see ..like a parent or a teacher or a mentor says, I can’t believe you did this you idiot ..you’re so good ..how could you have got this wrong ..it’s like that ..it is not about blaming Abhira but feeling a deep sense of frustration and some anger even that she let herself fall into this mess ..we feel that way with people whom we have a right over and care about ..rest she is the victim here clear and simple ..no doubt about that..but you don’t want someone you love to be a victim do you ..that’s where the frustration stems from ..!Originally posted by: libran90
I, for one, am not blaming Abhira for anything.
This is just a big lesson for Abhira to not make decisions when you are in too much pain, sadness, fear, or happiness. Because your state of mind changes with time. Abhira is just a relevant example of that.
When Abhira spoke of the deal, she was in pain, with no one to trust and no intention of marriage or keeping it going. But with time, those thoughts have altered as she warmed up to Armaan and his family. Her current frame of mind is very happy and loving and she wants it to continue, even after 3 months. And she hasn't arrived at this conclusion suddenly.
It has taken 9 months of effort and work to build that comfort with Armaan, where he has fulfilled his duties as promised to her mother been a good companion, and hasn't crossed the line with her. Zimmedari means zimmedari. And he has fulfilled that bit.
Now, what Armaan is doing is deflecting again and again. She still asked him today to sign the DP. He tore it up and created a scene on that, for what?? Why hasn't he initiated a conversation on the future after 3 months with her?? Where will the relationship stand, how will they proceed, and what will she do after 3 months? Ye saari baatein ek "ZIMMEDAAR" insaan karta hai na?? So why hasn't that happened?
Armaan, being a 30+ guy, doesn't know the effect he has on a woman?? Can't he see her shift in body language? Isn't that also his "ZIMMEDARI" to ensure he doesn't give wrong signals to a growing 20+ woman?
Feelings grow, evolve, and change over time for human beings. And feelings cannot be controlled either.
Abhira is human, so she is experiencing it and that tends to shut off your alertness, unless you shaken out of it.
Armaan is in-hoo-man who has had no growth since last 9 months,he doesn't feel, he doesn't care, he doesn't change. He is feel-less, care-less, change-less, brain-less, heart-less. In short, he is just a pawan ka jhokha who just blows on his own free will from here to there, and thrives on false promises and counter-productive personality traits.
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