19th Nov Written Update - Naitik's plan - Page 10

yaar naitik ka plan zabardaast tha

Originally posted by: _charu_

wasn't Rajshri acting like a mental patient today? talking to herself?

Originally posted by: 5cents

I never really understood Rajshri.......why did she not make her daughter strong. Education is meant to enlighten people by removing their egos, rigidity and make them accept other people with respect and warmth and to understand good & bad. This is what our educated and virtuous Aksh has been doing.....trying to adjust with ILS but without using her brain.

If Ma R thinks that beti is paraya dhan then why did she treat her like a princess........she was pretty ok with the conservative in-law mentality , she shd have given her the treatment that in-laws are now in her own house. Aksh would have been atleast prepared for her marital home....Suddenly sending Varsha & Aksh for impromptu golgappa session was shocking.

What Dadi said made perfect sense......running to her ILs house will complicate her life. We shd educate girls & teach them to take decisions . If garden of Eden was perfect then we would have no need to learn the lesson of choice and the nature of good and evil. From the beginning of our existence we have been asked to take decision & learn good & bad. Nothing to hyperventilate .......Eve did not have to have her arm twisted nor did Adam for taking a bite. :-) lol......we r all here coz of the apple bite lol

Originally posted by: aviation-ca

I loved your posts today... it is better to be a vamp bahu..😆. I think that is what they are saying.. if you are good, you get crucified and end up crying, sad, all the time... whereas if you are vamp, atleast some timepass to ho jayega with plotting & planning...

Can you imagine Aksh life strectching before her? Waiting for hubby the whole day.. shut in the house, no one to talk to, in case you say or do the wrong thing... instead of enjoying married life.. it seems like a prison sentence...

Hi long time no see........Aksh life is of a Average Indian Woman😉 ......here people don't get it .........Marriage is between two people while family and friends and neighbours can feel happy for them, they should steer clear of interfering in their lives. In India, EVERYONE seems to think it's their business to poke their noses, it becomes a social ritual........but u know in india marriage is never liberating.....A girl is always taken as a symbol of sacrifice, In DDLJ my fav movie ......Simran's dad tells her before the euro rly trip jaa zindagi jeele.......I hated that part what after marriage she'll be in prison cell🤢 he was a BIG MCP .........I liked Raj's dad. .....but the times are changed now. DDLJ are the old stories now .......I have often wonderd what happened to simran after marriage......they shd make a sequel for today's day & age.

I think marriage is about two people -- families come much later, and these same families have to realize that...... A woman cannot be expected to 'modify' her behaviour because she's now married, and if that is what has been happening so far in our country, well, that has to change. Marriage should be about finding a soulmate and starting a new life together, not getting bogged down by 'values' and in-laws (which is what is appears to be at the moment). Mostly all of u here have been saying it's part of our culture -- all this getting adapted to joint families. Well, even sati and caste system were part of our culture. We are changing -- hopefully, for the better. The best way out is to recognize and respect individuality!! This is just my POV Indowestern😃

But now if I think fr a AIW (average indian woman) I'll like to add .......An understanding and trustworthy spouse makes many problems look non-existent. Traditions of decades can't be changed in months but continuous effort could bend in-laws too.Naitik & Akh have to stop playing hide & seek with one another & have to be brutally honest & open with one another . It is the trust of husband and wife, which ultimately effects the freedom between them and around them😃

Originally posted by: ashforever2009

good to see u tina di.main jabse ai hoon askai baad aj miane apko dekha hai.was missing u alot

Hi Dear, how R u? Enjoy now as your xms r over. I loved your siggy😃

Originally posted by: 5cents

Hi long time no see........Aksh life is of a Average Indian Woman😉 ......here people don't get it .........Marriage is between two people while family and friends and neighbours can feel happy for them, they should steer clear of interfering in their lives. In India, EVERYONE seems to think it's their business to poke their noses, it becomes a social ritual........but u know in india marriage is never liberating.....A girl is always taken as a symbol of sacrifice, In DDLJ my fav movie ......Simran's dad tells her before the euro rly trip jaa zindagi jeele.......I hated that part what after marriage she'll be in prison cell🤢 he was a BIG MCP .........I liked Raj's dad. .....but the times are changed now. DDLJ are the old stories now .......I have often wonderd what happened to simran after marriage......they shd make a sequel for today's day & age.

I think marriage is about two people -- families come much later, and these same families have to realize that...... A woman cannot be expected to 'modify' her behaviour because she's now married, and if that is what has been happening so far in our country, well, that has to change. Marriage should be about finding a soulmate and starting a new life together, not getting bogged down by 'values' and in-laws (which is what is appears to be at the moment). Mostly all of u here have been saying it's part of our culture -- all this getting adapted to joint families. Well, even sati and caste system were part of our culture. We are changing -- hopefully, for the better. The best way out is to recognize and respect individuality!! This is just my POV Indowestern😃

But now if I think fr a AIW (average indian woman) I'll like to add .......An understanding and trustworthy spouse makes many problems look non-existent. Traditions of decades can't be changed in months but continuous effort could bend in-laws too.Naitik & Akh have to stop playing hide & seek with one another & have to be brutally honest & open with one another . It is the trust of husband and wife, which ultimately effects the freedom between them and around them😃

My Fav. too..kya Tina kya yaad dila diya...

