa who believe that a girl who opens her mouth infront of elders even to tell the truth is badtameez.

Originally posted by: Susi26

We are watching the show from two different prospective.. so there is no point of debating further 😀.

Debate happens when we have different perspectives...if we had the same perspective, THEN there would be no point for one...isn't that the whole point of a forum.