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well i dun take YR as the bible for pregnancy & kids as CV's can show anything to create drama 🤢 sometimes ridiculous...so girls & boys here who r pondering on HOW life changes after kids , plz do not think it happens the way it happens in YR 😆
here, when the couple WAS all alone, newly married or w/o kids, they had so many issues b/w them ..when they had all the time in this world to spend with each other , they did not, now when they will not have it, God knows what will happen 😵 first & foremost, this "spending time" thing is seen with a diff. perspective ..maate thinks spending time with hubby means cooking for him, ironing & endless work ..acc. to her, she's 100 on 100 ...for naitik it means everything, it means companionship, support, love, understanding, along with this, everything on his terms...high time he lowers his expectations bec. therez a huge roadblock in the way of his dreamland ! not one but many...
the child is , in no way, a disturbance to the routine life...when he/she comes, every couple adjust accordingly...and they love to do it bec. love for the baby makes them do it...not little bit , life takes a complete U turn after the arrival of the baby...in this way,naitik's fears r totally justified , but then, what will he achieve by getting tensed? bec. this change WILL happen and he'll not be able to stop it...life has it's phases...teenage is over, courtship is over, newly married phase is over , married phase is also over..sab dekh liya, enjoy kar liya , now it's time for parenthood...abhi if he'll be cribbing ke aisa kyun nahi waisa kyun nahi toh it's of no use...aise bhi his partner was never understanding, nor he was succesful in making her understand how imp. it is to "spend time" 😆 the only reason was ke this time will never return...those extra 5 mins which they got, woh bhi nahi milne wale...THIS one or two years of marriage , w/o kids , this forms the foundation for the rest of the life bec. love actually grows in this period ! iske baad they r ready to face any challenge of "changes" which occur in their relationship ! at least therez a desire to spend time and they r able to do it if they balance properly..if not in the initial period then later on when kids grow old and understanding !
i didnt watch last week epi. bas thoda sa...pehle toh you never like someone else's kids doing badtameezi (like viraj)...but when ur kids do the same, u dun mind...akshara's approach is totally wrong in handling kids..if we agree to whatever they say, they will be like viraj only ! the kid who doesn't listen to his parents, he will never show any manners when he steps out ! kid must be taught to hear "NO" ! naitik's approach was also wrong (which is my approach most of the time..getting hyper and scolding kids) ...it should be done in moderation and acc. to the situation...bec. kids develop a lot of insecurities , their self esteem is lowered when they r constantly corrected (best example being anshu)..aise nahi aise karo, har baat par "no" kehna is also not right..they will learn with their mistakes...it's right that we want our kids to behave in a particular way but at the same time, they r kids ! they have their identity, their feelings which parents must understand !
i dun understand why r they creating so much fuss over "change" in the bedroom ? they gave huge mansions and they can adjust these things anywhere..yes, baby ka samaan bahut bahut hota hai but it's not imp. ke sab apne bedroom mein rakhna hai...think abt the poor ppl. who adjust in a 2 room flat with kids and their families..woh bhi karte hai adjustment ! these ppl. taking tension over maids, kaam, bache ka samaan is just too irritating and fake !
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