Nav berates AbhiM: Epi Air Date: 28 April 2023 - Page 30

I agree, I cannot believe S3 is so outdated. S2 was far ahead in terms of progressive ideas.

Now I don’t know what age would be best for a child to know his real parents v step. I’m sure there is research to support both options - revealing at say, age 6 versus at 12 when the child can understand the implications in a more worldly way.

I’m of the personal opinion that its important Abhir doesn’t feel he was lied to. Akshara can begin the process by opening up to Abhir about her own childhood and how she had two moms one that birthed her and Seerat that raised her. This will present the idea of biological parent versus step parent to Abhir.

After he soaks that in, he will be able to relate better to Abhi being his biological dad and Nav being his step dad.

What a mess. Roohi on one end and Abhir on the other 🤦🏻‍♀️ .

Originally posted by: DotDash

Bold 1 - society doesn't accept children without fathers - I am so furious at that dialogue by Nav. Our society has progressed enough that children without fathers are not looked down upon and get decent upbringing and treatment in general in society. But what hasn’t progressed is the mindset of writers who write such dialogue. If he had said father’s love (again not a requisite for child’s upbringing) but I would have still understood that a bit and would have digested it, but father’s name!! Sorry this dialogue was better suited in Victorian era!!

Bold 2 - truth is revealed to Abhir in a mature manner when he is older - that actually does more harm than good. It’s breaks the trust between parent and child if truth came out unintentionally in some form and you can’t control all circumstances. Also the Big Bang approach of revealing the truth is never advised in such cases because it is difficult for an individual to comprehend their life, specifically childhood if they get to know these things later in their life. (Personal experience from adoption counsellor). It’s better to tell the child at young age in age-appropriate manner.

Originally posted by: IAMHope

… and I thought her hints were difficult to understand…..

“The show doesn’t make sense now, so there is no point in fighting about how they should behave , the geniuses can make them flip and suddenly your favourite might start behaving like the one you don’t like.”

PS this is just for fun, I don’t know what she’s trying to say.

My actual intention for this post was to ask Ash to guide me to the nearest wall.
I love Rumi’s poems 🙏 I have read his poem on marriage,it’s ❤️

Originally posted by: IAMHope

Lifted from internet

Meaning of Rumi’s “and” ( for those interested)

If I say, lets be friends : YOU and ME.. Our friendship will depend on that "and" between us. Unseen and unknowable. Something in the middle yet far beyond us. Only this understanding of something 'more' working around us will take away this attitude of "I , ME, MYSELF" away. You and me will then be truly connected.

Let us bow before this power of "and" and say thanks to Rumi for having made us face to face with this powerful word that connects us with everything around.

For so many things happening around us many variables are working. We do not see those connecting dots (Rumi's "and"). We take the continuity as granted. Successful are those who keep a close eye on this connecting dots and align their behaviour accordingly.

Bhaiya yeh bhi samajh nahi aaya. Jokes aside I dont think these are hints. It felt like she was comforting people who were upset about the current track. The reasons I feel so strongly that the makers intend on Abhira finding their way back is because Harshad said something to that effect during the awards. The other thing that he said that no one has discussed is he mentioned that when he was not happy Rajan Shahi called him and said come meet me, I was the one you met initially and comforted and encouraged him. This made me feel like Rajan has given him some sort of assurance. Again I could be reading too much into nothing and kal mera kat jayega

The issue is the makers are twisting this so much, two couples and two children involved. And I know they will not solve it - they will kill one and turn another super villain and drop the hot mess and plunge into season 4 when the kids will have to deal with the outcome. They will create the mess they won’t fix it

Originally posted by: DotDash

OMG please nooo. Not one more person knowing the truth and keeping quiet.

At that rate, we could be stuck in limbo for weeks!! Imagine BP, suwarna, Manjiri, Mimi etc all knowing the truth in their own dedicated episode and keeping quite. may be Nishta will finally tell everyone and all will be like we knew already - you knew too?? Comedy episode 🎭

On serious note - I don’t expect or want Abhi to give up Abhir. But if he does please just let Manjiri know 🤞. All hell will break loose.

Originally posted by: Hopefaith

Since I am planning my next career as a locker thief Iet me try and decode.

“The show doesn’t make sense now, so there is no point in fighting about how they should behave , the geniuses can make them flip and suddenly your favourite might start behaving like the one you don’t like.”

PS this is just for fun, I don’t know what she’s trying to say.

