Abhimanyu insecurities are similar to naitik's

I remember in first generation..naitik was also extremely insecure..that man didn't even enjoy his own wedding because of his insecurities over his cousin rituraj...akshara's marriage was fixed to riturarj first and she liked him but after that marriage broke akshara moved on ..and then her marriage got fixed to naitik..when naitik found out this truth he started getting insecure and blamed akshara for liking someone else before him..🙄..the entire wedding was ruined because of his insecurities..

Even after marriage..naitik used to get insecure and jealous when akshara prioritized her in laws family and spent more time with them ..naitik always complained about this and the couple ended up fighting everytime..

Season 3 is going on similar lines..abhimanyu is more aggressive and outspoken than naitik but his insecurities are similar to naitik's insecurities..abhimanyu can't tolerate akshu prioritizing someone else over him..be it her sister or her family..even if its for games or fun abhimanyu gets triggered and angry..

Abhimanyu even gets jealous of a child and he also can't tolerate his intern Rohan around akshu..these insecurities will never fade away completely..it'll keep on getting triggered from time to time..

Going by akshu's nature she'll try to get closer to birlas and sort their problems out after her marriage and this will make abhimanyu jealous..he'll keep on complaining to her about her priorities sometimes it will be subtle and sometimes it'll be loud...most of abhira's fights after marriage will be bashed on abhimanyu's insecurities

The way abhimanyu shouts 'meri akshu meri akshu' endlessly..this proves that he wants to hold a complete authority over akshu..he keeps on making sure that everybody knows that akshu is HIS and she belongs to him only... Arohi won't be a bigger problem in Abhira married life..it'll be abhimanyu's insecurities and akshu's stupidity that will cause the biggest damage

I don't think this issue will sort out so easily..

So is this good or bad 😆

Originally posted by: _charu_

So is this good or bad 😆

I see what you’re saying and most days I feel the same but I feel the comparison with Natik is a little off. Unlike the singhanias and Maheshwaris, the people Akshara is prioritizing/neglecting her relationship with Abhi for don’t reciprocate the love or treat her with the respect she gives them.

Yes the Singhania’s had misunderstanding tracks that pit Gayatri and Akshara against each other or Bhabhimaa and Akshara at odd ends but for the most time, they adored her.

Here we have Aarohi who can’t bring herself to love Akshu. I know Aarohi cares for Akshu and I saw a potential for them in the future (though this accident track is crushing those hopes) but because of her mindset, she won’t reciprocate openly and use Akshu so Abhi does get mad that he’s getting sidetracked for someone that will break Akshu’s heart. For example, when Akshu and Aaru were talking in the hospital after Aaru fainted and Akshu had a panic attack, Abhi wasn’t jealous of Aarohi, he was concerned for Akshu and so he kept watch. When he went inside the room and saw Aaru’s hold on Akshu, then possessiveness might’ve spike but it was still misty concern imo

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

its complicated..insecurities are not healthy for relationships

My question was , is it a compliment to abhimanyu or he has fallen as low as naitik? Depends on how we see naitik.

Comparing any two people is futile but I wanna know the reason why these comparisons are coming up. Coz the two are like apples and oranges. Each have their strengths and weaknesses.

It's wrong to tag someone as insecure coz they were an asshole at some point ...I don't judge abhimanyu also like that.... Naitik had his reasons . His was an arranged marriage to akshara . Just before his mehndi he gets to know that akshara might have had feelings for someone before him...he didn't know how deep it was, what happened between them, first love is after all first love..I dunno how well you have seen s1. Know he was bashed a lot ,he was an ass to her on mehendi , blamed her for not telling him etc etc . All justified.

Yes he spoiled his own marriage for a stupid thought process . The only reason why this happened was coz miscommunication. He wasn't allowed to talk to akshara before pheras ..when they did talk properly on their wedding night and akshara explained him everything , he was quick to understand that his fears were baseless. This topic never came.up between them in the future. That's called trusting and understanding the partner which he did.

Coming to post marriage , he was never insecure coz akshara put her in laws above her. Post marriage it's natural for the couple to spend time with each other, which is sometimes not possible due to joint family system and expectations from the new bahu. Unlike akshu who does family jaap 24×7 , akshara wasn't like that..akshara was a rebel in her own sweet way..she cared for her family respect and everybody's wishes , plus her own.........even akshara wanted to spend time with naitik but she was overloaded with expectations , demands and rules of her in laws..there, naitik was also demanding.... It was a very realistic track as such problems r normally faced by all couples. Same.issues naira also faced..However it lasted for a short while . It's not about prioritizing its about managing . Priority jisko bhi denge others on the list will complain.

