My France wale uncle & Naitik (right or wrong?)

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Hi guyz...

Remember me? ... I once posted a topic here. Anyways, I am really facinated because this serial is almost a reconstruction of my France Waale Uncle and his correlation with Naitik Singhanya Bhaijaan's life...

See ... my uncle's family was strict. I mean ... traditional.... nice people, but want the most out of their Bahu.

Bahu was a total traditional person. She was always busy to please her Sasuraal people ... serving Sasur, Saas, and grandpa, grandma ...

She was always trying to be a good bahu .. helping to maintain the house ... all the things that Akshara had to do...

But all this left very less time for her to spend with my Uncle... which really dismayed him.

Since his marriage ... a whole year ... he felt neglected. She loved him, but was always found prioritizing her Sasural ... daadima ki dawaii and maalish and stuff ... etc...

My uncle loved her alot ... but to him ... it seemed that he was the last on the list of his wife's priorities.

Over that ... the family really demanded the fulfillment of some traditional duties from the BAHU ...

This was ofcourse an arranged marriage ... my uncle agreed to marry arranged ... and he talked with his to be wife, found her pleasing...

My uncle is a wonderful man, a very bright student throughout his life ... modern in his ways ... not very traditional, but always respectful.

He consistently tried with his wife ... to tell her that he should be her first priority. He booked a house, but she never wanted to live away from the sasural. He requested. She seemed to agree ... but when infront of the family, she exclaimed that she can never think of seperating, and that she and her husband will always be in that house ...

My uncle was shocked with this ... hopeless and tired of it all.

He got a scholarship in France ... he said he would take her ... but she asked him to prioritize the family. Still he went ... as she didnt get the scholarship she stayed.

He used to talk with her from France, but the volume of words started declining.

In France ... he fell in love with a French girl ... and now he is married there. He got a son too ... and its not been accepted by the family.

He never talks with this wife with whom he married as arranged marriage, I dont think there is any legal doc there ... it was all very traditional ... I dont think they go beyond the tradition (this part is the hazy one ... I dont know if it was through registered or not)...

As he does have a son ... the family eventually talks with him ... and even reportedly heard the voice of their WARIS ...

The BAHU stays in Sasuraal yet ... and I wonder how she must be feeling. Because as per we can see ... the French wife of his got a son (something very prized) ... and so wonder how long she will be out of the family ... I can only see the BAHU going ...

I basically live in Sweden ... on a visit to India... and things like this keep happening.


SHOULD THE WIFE BE MORE AWARE AND GIVE ATTENTION TO HER HUSBAND?

DO YOU GUYS THINK MY UNCLE (or if Naytik takes this step) IS WRONG???

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Posted: 15 years ago
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first of all i am very sorry if i hurt you by saying this... no offense okay

YES ITS WRONG... he talked to akshara before marriage so he shouldve told her what he expected.. even today, he can tell her i want some attention.. i hate people who beat around the bushes and talk in riddles.. gosh not everyone understands them!! and if u are gonna get married again, tell ur first wife.. is she okay with it cuz some are and if not, DIVORCE!!!! then u are free of all accusations and responsibility... no offense to u or ur family but how did mrs france agree to get married to a married man w/o divorce!!?! ya, some of these people are just beyond my understanding..

over all, its not wrong to fall in love/get married again.. jsut watch how u do it. talk to ur family, ur wife.. and end ur first relationship b4 getting into a new one!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Naitik did mention Akshara about how he feels her not giving him time. So did my uncle.


But these Bahu's are BAHU first BIWI baadmein...

Plus ... Mrs. France knew he was married ... cuz she knows now atleast. He is a very honest man ... I know him since a long time ... I know him as a good man.

These kind of traditional families do not see divorce as an option... neither do such girls.

She is really in a mess ... I feel sorry for her. A good girl like her ... wonder if its her fault actually ...
They are rich enough ... they have enough money to keep her surviving though....