My actual intention for this post was to ask Ash to guide me to the nearest wall.
I love Rumi’s poems 🙏 I have read his poem on marriage,it’s ❤️

Don’t think you are too far off the mark there Nitya. It pretty much sums up what is being shown

According to me the only person who can get the story out of this chakrvyuh is Abhimanyu (see what I did there 😉). The story will only move forward when Akshara can actually see Abhi's remorse and repentance. That will only happen if he and Akshara have a heartfelt conversation and he tells her how sorry he is, how much he regrets what happened over the last six years and how even though he cannot change what happened between him and Akshara, he will respect the fact that Akshara is Abhir's primary parent and he will follow her cues. Sometimes to heal a person just needs to hear that the person who wronged them is really sorry. It does not take any grand gestures. Often just the word sorry can start the process of healing. Or he could defend her to his mom/ Goenkas in front of Akshara. Anything that makes Akshara feel heard. Right now Abhimanyu has not acknowledged any wrong doing. He may have admitted it to Shefali but Akshara is not privy to that. Akshara can only see that Abhi pities himself and sees himself as the wronged party. Once she sees some sort of apology or remorse from Abhi, I think she will start to thaw and start making some logical decisions

As far as Akshara is concerned, she has made mistakes and her greatest flaw/ mistake is avoidance. She needs to learn to face things head on. Not telling people Abhir's truth is only postponing the inevitable and making the eventual fall out worse for everyone involved. She needs to be able to hold her head high and tell everyone the facts. Frankly Arohi and Abhi's wedding or Manjari's feelings are none of her damn business but her sons truth is. The truth will come out. You may as well be the one to control the narrative and tell it to people.

This glorification and non stop narration of Abhinav puran needs to stop. We get it he is a good man and I am not being sarcastic, but you dont need to shove it down the viewers and Abhi's throat at every opportunity. They have said that Abhinav is acha so many times that now I have my serious doubts that he is acha

On a different tangent I wish they had used the "tera mujhse hai pehle ka naata koi" song on Abhir, Abhimanyu and Akshara. I love that song and it would have fit so well on the current narrative

Originally posted by: sunshining

Don’t think you are too far off the mark there Nitya. It pretty much sums up what is being shown

So Boss Ms Sunshining you think I should really try my hand in becoming a locker thief.

ps I am just kidding i have no intention of becoming a thief I for the most part try to walk on the narrow path of righteousness, only sometimes i steal a few extra kela chips from the husband, or eat a couple of more mangoes or peaches but for fun because the husband doesn’t even realize I have done so.

Originally posted by: Hopefaith

So Boss Ms Sunshining you think I should really try my hand in becoming a locker thief.

ps I am just kidding i have no intention of becoming a thief I for the most part try to walk on the narrow path of righteousness, only sometimes i steal a few extra kela chips from the husband, or eat a couple of more mangoes or peaches but for fun because the husband doesn’t even realize I have done so.

ROLF, I was referring to your interpretation of Rumi poem.

Don’t think she has forgiven or forgotten. She would h have told Akshu to leave she would have to AB she knows he is his son. What she does is she tries to Abhir away. She has become smart. She now doesn’t have to scream and screech. And when no one is around she is same to AK. She is just a “mature” aka smarter version of her old self. She wants the marriage before Abhir truth is out. That not a white washed person.

Originally posted by: jhustju

According to me the only way person who can get the story out of this chakrvyuh is Abhimanyu (see what I did there 😉). The story will only move forward when Akshara can actually see Abhi's remorse and repentance. That will only happen if he and Akshara have a heartfelt conversation and he tells her how sorry he is, how much he regrets what happened over the last six years and how even though he cannot change what happened between him and Akshara, he will respect the fact that Akshara is Abhir's primary parent and he will follow her cues. Sometimes to heal a person just needs to hear that the person who wronged them is really sorry. It does not take any grand gestures. Often just the word sorry can start the process of healing. Or he could defend her to his mom/ Goenkas in front of Akshara. Anything that makes Akshara feel heard. Right now Abhimanyu has not acknowledged any wrong doing. He may have admitted it to Shefali but Akshara is not privy to that. Akshara can only see that Abhi pities himself and sees himself as the wronged party. Once she sees some sort of apology or remorse from Abhi, I think she will start to thaw and start making some logical decisions

As far as Akshara is concerned, she has made mistakes and her greatest flaw/ mistake is avoidance. She needs to learn to face things head on. Not telling people Abhir's truth is only postponing the inevitable and making the eventual fall out worse for everyone involved. She needs to be able to hold her head high and tell everyone the facts. Frankly Arohi and Abhi's wedding or Manjari's feelings are none of her damn business but her sons truth is. The truth will come out. You may as well be the one to control the narrative and tell it to people.

This glorification and non stop narration of Abhinav puran needs to stop. We get it he is a good man and I am not being sarcastic, but you dont need to shove it down the viewers and Abhi's throat at every opportunity. They have said that Abhinav is acha so many times that now I have my serious doubts that he is acha

On a different tangent I wish they had used the "tera mujhse hai pehle ka naata koi" song on Abhir, Abhimanyu and Akshara. I love that song and it would have fit so well on the current narrative

lovely post but do makers give any good plots a thought? Sadly know. They will continue this illogical track as long TRP audience don’t walk away.