Sounds less-than-pleasing to the ears, right? But that is the truth.
What we are getting to see between Karthik and Naira (I somehow don't feel like addressing them as Kaira anymore) is not love...at least, not from Kartik's lens of blaming, not taking responsibility, not even giving his wife the time of the day to complete one single sentence in her defense. They have gotten so distant from each other, I have no idea how they'll ever be the same again? But given Kartik's refusal to see HIS mistakes, I don't even think I want them to be alright...it is so toxic, so unhealthy to see them communicate these days. All love lost now, and even mutual respect..kis cheez ke liye saath rahenge yeh?
Hi everybody!
I am new to the YRKKH forum, been an old-timer on IF since the time I started reviewing YHM (Yeh Hai Mohabbatein) posts, which, I am incidentally reminded of today, as I see Karthik and Naira fight like bulldogs at war.
To be honest, I am not a regular YRKKH viewer, and happened to watch a little before pre-leap (around the time Shubham died) and have been watching the show regularly since then because I felt there was a lot of drama coming ahead. I was right in a way, but I'm certain I underestimated it...post-leap episodes have thrown up a LOT MORE DRAMA than can be digested, but most of which doesn't make sense.
I will not launch into the hows and whys of that, as other members on this forum have likely discussed it to bits, and eloquently at that, and I dont think I can add much to it.
What I would like to discuss is Kartik's so-called "love for Naira. I am compelled to make this post, because, right after he AGAIN said "I hate you Naira in full public view, he had that lost puppy dog look in his eyes when the divorce lawyers said they had to attend court proceedings today for the final hearing of the divorce. "Na keh do na Naira. Really? So you get innumerable chances to treat her like the dirt on your shoe for the rest of your life?
Like everybody else, I wanted these two to get back, but only after Kartik's redemption. Now I just don't want Kartik's redemption, I want Naira to leave him, abandon him, and move away to a faraway country and come back twice as successful as this chipmunk is. I want someone to love Naira so madly, deeply, truly, that it makes Kartik drink himself into oblivion thinking of the blunder he committed. I also want Swarna to be shown the mirror, and Goenkas (especially Manish) avoiding her like plague. Even better, I want Manish to abandon Swarna for ruining his son's life, but not by divorcing her.
She should know what it feels like to be legally still married, but feel so distant from one's spouse.
Pray tell me, who amongst you sees love in Kartik's eyes? The way he looks at her each time that witch stepmom of his is around (or even when she is not around and there is some reminder of his drug addict brother flashing through his brain), he seems to catch a brainwave and turn into this completely unrecognizable being...he looks at Naira with hatred, so much repulsion, disgust, mistrust, that it shocks me when he later pretends he actually gives a damn about her...because it then feels so empty...so pointless...such a big fat lie.
He cannot forgive her for what happened, WITHOUT even giving her a chance to EXPLAIN herself. What kind of human being does that? All the marriage vows he had taken at the mandap, they are all ground to dust, because he could not stay by his wife's side when she most needed him. At her most vulnerable, he abandoned her, did not bother calling her even once in these 2 years, and treats her like vermin every chance he gets. He hits her where it hurts the most. He crushes her like sandpaper.
How is this love?
You can be angry with your spouse, you can be annoyed with their quirks/mistakes/slip-ups and not talk to them properly for days or weeks, but will you pierce their heart in the same place over and over and over again, just so they don't forget they ever goofed up? And do this for years and years? Will you not take in for even a moment the hurt and pain caused to them, and talk it out? Will you pronounce them guilty for something they cannot possibly be held solely responsible? Will you turn a blind eye to the faults of others and peripheral circumstances and throw them out of your life because of a misconception you've had? And after ALL OF THIS will you expect THEM to still stick around?
If you do, then you don't treat your spouse like a human being, you treat them like a doormat.
And if Naira even agrees to the 6 month period, or is forced to re-marry this jerk (for whatever reason), that will be the message sent out to the hundreds of married men and women watching this sick show, which is apparently based on "Nayi Soch but is promoting regressive marital politics to its depths.