Except for one instance where he asked akshara to leave (for hiding nandini mohit affair) , when did akshara leave house or when did naitik not trust her or when did they misunderstand each other to the extent of separation , when did he not care for her , not love her, overlooked a lot of things for her , overstepped boundaries for her , when did he character assassinate her like kartik? Akshara had a few problems , more bec of her in laws , rest she managed well. Naira had problems bec she and kartik couldn't really stand by each other n understand the depth of their relation .

As for abhira , their journey has just started . N bec abhimanyu claims to be so much in love with akshu, Expectations from him will be immense....more the expectations, more he will fail , more he will be bashed . Unlike naitik and kartik he doesn't doesn't bother for his family..but he has an unhealthy obsession with his mom, now akshu.. it's one person or family, it's the same thing ...effect will be similar. Akshu will face problems bec of this ..more so bec manjari can be easily influenced . The same unhealthy obsession , akshu shares with aru . N abhimanyu will face a lot of problems due to aru jaap . Except for this ,I don't see any issue between the two. Not the families or any insecurity .

The fls take it upon themselves to fix the relations but forget that husband is the first link to the in laws. Classic case of good intentions causing more harm than good. From the 3 heroines, akshara managed to balance everything better . Without naitiks support it was impossible.

Sorry for the long post..I dunno if I made any sense or not 🤯

Originally posted by: _charu_

My question was , is it a compliment to abhimanyu or he has fallen as low as naitik? Depends on how we see naitik.

Comparing any two people is futile but I wanna know the reason why these comparisons are coming up. Coz the two are like apples and oranges. Each have their strengths and weaknesses.

It's wrong to tag someone as insecure coz they were an asshole at some point ...I don't judge abhimanyu also like that.... Naitik had his reasons . His was an arranged marriage to akshara . Just before his mehndi he gets to know that akshara might have had feelings for someone before him...he didn't know how deep it was, what happened between them, first love is after all first love..I dunno how well you have seen s1. Know he was bashed a lot ,he was an ass to her on mehendi , blamed her for not telling him etc etc . All justified.

Yes he spoiled his own marriage for a stupid thought process . The only reason why this happened was coz miscommunication. He wasn't allowed to talk to akshara before pheras ..when they did talk properly on their wedding night and akshara explained him everything , he was quick to understand that his fears were baseless. This topic never came.up between them in the future. That's called trusting and understanding the partner which he did.

Coming to post marriage , he was never insecure coz akshara put her in laws above her. Post marriage it's natural for the couple to spend time with each other, which is sometimes not possible due to joint family system and expectations from the new bahu. Unlike akshu who does family jaap 24×7 , akshara wasn't like that..akshara was a rebel in her own sweet way..she cared for her family respect and everybody's wishes , plus her own.........even akshara wanted to spend time with naitik but she was overloaded with expectations , demands and rules of her in laws..there, naitik was also demanding.... It was a very realistic track as such problems r normally faced by all couples. Same.issues naira also faced..However it lasted for a short while . It's not about prioritizing its about managing . Priority jisko bhi denge others on the list will complain.

Except for one instance where he asked akshara to leave (for hiding nandini mohit affair) , when did akshara leave house or when did naitik not trust her or when did they misunderstand each other to the extent of separation , when did he not care for her , not love her, overlooked a lot of things for her , overstepped boundaries for her , when did he character assassinate her like kartik? Akshara had a few problems , more bec of her in laws , rest she managed well. Naira had problems bec she and kartik couldn't really stand by each other n understand the depth of their relation .

As for abhira , their journey has just started . N bec abhimanyu claims to be so much in love with akshu, Expectations from him will be immense....more the expectations, more he will fail , more he will be bashed . Unlike naitik and kartik he doesn't doesn't bother for his family..but he has an unhealthy obsession with his mom, now akshu.. it's one person or family, it's the same thing ...effect will be similar. Akshu will face problems bec of this ..more so bec manjari can be easily influenced . The same unhealthy obsession , akshu shares with aru . N abhimanyu will face a lot of problems due to aru jaap . Except for this ,I don't see any issue between the two. Not the families or any insecurity .

The fls take it upon themselves to fix the relations but forget that husband is the first link to the in laws. Classic case of good intentions causing more harm than good. From the 3 heroines, akshara managed to balance everything better . Without naitiks support it was impossible.

Sorry for the long post..I dunno if I made any sense or not 🤯

Plus naitik and akshara's insecurities still made sense because they had an arranged marriage and there was huge communication gap between the couple but abhimanyu and akshu are having a love marriage..they've dated each other for awhile and not to mention their soul wala love connection but still they don't know major and basic things about each other like their food preferences or allergies..