Sequel..i'am up for it...😍

Watch Love aaj kal...today's time movie and have SF in it too😉

Originally posted by: 5cents

<br><br>Hi long time no see........Aksh life is of a Average Indian Woman😉 ......here people don't get it .........Marriage is between two people while family and friends and neighbours can feel happy for them,
they should steer clear of interfering in their lives. In India,
EVERYONE seems to think it's their business to poke their noses, it
becomes a social ritual........but u know in india marriage is never liberating.....A girl is always taken as a symbol of sacrifice, In DDLJ my fav movie ......Simran's dad tells her before the euro rly trip jaa zindagi jeele.......I hated that part what after marriage she'll be in prison cell🤢 he was a BIG MCP .........I liked Raj's dad. .....but the times are changed now. DDLJ are the old stories now .......I have often wonderd what happened to simran after marriage......they shd make a sequel for today's day & age.<br><br>I think marriage is about two people -- families come much later, and
these same families have to realize that...... A woman cannot be expected to
'modify' her behaviour because she's now married, and if that is what
has been happening so far in our country, well, that has to change.
Marriage should be about finding a soulmate and starting a new life
together, not getting bogged down by 'values' and in-laws (which is
what is appears to be at the moment). Mostly all of u here have been saying it's part of
our culture -- all this getting adapted to joint families. Well, even
sati and caste system were part of
our culture. We are changing -- hopefully, for the better. The best way
out is to recognize and respect individuality!! This is just my POV Indowestern😃<br><br>But now if I think fr a AIW (average indian woman) I'll like to add .......An understanding and trustworthy spouse makes many problems look
non-existent. Traditions of decades can't be changed in months but continuous effort could bend in-laws too.Naitik & Akh have to stop playing hide & seek with one another & have to be brutally honest & open with one another . It is the trust of husband and wife, which ultimately effects the
freedom between them and around them😃<br>

Well Tina, i'll get back to ur msg tomorrow..am very tired tdy..have to send my baby to school tomorrow..waking up early n all 🤢 why can't schools start frm 10 am? 😡

abhi ke liye, what can i say? each individual should have the right to live their lives the way they want to...but i dun agree fully to ur statement that husband wife should be left alone after marriage..agreed, they need privacy and at some places, the interference is too much..but then why do we have a negative image of in laws in our minds? 😕 we expect them to treat us like their children but do WE give them the same place as our parents? WHY is it that if a MIL is explaining something to her DIL, it's called "taunt" and when the same thing her mother is explaining, she understands it well?

this interference issue can be with parents also na? tht's one problem of the gen. next..that they don't "need" their parents as soon as they're ready to stand on their own 2 feet...is every relationship is of "need" ONLY? what about love & affection? attachment and emotions? you will feel that attachment with ur son/daughter when u become a mom...then you will look at it with a different perspective......i think that as children we demand freedom from our parents, the same freedom will be demanded by our children from us, but the generation gap will exist ! and the way WE are complaining abt OUR in laws, may be our DIL's will be complaining abt US !

i can't understand what kind of an arrangement will be perfect for a couple 😕 if they're living in a joint family? yes if they wanna live seperate frm their parents, tht's a diff. issue...lets not take examples frm yrkkh bec. it's highly overdramatized..we both know it well 😊


for me, change is the law of nature...change can be for good also...many times it happens tht a girl gets married into a liberal minded family frm a conservative one...and in reality, both the girl and her in laws have to adjust equally..tht's what I have experienced in my life..dun know abt the rest.....in my house, tht dish is not cooked which I don't like....bas it's our instinctive reaction that "oh this is not what i like" , so what? we are capable of adapting ourselves ..don't we do tht at our parent's place? we develop a lifestyle ..and after marriage we again get a chance to set it but differently ... first n foremost adjustments happen with the husband followed by in laws...every small change looks big but it's just our thinking..socho toh bahut kuch, na socho toh kuch nahi

Originally posted by: _charu_

chill Anji 😃 Akshara's goodness will surely work in favor for her...tht's the direct path to Naitik's heart.....woh bechara itni buri tarah phas jayega ke MA bhi wapas nahi la payegi

I agree...I love Aksh's goodness, but what about her mind and mouth and using both? Why only use it with Naitik? When will she be able to stand-up to the accusations...Naitik will help her; I myself have stated this many times, but when will Aksh enable herself? And now while everyone around her spins stories and nonsense about her, she is flitting in the wind doing everyone's bidding, and she is still the fall guy? Naitik can only defend her so long, but for me to be an interested viewer, I need for Aksh's character to grow a long, strong backbone soon!

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

lol Sonu...Charu recommended Basera coz it has a vamp bahu...maybe that will help u...I dont think it will do anything for me though...I love Akshara and Naitik too much and can block everyone else out now 😆

Guys, YR has bheja fried me to the point that I can't even look at another serial on my Dish Mega pack...and Sonu, your post has convinced me that Indian TV is lacking in progressive shows...what is this fascination with showing India as it was in the 1900s...? And Ritu, I am trying to block everyone but Naksh out, but G ma and Gulabo are always in the way! When I started watching YR I was convinced that this show would be different...but, after the wedding, the show just spins the same yarn but in different scenarios...kuch toh parivartaan aana chahiye...I love Naksh, but I am barely hanging on by a thread...this story has to come out of this blame Aksh for everything all the time mode! If it weren't for you guys and Charu's updates, I probably would have stopped watching a long time ago...now I am just waiting for Naksh to stand up to and hopefully leave the insanity behind them...at least the turmoil created by that situation will be interesting to watch 😊...

Originally posted by: 5cents

Hi Dear, how R u? Enjoy now as your xms r over. I loved your siggy😃