'Akshara, aap...'

"As they say ( and wizened in aftermath😆), A happy marriage rests on quite a few strong pillars/ traits in a union...the foremost being; trust, communication, camaraderie, a willingness to accommodate/ adjust to each other, a healthy presence of physical attraction...all these may lead to a dawning love even amongst 'strangers', who are now life partners...and perhaps what helps most in many of the above essentials is existence of a sincere mutual respect" (read somewhere)...

P.S. Thanks for reading this verbosity at all (helpless me- a habit😕😆)...And a disclaimer; it's a symbolic interpretation only, not that I'm espousing 'aap' convention...Lols... would love to see other takes, do drop your thoughts, thanks...

Today, as suspected earlier, they once again reverted back to 'flattering' DIL mode (why is this obsession on queen G3? distracting from Naksh??😡) what was the point of 'built up' at all?🤢... So what impressions, gains, moments from this involvement go a long way to explain its durability? A simple watch habit formed after initial hooking? An engaging forum read cementing that habit? A marked soft bias for a hard working and pretty lead pair? Perhaps, all these must have worked in unison. They prevail over a considerable despair of ennui; side by side the rarer occasions of a view's gratifications...but then, one or two positives have maintained their lasting presence all through out, consciously or unconsciously. Namely an honest abstinence from cheap 'twists and turns' and a sincere attempt to unfold the journey of two relatively stranger young adults onto an inexorably uniting path called marriage-( their Saptapadi wows in earnest😊)...And while many would agree on some points or disagree on some depictions/fittingly ridicule their boring ways, or mock their pretentiously profound ways, they do strike 'profound' once in a while- almost serendipitously- like this One. Perhaps a fortunate happenstance from their earlier laid framework on addressing convention for the Leads... (so much, for a boring preamble😳- here in form of an attending note- but was necessary for me to set some background of the perception...)

Originally posted by: _charu_

@smrth, everybody in YR addresses their wives as "aap" except..hhmmm..Shaurya 😕, Daddaji, Omi and BHOLA 😆 whatever the reasons are, i dun like it..specially naitik's "aap"..like u said, it creates a distance...there r other ways to respect than saying "aap"...abhi toh nikhilji bhi aap bolte hai..shaleen hai na 🤢 now we're used to it..

maate ka kya kahu..i'm terribly bored n disappointed with this character 🤢 and she makes me hate naitik also 😳 this maha bakwas "akshara ke dil ki awaz" track turned out to be worse than varsha-akshara tiff...at least we know varsha loves & cares for akshara...it was a moment of anger but she genuinely repented it...but what can be said about gayitri? maate is one character who doesn't have an opinion or her own, na koi personality, na views, na thinking..she's a dummy character who can be driven by anyone...bas naitik ke saamne attitude...women's libertation ki head ban jaati hai 🤢 just hate her...

Originally posted by: smrth

Hey Charu, u seem mighty angry on Akshi,😆 and how not...joining u unreservedly😕...the other day, as it's become quite a routine now, I was zapped on their scripts (marriage prep etc😡)...then Sarita's post had racked up some impressions and this odd post (knew, won't be many takers but went ahead anyways😆...)

As you've noticed, 'aap' was interpreted symbolically here...otherwise it's unnatural...as many things in this laidback serial, the general portrayal is one generation too late...re. elder couples, the ladies and some seniors are not even uttering the name, like our grandparents' days...so I read this quaint addressing by leads for its positive effect ( whatever is left thereof...🥱)

The central point was fundamental respect necessary in this relationship...modern or traditional, older generations or enlightened 'lib.' couples...this tenet is an essential bedrock, somehow better represented here...

On Akshara, u r spot on...they need to improve urgently, or the flock will be flying off sooner then later😆...(recently weaned off Pavitra Rishta, even worse story telling- no, not story, Bakwaas telling, a pause here too may do a good for better perhaps...😊) Thanks for the reply...😊

Originally posted by: _charu_

ur right..respect must be there in words AND in action ..Naitik almost does it perfectly...but i feel "aap" is too formal...

really? u left PR 😆 i never start watching any k soap, had a terrible experience of getting hooked to these shows (frm the time of ksbkbt) , and repenting later..the same storyline n same style of story telling..jazzy background music, shocked faces , poor girl getting married to a rich guy etc. etc. TG we have better shows on air...

what's new abt me hating akshara 🤢 😆 i'll tell you..now i hate naitik also 🤢 he seems to be one of the dino's in the jurrasic park 🤢 "at your service" ma, akshara, bauji, daddaji, rashmi, didi 😡 if akshara is gulabo of SS, Naitik is Maharajji 🤣i dun think anyone pays attention to what he's saying or what he's doing...the actor is completely disinterested n i dun blame him...with this bakwas script, actors can't do magic...this is the 3rd or 4th wedding in the show...n it's the same rut..blouses, mithai, tohfe, nashta, meva, kapde 🤢 they r distributing the invitation cards n the venue is not fixed 🤢...now the relatives will come and start picking up on small things...humara nashta , humari machhar daani, humara aaram 🤢