Aarohi has never had any serious interactions with abhimanyu..we have no proper scenes of them talking but still aarohi knows about abhimanyu's severe anger issues and how scary he can be at times..but akshu has no idea about abhimanyu's temperament or his mood swings that's why she assumed that he forgave her so easily for his mother's accident..

Kartik on the hand was very confusing..he was an adorable male lead before marriage but became very toxic afterwards..kaira had the best relationship growth out of the 3 couples..they both had a friends to lovers trope..they knew each other very well before marriage STILL they had lots of misunderstandings and separations ..kartik even went to the extent of questioning naira's character

Abhira's journey has just begun so its too soon to judge them..but if akshu doesn't tone down her irritating family Jaap and aaru Jaap then definitely Abhira's relationship and married life will be doomed..

Yaar that's what I was trying to say that we r exxagerating simple things by naming it as insecurity . A person will feel emotions on daily basis , based on the situations they go through . It doesn't become a part of their personality .one thing we know for sure abt abhira ,I already described..their love for manjari and aru. When manjari and akshu r against each other who will he choose? Manjari . Where is the insecurity of losing akshu when he himself turns against her ? His mum doesn't come for tilak , he wanted to cancel Tilak. He will flip in less than a minute.

Singhanias and goenkas had expectations from their dils . Akshu won't be burdened with any of those coz they themselves don't bother abt the family but akshu will take it upon herself to fix this and get trapped in it.

Abhimanyu , is an extreme kind of person , he reacts impulsively..but he also calms down quickly... Akshu right now is in her LA LA land but she also knows how to handle abhimanyu ..she has seen life differently and she has lived differently. For her , whatever the situation is , family must be loved no matter what and forgiven in all cases. ..abhimanyu doesn't agree, he wants to protect her , but ultimately he will sing akshus arti and do as she says 😆 not to forget that he badly wanted akshu as his wife . Badly is an understatement but whatever. So ab bhugto abhimanyu.

Originally posted by: _charu_

Yaar that's what I was trying to say that we r exxagerating simple things by naming it as insecurity . A person will feel emotions on daily basis , based on the situations they go through . It doesn't become a part of their personality .one thing we know for sure abt abhira ,I already described..their love for manjari and aru. When manjari and akshu r against each other who will he choose? Manjari . Where is the insecurity of losing akshu when he himself turns against her ? His mum doesn't come for tilak , he wanted to cancel Tilak. He will flip in less than a minute.

Singhanias and goenkas had expectations from their dils . Akshu won't be burdened with any of those coz they themselves don't bother abt the family but akshu will take it upon herself to fix this and get trapped in it.

Abhimanyu , is an extreme kind of person , he reacts impulsively..but he also calms down quickly... Akshu right now is in her LA LA land but she also knows how to handle abhimanyu ..she has seen life differently and she has lived differently. For her , whatever the situation is , family must be loved no matter what and forgiven in all cases. ..abhimanyu doesn't agree, he wants to protect her , but ultimately he will sing akshus arti and do as she says 😆 not to forget that he badly wanted akshu as his wife . Badly is an understatement but whatever. So ab bhugto abhimanyu.

Extremely sorry for jumping in...

@bold exactly....this was running into mind for long time... yes.. he just told Sr.Birlas to call and tell Goenaks to cancel Tilak...

Originally posted by: _charu_

Yaar that's what I was trying to say that we r exxagerating simple things by naming it as insecurity . A person will feel emotions on daily basis , based on the situations they go through . It doesn't become a part of their personality .one thing we know for sure abt abhira ,I already described..their love for manjari and aru. When manjari and akshu r against each other who will he choose? Manjari . Where is the insecurity of losing akshu when he himself turns against her ? His mum doesn't come for tilak , he wanted to cancel Tilak. He will flip in less than a minute.

Singhanias and goenkas had expectations from their dils . Akshu won't be burdened with any of those coz they themselves don't bother abt the family but akshu will take it upon herself to fix this and get trapped in it.

Abhimanyu , is an extreme kind of person , he reacts impulsively..but he also calms down quickly... Akshu right now is in her LA LA land but she also knows how to handle abhimanyu ..she has seen life differently and she has lived differently. For her , whatever the situation is , family must be loved no matter what and forgiven in all cases. ..abhimanyu doesn't agree, he wants to protect her , but ultimately he will sing akshus arti and do as she says 😆 not to forget that he badly wanted akshu as his wife . Badly is an understatement but whatever. So ab bhugto abhimanyu.

