However, the biggest shock was yet to come. I found out that the clients, who we owed money, intended to file a police complaint against Dadaji, if he failed to pay them in the stipulated time. I couldn't imagine things going from bad to worse. It would be very humiliating for Dadaji, as I am sure this messy situation, too, is mortifying for him. I can't see him suffering. He has always considered me as his daughter instead of a daughter-in-law and I too feel he is like my bauji, so I felt it was my duty to help Dadaji during this bad phase.
Even though the prospective groom and his family came to meet Rashmi, I decided to visit my parental home and inform the family about the bigger problem, without wasting any more time. Bauji already knew about the money crisis but when he heard about the threats from the clients and Dadaji's plan to sell the haveli, he decided to help us. I was happy that I could play a small part in helping Dadaji, out of the situation.
But the destiny has some other plan for us. Dadaji got livid when he learnt that Bauji had given him a helping hand. Naitik and I were stunned when he denounced us. He felt it was our fault in asking Bauji for help and that now the world would know about our money crisis. None of our pleas made a difference. Later, he put us in shock by announcing that we should separate from the family. Though, we will live under the same roof but we will have nothing to do with the rest of the family from now on.
I couldn't believe my ears!! How can I stay away from my family? I can't even imagine a single day without them. I kept pleading Dadaji but he denied. Natik and I even apologized but as Dadaji had made up his mind, the rest of the family too accepted his decision. I was left heartbroken and was clueless as to what to do.
I was extremely hurt when I was informed that the kitchen is divided and when the family members refused to allow me to serve them food. I can't believe that my own family is treating me this way. I had not expected such a big punishment from Dadaji as I was only trying to help him. I really don't know how to ask for forgivness, as I am feeling like a stranger in my own house and among my own people.
-This incident has made me realize the importance of maintaining a balance between my parental family and my in-laws. Here are some tips that may come handy for married women.
- Try not to reveal or gossip about what is happening at your in-laws to your parental family and vice-versa. Some things are best kept to yourself, so respect the privacy of both the households.
- Respect and love your in-laws like your own parents. This way, it will be easier to adjust in your new family and make a place in their hearts. I am sure that they too will treat you like their own daughter.
- In our parental home, we tend to ignore what our parents say, at times. However, at your in-laws' place; make sure not to ignore their instructions and requests.
- Don't be too involved in matters of your parental house which might result in you ending up ignoring your in-laws. Being concerned about members of your parental family is okay but grabbing every opportunity to go to your mom's home is not right.
- If you have any problem with your husband or anyone else from his family, try to sort it out in a mature way. Do not let your ego come in between and rush to your parental home in a huff. This may cause permanent damage to your relationship.
- It is good to be concerned about your husband and his family. However, do not unnecessarily interfere in everyone's matters. Give suggestions and offer help but know your limit, beyond which you should not interfere.
-If you have any advice about how I can I convince Dadaji to forgive us, do write in at akshara@starplus.in
Fan comments
Manju Prasad - Hello Mam. How are you? Ma'm I cant understand whats going on your show as aapka show toh ek joint family ki values, tradition, bonding & love ka tha but itna kaise ho gaya ki dadaji ne Naitik ji & aapko ghar se alag kar diya. Aise thodi hota hai I understand that ki Dadaji ko tradition & values important hai but kya unke liye unki family important nahi hai. Aapne toh Dadaji ki problem solve karni chaiyei thi but yaha toh ulta ho gaya aapke ghar ko alag kar diya. But I hope jitni jaldi hoe sake toh yeh prblm solve ho jaye & aapki nuclear family se aapki fir se joint family bana jaye coz muje aapki show jo values, tradition & bonding jo dikhate hai I love it.
Akshara: Hi Manju, I hope your words come true and that Dadaji forgives Naitik and me. I cannot bear to stay away from my family and want everything to be like it was before this incident.
Asghar Malik-Hi Hina g kasy ho ap ny meri mail k reply nahi kia aj ap ko rota dhak kar mujhy bhe rona aa ga ap ke acting bhot achi lagte hy plz ap meri mail k reply to kar do main ap wait karo ga plzzzzzzzzzzz
Akshara: Hi Asghar. Thank you for appreciating my performance. Keep watching Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai.
Anushka Singh-HI Akshara!!!! This is Anuskha, from Dubai!! i love your show!!! Your my idol!!! i have not miss any of ur episodes!!!! i love your jodi with Naitik!! its extremely cuteeeeee!!!! You are really beautiful!!!! please give my regards to Everyone esp. your partner Naitik tell him that im in love with him he is really really cute!!!!!! I LOVE YRKKH!!!! ITS THE BEST SHOW EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Akshara: Hi Anushka. Thanks for the compliments and kind words. I am glad you love our show so much.
Rupsa dey- mein apki bohat bari fan hoon. kya aap meri didi banogi?best of luck for spa2011.
Akshara: Thanks for the good wishes Rupsa. Even I hope that the Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai team bags a lot of awards.
Ajay Kamboj- hiiiii akshara , this is ur bigggggest fan writing to u.Yaar honestly u are sooooo beautiful, cute, sweet, gorgeous, charming. u are the charm of starplus. and u make a great couple with naitik u guys are just fabulous. i just luv watching both of u together. SEEKING FOR UR ANSWER.
Akshara: Hi Ajay. Thanks for all the wonderful compliments. Do keep writing in.
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