Originally posted by: --Sari--

smrth - will come back to comment; saw this one yest but wanted to be clear headed but after seeing the episode brain mein badal hi badal...🤣 I will get to this one sometime today, I have been putting crazy hours at work & home due to my impending vacation. The stress prior upon return almost wants me to cancel my vacation plans😆

Oh, Smrth! Is this even a question for me?😆 You know my answer to this one, don't you?😆 Yeh 'aap' kya hota hai?🤔 Meri dictionary mein bus bade-bhuzurg ke liye limited and that to those who I barely know😊 Maybe this is a necessity in a joint family but for us free birds, na mumkin😃 We thrive on first names here, it sometimes is awkward when I have to address someone much older than me as John. Mann mein tho John uncle hai. But if I refer to him as uncle, woh mujhe pitega! Kyunki uski biwi is my age or maybe younger...🤣 Sorry for the OT! Yes, it's a resounding "tum" all the way😆

I like the way Vish addresses RJ; uss aap mein bahut pyaar nazar aatha hai but not RB-G3. RB-G3 mein bus RB ka dar nazar aatha hai, kahi kal ka khana nahi mila tho?😆 DJ refers to BM as "tu" if I remember his marwadi correctly and I kind of like the DJ- chutki pyaar but chutki- DJ is just plain respect/fear😃

When it comes to Naksh, I like it because I like Naksh😊 But I like Shaurya's bindaas tum w/Varsha👏 There is a sense of closeness there❤️ The 2 know how to have fun. Naitik & Akshara are way too formal sometimes; maybe the tum will loosen him up a bit. With the younger generation, "aap" is a stretch. But considering the S's I was surprised she started calling him by name. First "Naitikji" & the "Ji" bhi hawa mein udd gaya😍 I was surprised that didn't raise any eyebrows among the mamaji types😕 It's time for Naitik to lose the "aap", issi bahane ek cute scene tho banta hai, formalities hawa mein udne ke naam😍

I know there is a school of thought where girls find it romantic to address their spouses like "Shaurya ke bauji..." Maybe it's cute but personally I love if both are on a first name basis with no "aap's" between them😳 But I know it's hard in traditional joint families. "Aap" or referring to him as "Shaurya ke bauji" I think really hinders the romance aspect of it😳 With "aap" there is a sense of responsibility/respect which is great but maybe after you have hit middle age😆 Aaj kal ke zamane mein where divorces have become common place keeping the romance alive is necessary and "aap" is just a speed breaker...🤣 JMO, a lighthearted jab at the "aap/Shaurya ke bauji" believers, do not mean to belittle anyone's beliefs😊

Originally posted by: smrth

Charu, (off topic, for I want to share my experience on this watch),

Non believer- turned believer- turning non believer again...my checkered joint with soap serials...KSKBT was a favourite washboard to ridicule, cajole or patiently argue with Mom...a single point agenda to wean her away from that insane serial...from wasting her time...arguably worst distortion of Gujarati ways and all...though she turned out more patient and less absorbed than my fears😆... after a few years, she unwittingly enlisted me on her watch,😲 coinciding my dinner time ... first YRKKH and then PR...initially spurred by new fresh faces Akshara, Archana ( unlike Dowager Tulsi😃) and relatively fresh treatment to the subjects...to cut it short, the chance forum hitting has hitched me firmly on these two...but relearning the lessons- not a very good idea perhaps...Having said this, I understand ( or I assume, I understand) your wariness with this unending banality... My experience is somewhat mitigated with my frequent shut off for short periods in between...and hence I have not lost complete interest so far😳...faithfully waiting for turn arounds ...once allegiant, difficult to break off, kidding😛, though PR has got better of me and YRKKH may follow... but in this particular case, some striking analogy or relevant corollary, especially on the forum interactions has kept the interest alive beyond its effective tenure...am not complaining...I don't want to sully my gathered moments of happiness here👏, just on account of their spent force😡...not yet... even now I want them to succeed, for single point- they have not used grotesque twists- for this experiment😊...may they come up with fresh ideas and talents in writings/ screenplay... in future, if they continue to prevail over this faith then remote is never far off...😈

On this site I've came across some astounding, enriching writers and their views👏...on this particular forum, many interesting voices...your straight,t no nonsense talk or delightful Vms, Kaumudi's fresh talks, Saritaji's hilarious satires or thought provoking notes, Madhviben's calm presence... a break may be fitting or needful...the break off, not...just my thoughts...pardon me if irrelevant...😊

Samarth.