The interesting part is that his family are now more linient ... cuz they know of their grandson ... they are aware of the Bahu and so not visibly accepting their son and new DIL ... but very much attracted to the idea of having this grandson as their blood.


Why do women in India give less priority to their husband ... and more to the Sasuraal? =S
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Posted: 15 years ago
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^that's what they see growing up.. and don't take me wrong but i didnt question ur france wali aunty.. i assumed that she knew i'm just suprised that in today's modern society somebody would get married to a married man who is not divorced.. anyways people need to understand that u need to get it in the open b4 marriage cuz most mid-eastern women are raised this way! u no, keep mommy/daddy happy inorder to keep hubby happy. its irritating but also reality..

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Posted: 15 years ago
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But these days hubby is unhappy too much ....

See ... hubby would love the wife to be caring, kind and respectful to his mommy and daddy ... but then hubby needs some attention aswell right? ... These days people go overboard with being the BEST BAHU ... and coveniently forget about being a wife!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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i agree.. but i believe in ONE RELATIONSHIP AT A TIME.. u can fight for a divorce if ur spouse doesn't agree.. either u win...family will eventually get over it , or u live seperately or u lose and ur wife/family finally get what u want or expect from your spouse...

and i'm speaking from experience(not me but people around me such as family/friends)
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Posted: 15 years ago
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😊wrong naksh love more then anythink, not like you uncle.they both more time naitik and akshara spent they life.naitik want love anybody only akshara.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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i dun think life is as simple or complicated as it's shown in serials...shaurya said he "liked" or "loved" lavanya which angered varsha and she decided to leave the house..however, both shaurya and varsha came back to normal when akshara explained that shaurya is feeling guilty about it, he loves varsha and that's what matters..is it THAT simple? will Akshara react the same way if Naitik is in Shaurya's place and he says "I'm sorry..please accept me"...

a similar track is being shown in sasural genda phool..the guy doesn't leave his wife bec. she ignored him or anything but bec. he wanted to settle abroad..he went to US, married a girl there n settled there...but the in laws were supportive enuf , they disowned their own son and treated their DIL like their own daughter...i'm not sure what will come up in yrkkh in future but they can spoil naitik's character to any extent..i know tht...

the only problem i have with akshara is that "AKSHARA" doesn't feature anywhere in her priority list...if she , for a moment, once in a while, think about HER , then i think she'll be more happy and she'll be able to keep everyone happy... at least better than what it is now...
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Posted: 15 years ago
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If at all this track is shown then both Naitik and Akshara need to be blamed. Naitik for cheating on Aksh, breaking her trust and falling for another girl. Naitik may have told Aksh that he is last on her priorities but that does not give him ANY reason to find another girl. It will be time for the family to look at their role in this mess......with such strict in laws and a never ending list of to dos its no wonder that AKsh has no time for her husband forget for herself. I could understand if they were from a lower class with no domestic help...here the house is filled with servants yet Bma and Gayatri expect Aksh to do everything. What are the servants there for?

Gayatri has a problem if Naksh help each other...she has a problem if Aksh doesnt ask her how she is feeling. Basically, she has a problem with everything in life. Give that girl a break...she is slogging the whole day and she has to face the wrath of her family including her husband for not giving time. I am not saying Aksh is not at fault...she has been told time and again that she isnt giving time to Naitik yet she chooses to give her inlaws more priority. I dont know what the funda is...I cant understand it coz I am not a bahu yet nor do I live in a joint family.

Aksh needs to realise that her husband should be her No. 1 priority and she cant keep taking him for granted. Naitik on the other hand needs to look at what Aksh is doing...he isnt understanding at the moment. He just wants things to go his way.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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well i dont think such kind of thing will be shown in the serial becoz if such thing happens then this serial will have no meaning left.they r showing love after arrange marriage n if something like this happen then there will be no content in this show................

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