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Posted: 2 years ago
#51

Originally posted by: Avanti30

U r right . No need of Abhinav or Abhimanyu or any male to support yourself and your son. U sell jam or fly planes or be a music therapist .. A women can do anything is what u mean is what I understand.

The female lead character itself is portrayed in bad light . And people are jumping like y Abhimanyu and y Abhinav ...it is either of them . Why can't she be shown as a single women. She is strong and in one of the episodes post marriage she says to Abhi ...thum aag ho tho main Pani ...sab ko keenchke lejasakti hoon .... something like that . But that phase in her was never shown except screaming at Abhimanyu.

So what I gathered from this is female characters are only strong and progressive when they are depicted as single. If say, Akshu had a bisexual realisation after divorcing Abhim, she would have been wrong, and weak, and dependent to get in a relationship with a woman and explore her queerness. Strong women are single women.

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Posted: 2 years ago
#52

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

Akshara needs to be in a drunken state to say ILU to her husband from 6 years. From my and my point of view marriage between Akshara and Abhinav is not a marriage at all. It is a comprise that Akshara has made with her life so that she can give a stable family to Abhinav.


It is a compromise that Abhinav has made so he can have a wife, a child and a family. He has even adopted the neighbour as his own sister.



How do you know its a compromise ?😕 Frm what I have seen she is in a blissful state after abhirs surgery and bk in kasauli?


Also , she didn't confess in a drunk state to her husband of 6 yrs , she said I love you in a drunk state to her husband whom she confessed love less than a month ago. I love you r mere words , she already confessed love to him and most probably consummated her marriage too.


Ok let's assume abhinav is dead tomorrow. So if she goes bk to abhim for abhirs sake , will it make her a strong woman or a weak woman ?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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From whatever I have seen till now, in many of Akshara’s choices - she is driven by emotions and she thinks deeply only after making the decision. She married Abhinav but later started preparing for law. So she does think of the future and consequences but not at the right time - which keeps messing up things around her.

I agree that her intentions might be good but the way and the timings of her decision-making makes even her right decisions appear wrong. For example if you watch American legal dramas - they say even the right evidence acquired legally is inadmissible in court - so I think it her character keeps functioning in a controversial or grey area - while she tries to do things for the best.(If you yourself start being unfair, you no longer possess the moral high ground to point fingers at others.) And so her actions will always be debatable - right goals but not so right methods/ways.

I have no issues with her moving on but again the narrative they set, Akshara not reaching out to her family for help(if she remained distant with them I could at least understand but she has been in touch with them and came to meet them after leap - the makers to be blamed perhaps for how they brought them together without giving any closure?!). When the nurse admired Abhinav as a father, they could have shown more as to how Akshara slowly started melting towards Abhinav because of his goodness and maybe fell for him and later married him out of love. But the scene where she asks him to be a father and be with her - although he agrees - I just find that funny and idiotic. Like who does that!? (And Abhinav could have gotten both Akshara and Abhir to Kasauli- and made them stay with Neelamma until they fell in love - now that we know how close he is to Muskan and Neelamma - that would have been a better story in my opinion)

I know many would say that legally she had right to choose the father - but if we simply compare the legal validity of actions - Abhimanyu also didn’t break any law by divorcing her. Whatever they both did was legal - but they were still wrong. (I am not going to compare who was more or less wrong) Because regardless of the situation, their actions were unethical or unfair to all involved - even Abhir. Just like Abhimanyu had 6-7 months to go and look for her, Akshara too had 6 years to at least inform just Goenka’s. She should have at least opposed Arohi-Abhimanyu’s alliance as she knew very well that whenever Abhimanyu go to know the truth it would skew his priorities towards Ruhi - for whom Arohi was marrying him. And if she truly felt indifferent - she shouldn’t have said anything in favor of their alliance either. So I do not find her to be very good at managing relationships - or more importantly of the way she tries to balance things. She makes the simplest of things complicated.

Don’t see anything wrong with her career choices though - its not like she was a well established singer before(she sang for someone else) - so she would have had to struggle a lot almost from scratch - and with a kid wouldn’t be easy. And someone who was herself in need of therapy cannot be a therapist to others I guess. Yet she did work hard and give her best in whatever she took up and I think at least that is one of the few things I genuinely like about her.

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Posted: 2 years ago
#54

Some women choose to be single and raise their kids. Some wants a companion and a father for their kids. Their life, their choice. Neither are wrong or lower than the other.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Also a woman pining for a husband who questioned her character or threw her out at her weakest isn't necessarily the strongest of the lot.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: janecastle

Some women choose to be single and raise their kids. Some wants a companion and a father for their kids. Their life, their choice. Neither are wrong or lower than the other.

True..are we gonna ques her choice again if abhinav dies and she re marries abhimanyu ? Why can't she be a single mother then? A strong independent woman , go bk to the goenkas and make a career if it makes her strong , phir kya hoga ? Deep down love theories, how abhim always was a Saint, how akshu always loved him blah blah hence marry him?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: janecastle

Also a woman pining for a husband who questioned her character or threw her out at her weakest isn't necessarily the strongest of the lot.

Sai joshi🤣😂😅

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: akniti

Sai joshi🤣😂😅

Sorry Jane....here I love abira 🤣😂😅

Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: AKHIAWAL

Not every woman want to go to moon and be business woman,lawyer..not everyone have to be BossGirl.. some are just simple and wanna be happy with little things and Ak is one of us. She can still make jam and be with a Driver..not everyone have to be Rich..also many girl will marry a guy who help her in every possible thing..or you wanna say the guy have to be Too handsome or paise? Wala? Then only girls will marry? Ak stayed with Abhinav for many month to know her..she didn't marry him the day they met in the bus..he wasn't stranger after knowing everything.. arrange marriages are compromise only. And people do fall in love after years


See but is it highlighted enough that This is what she wants, This is what is fine.


This jam making thing has shown as something she is doing out of need and not want. That's where the problem lies

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: akniti

Sorry Jane....here I love abira 🤣😂😅

No probs.. all of us have our own choices 🤗

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