Haq vs Letting go

First want to say that great thread by Lagjagale today. Loved the discussion.👏🏽

AbhiM is 'Haq' mentality personified. His Haq mentality gives him strength because he goes to any length to get what he feels is his haq. He feels that he has haq over every aspect of life of the person he loves. AK's one of the biggest struggle was to convince AbhiM, time and again to give her space. Be it her taking charitable hospital job or handling the issues at her workplace. AbhiM is bestowed with good looks, great educational and socioeconomic status. I will gv credit to AbhiM that he is not egoistic about that but yes, he naturally feels secured.

As opposed, AbhiN has a strong letting go tendacy. After Abhir's birth, he gave him kangaroo care for 72 hours and still gave the baby to AK and said, ' Apaka beta, sirf apaka beta'. In addition, due to lack of education, social status AbhiN feels unworthy of being AK's husband. He has expressed that many times.Now, AK's struggle in this relationship is to convince AbhiN to show some haq and feeling worthy of being with AK and Abhir. AbhiN does not hv experience but AK knows that money, education does not mean respect, care and happiness. AbhiN feels that money, status can bring happiness. Hence, AK needs to boost him there too..More AbhiN feels as a failure, more strongly he will let go and AK just wants to prevent that. She feels relived when AbhiN gets assertive over Abhir.

A question is asked why it took AK 6 years to start thinking about her married life with AbhiN. The honest answer is because Abhir needed to grow enough to understand difference between real papa and adopted papa and to keep Abhira reunion option open. Because by ITV logic consumation of martiage is death nail to moving on or moving back.

Still why it took AK such long time:

1. AK and AbhiN relationship never started on couple note. They were supposed to be just coparents.

2.AK is a supersensitive human being who loves all. She loved AbhiM immensely because as per her, he was love of her life. Every action of AbhiM due to his rage issues, trampled AK's heart to millions of pieces. Hence, she had NO plans to fall in love again. She had not strength to bear the pain if similar thing happens.

3.It is that AbhiN gave AK so much as wife which was not part of their agreement, that the relationship dynamics changed over time. As per me AK fell for him long before even AbhiM visited Kasauli.

4. Only thing is she never ever wanted to let herself know that such change has happened. She was and is still protecting her heart..

5. AbhiM's visit to Kasauli, just became a trigger for AK to act rather than remaning in a status co.It was also due to her fear that AbhiM being the person that he is will be quick to claim the haq and AbhiN would easily let go.

6.For the first time we see AK irked at AbhiN not showing any haq on her and Abhir, after AbhiM left Kasauli. AK said to AbhiN, why he does not hv any question about her past with AbhiM. AbhiN throughout has strictly abided the boundries set by AK. So AbhiN tells AK that he has no haq to ask that question because he is none to her in real sense. From there till today, it is AK who is breaking the boundries set by herself for AbhiN when AbhiN lets go things.

7. Is it gratitude or love? I feel is mix of both. Gratitude is natural feeling that AK has.. As AbhiN has done something unthinkable for her. But, as per me ( and Krinya) there is love too which is independant of gratitude. She misses him not being around. She has developed bond with him independant of Abhir too.

8. For AK, I think the struggle is convincing herself that she can fall in love for the second time after such a intense, passionate first love relationship. She might herself give it other names like out of gratitude or for the sake of her kasauli family and more..Even today, she is holding her heart back because she feels what if same thing happens again. Hence, she said after Pooja in kasauli, 'Is rishtey me ego aur Apaman na aaye..'

9. It is AbhiN and AK's journey to realize that even though they came together due to circumstances, they have fallen for each other and are worthy of each other irrespective of their material status difference. The journey can go either way! So hold your seatbelt!🙂