When Naira looks at Kartik, through all the anger, hurt, yelling, her eyes mist over, her brain feels clouded, and she seems like she still is clinging to some invisible ray of hope...like its all surreal and she cannot believe it's happening to her...to them.
When Kartik looks at Naira, he can only see her faults, her blunders, but none of the joys she brought him. He doesn't look at her like she is fallible, he is essentially punishing her not being God. in his mind, it's over. Why then does he still look like he doesn't want the divorce to go through?
That looks like a schizophrenic idiot to me!
Years ago (again, when I accidentally switched on to SP that day), I happened to watch that sequence where Naira runs away from Udaipur and is not found till years later. I seriously thought Naitik would divorce Akshara, considering it was his princess who freaked out and ran away...because she thought her mother would turn in to the police.
But even then, which I believe, was a lower low than the fabricated trauma Kartik is claiming to be clinging to, Naitik treated Akshara with utmost respect. They had become distant, Naitik was angry, disappointed, very very hurt but even then...he had treated Akshara with care and respect. I mean, he had EVERY GODDAMN REASON to hate Akshara, and blame her goody-two-shoes attitude for landing Naira in deep trouble. For all they knew, Naira could've been dead or raped or kidnapped or something else.
As I watched Kartik pierce daggers in Naira's heart, that's what I was reminded of..
What Naitik and Akshara shared..was love. Naitik was brave and kind enough to not crush Akshara like Kartik tends to do...whenever something goes wrong that he feels Naira is responsible for.
Your spouse doesn't just deserve your love..they need your kindness and empathy too, when things don't work out..especially when things go haywire.
Is Kartik Goenka telling me losing that drug addict brother of his (who would've got snuffed out anyway) because of HIS own fault and ALL THE GOENKAS' COLLECTIVE NEGLECT, WAS WORSE THAN Naitik and Akshara losing Naira (not even knowing if she was alive or dead)?
I remember Naira and Kartik having one of their regular tiffs (many many episodes ago) and Kartik giving her attitude, not talking to her. When he eventually comes around (because things have righted themselves), and wants to cuddle up with Naira, she pushed him away..hurt and disappointed, saying, "Yeh kaisa pyaar hai KARTIK?
Right. That's my question to you Yeh kaisa pyaar hai tumhara Kartik?
But then, yeh toh pyar hai hi nai...this is not love.
And considering Kartik wont change in a million years even if these two get together, they will not last. It will not endure because it is not love...at least from Kartik's side.
It's best CVs stop making a mockery of marital relationships and actually stick to the "Nayi Soch theme or whatever fabricated theme they have on these days. Sending Naira back to that house/having her prove herself AGAIN/work her ass off to get these undeserving, ungrateful Goenkas to accept her (no they will never truly love her) will be telling all the women watching this that's what you're worth ladies. You're worth your husband's approval till you shove your self-respect and dignity aside, his abuse, his mistrust, his whimsical attitude and every other shit he can heap on you.
Naira does not deserve this Jerk Goenka. She deserves to be happy and live BY HERSELF for a while. And if you really want a man to be hovering around her, make sure he is thousand times better so Kartik's socks are blown off seeing how carefree and successful Naira is without his miserable company. Itni thandak toh hamare dilon ko de hi sakte ho CVs😉
As for Kartik, he needs someone to show him the mirror. He needs to get off his high horse and treat human beings like human beings...
Years ago, it was his dad and that creep Swarna he would lash out. Now it's Naira, does he realize he needs to fix himself first before blaming every Tom, dick and Harry? Jiski ankhein maili, use poori duniya maili nazar aati hai!
Insaan kehlaane ke layak ban jaye, phir pati bane!
P.S. Can someone just hack Swarna in broad daylight? Just watching her self-righteous nostrils flare today made my blood boil!
Ghum Hai Kisikey Pyaar Meiin
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