So I don't think that it will be that easy for abhimanyu to choose manjari over akshu..or let go of akshu ..there is no doubt that abhimanyu loves his mother a lot and she's his entire world but he has also given akshu EQUAL importance in his life and he loves akshu a lot too...not to mention that abhimanyu decided to marry aarohi NOT becoz of manjari but because of akshu's rejection in park in front of kairav..he took that decision in his anger over akshu....abhimanyu will choose to die rather than choosing one of them..

If some misunderstanding happens then that can be a different case and abhimanyu might take an impulsive decision of leaving akshu..but in Normal situation its not possible that abhimanyu will choose manjari over akshu and leave akshu..

Akshu on the other hand is a bit different from abhimanyu but she will also not leave him now..whatever she did in the past of choosing aarohi over abhimanyu was because of her love and guilt for aarohi and her promise to sirat to always take care of aarohi..but now she won't repeat that mistake..she's too much into abhimanyu to leave him for anyone now..

Originally posted by: _charu_

My question was , is it a compliment to abhimanyu or he has fallen as low as naitik? Depends on how we see naitik.

Comparing any two people is futile but I wanna know the reason why these comparisons are coming up. Coz the two are like apples and oranges. Each have their strengths and weaknesses.

It's wrong to tag someone as insecure coz they were an asshole at some point ...I don't judge abhimanyu also like that.... Naitik had his reasons . His was an arranged marriage to akshara . Just before his mehndi he gets to know that akshara might have had feelings for someone before him...he didn't know how deep it was, what happened between them, first love is after all first love..I dunno how well you have seen s1. Know he was bashed a lot ,he was an ass to her on mehendi , blamed her for not telling him etc etc . All justified.

Yes he spoiled his own marriage for a stupid thought process . The only reason why this happened was coz miscommunication. He wasn't allowed to talk to akshara before pheras ..when they did talk properly on their wedding night and akshara explained him everything , he was quick to understand that his fears were baseless. This topic never came.up between them in the future. That's called trusting and understanding the partner which he did.

Coming to post marriage , he was never insecure coz akshara put her in laws above her. Post marriage it's natural for the couple to spend time with each other, which is sometimes not possible due to joint family system and expectations from the new bahu. Unlike akshu who does family jaap 24×7 , akshara wasn't like that..akshara was a rebel in her own sweet way..she cared for her family respect and everybody's wishes , plus her own.........even akshara wanted to spend time with naitik but she was overloaded with expectations , demands and rules of her in laws..there, naitik was also demanding.... It was a very realistic track as such problems r normally faced by all couples. Same.issues naira also faced..However it lasted for a short while . It's not about prioritizing its about managing . Priority jisko bhi denge others on the list will complain.

Except for one instance where he asked akshara to leave (for hiding nandini mohit affair) , when did akshara leave house or when did naitik not trust her or when did they misunderstand each other to the extent of separation , when did he not care for her , not love her, overlooked a lot of things for her , overstepped boundaries for her , when did he character assassinate her like kartik? Akshara had a few problems , more bec of her in laws , rest she managed well. Naira had problems bec she and kartik couldn't really stand by each other n understand the depth of their relation .

As for abhira , their journey has just started . N bec abhimanyu claims to be so much in love with akshu, Expectations from him will be immense....more the expectations, more he will fail , more he will be bashed . Unlike naitik and kartik he doesn't doesn't bother for his family..but he has an unhealthy obsession with his mom, now akshu.. it's one person or family, it's the same thing ...effect will be similar. Akshu will face problems bec of this ..more so bec manjari can be easily influenced . The same unhealthy obsession , akshu shares with aru . N abhimanyu will face a lot of problems due to aru jaap . Except for this ,I don't see any issue between the two. Not the families or any insecurity .

The fls take it upon themselves to fix the relations but forget that husband is the first link to the in laws. Classic case of good intentions causing more harm than good. From the 3 heroines, akshara managed to balance everything better . Without naitiks support it was impossible.

Sorry for the long post..I dunno if I made any sense or not 🤯

Charu...I had always read your updates on Season 1 before watching episode..............I think you were most active in the forum if I am not wrong.

Very nicely said, Abhi has unhealthy obsession with his mom and Akshu has unhealthy obsession with Aru..........so this is just going to make things wrost between them in future

Naitik - Akshara story was realistic and very much relatable............and whenever things cleared...........we just had big happy smile on face ............

Abhi - Akshu ..............There can be lovely short reels which we can make on ABHIRA but we are not enjoying the track..........and it is always that what bad is going to happen............

Yes really tired of both Jaap.........they should stop this

Also both should prioritize each other