Emotinal attyachar & forgiveness

Today's episode was a lessons on how to do emotional attyachar.First it was the shukla couple torturing poor madhav because he wanted them to come and recieve his fiancee and family,then we had dadi who is ever ready to give out free advice,then there is TN who was acting like madhav has commited a crime just because he wants to marry outside his community.

Today's episode was really nice. I loved the apologizing scene between mathur and Abeer. It was sweet how he accepted Abeer's apology and gave him responsibility to put the mattresses on the upper floor. It shows Mathur's understanding nature. I will not be surprised if Abeer develops an understanding and respect for Mathur, not because he is leher's father but because his own father bajpayee is very rigid in his rules. Look at the way he treated Madhav and Shukla.

The scene b/w Abeer and Leher was great. It looks like Leher is now giving a thought to our dashing boy Abeer who has started to act more responsibly. Can't wait to watch more Abeer Leher moments !!

This show always rises above my expectations in each episode...abeer and leher look so cute together and act very well!!!

{I am really starting to feel bad for sudha ,she is going to have to listen to so much stuff when AbHer fall in love}

Was a great epi.. The scene of forgiveness was so brilliant.. I was smiling in happiness! Was proud of abeer for being mature. And the AbHer scene was also great... seeing Abeer calming explain was he was doing and then walking off.. Leher could not say a word. Its gonna make things differently for them now.

Even I liked today's episode, but yaar this emotional atyachaar is too much, not that I mind it. I know this is a part and parcel of this serial, logo ka kehna and izzat and caste stuff and all.

When will Madhav's parents realize that what is more important is family happiness, not what people say. I guess, never. What I find most intriguing is TN's character. Downstaris he kept on taunting Madhav that what bad he is doing by marrying outside his caste, and upstairs he is telling his wife to tell Madhav's mom to enjoy the marriage and not cry all the time. Even previously, when Shuklaji and his wife told him about this marriage, first he taunted them to no end, and then in the end without any force, he agreed for the marriage celebrations to take place in his house. This makes me think, even though TN is hard in and out, there is this small soft side inside him that is ready to forgive and forget. Its just that first he needs to taunt and speak his mind, and then he will do exactly what is needed of him to do. This is the feeling i get about him.

It seems like it made no difference what so ever to Abheer of what his dad indirectly told him about getting thrown out of the house if he goes against the rules. Every time he sees Lehar or thinks about her, he tends to forget the dhamkis that his dad has given him. Abheer is a guy who just follows his heart, and TN just follows his mind. This is a vast difference between both of them.

I absolutely loved the last part of the episode, Abheer asking for forgiveness, his first visit to Lehar's furnished room (he had visited earlier when it was empty), and then the small interaction between AbHer. He is slowly getting to know more and more about Lehar's life, and this is attracting him to her even more.

Chalo, I had hoped for Abheer to ask for forgiveness today, and he did. But I also wished that someone from the family, Lehar or Lehar's mom, would see this from some corner, without Abheer and Brij knowing of it. I want Lehar's mom too to think that Abheer is a nice guy. It would have been ideal if Lehar saw it and then in the short interaction in the room, told Abheer thanks and left. Abheer would definitely understand why she thanked him.

Kal bomb phutne wala hain, when Shuklas see Abheer at Mathur's dining table. I am hoping they dont tell anything to Abheer's parents, which is highly unlikely though, warna bichara Abheer ko aur ek scolding milegi. Brij Mathur is such a sweetheart. I am so looking forward to some nice light-hearted scenes between him and Abheer during the marriage ceremony.

@queenAnnie18-Even i liked the abeer and mathur scene. Did u see abeer's expression when mathur hugged him ,he looked so surprised.Just further proof that TN has never really shwn that kind of affection towards abeer.

Agree Sam! Feel for Sudha as well as Madhav for having to listen to so much from everyone for no mistakes of theirs!! What will happen to Sudha when Abeer- Laher actually fall in love?

Rexy, I think TN is not negative. He is just a person who follows rules and man-made traditions religiously. For him, emotions and feelings dont exist. As long as you follow what he says, he has no problem with you. The thing is, I feel he does not give enough space for Abheer to breath. Had Abheer followed everything TN says, he would be depressed by now. Abheer barely ever listens to TN, he just follows his heart. TN is more like an emotionless person, when it comes to his interaction with his kids. I dont think so Abheer has received any affection from TN, which he will soon start receiving from Mathur. Instead of imparting good sanskars to his kids as a father, TN believes in giving dhamkis, scolding, and leaves everything to Sudha to make sure that the kids never falter. Its like, he has distanced himself from his children. They are more scared of him, than respect him from their heart.

You know, sometimes when I see fathers like TN, i feel they are doing some sought of business with their children, instead of loving them and imparting life principles to them. Today he said, if Abheer goes against the tradition, he will throw him out of the house. Its like you listen to me, you are in, or else out. Same way in business, you give money, u take the product, or else not. As a father, you teach your children the right path, you dont make them be scared of you. If Abheer ever has a doubt or is in a problem, he will never approach his dad for the solution. I understand that sometimes children makes mistakes, but there is a way to explain to them what is right and wrong. You can be strict with your children when needed, but not every time you interact with them. It is parents' duty to teach their children life's principles, and then you just have to trust your child. You cannot impose your thoughts on them. But to TN, he believes he is doing the right thing by imposing his thoughts on Abheer. I wonder if Abheer wanted to be a lawyer himself or is just doing it because his father wants him to. I am pretty sure, TN has never sat down with Abheer and imparted his knowledge to him. He has left all this to Sudha. And ofcourse, if Abheer falters, it is Sudha's fault, never his. TN type fathers will scold you for your weakness, but will never help you get rid of your weakness or understand your weakness and help you rise above it. To him, traditions and what society thinks are more important than his childrens' happiness. TN type people dont judge people by heart, but by caste. You can be the bestest person, but if you are not a Brahmin, then you are not worth talking to. And you can be the worst person, but if you are a Brahmin, you are his friend. They judge high and low by caste, not by deeds and sanskars.

Therefore, I dont think so he is negative. Like he does not wish bad for anyone or intentionally does bad to anyone. He just has a personality (his thinking process and his attitude towards life), which is completely opposite from Mathur's lovable personality.

LOL, Mathur home as Abheer second home, definitely waiting to see this. You are right, there is plenty of time for Lehar and her mom to be impressed by Abheer. After all, the marriage celebrations have not even started. 😉 Abhi toh only preparations are going on.

Yes definitely, there are alot of similarities between Mathur and Abheer. In fact I can very well see, Mathur's present as Abheer's future. Both are very similar in nature. Abheer will actually see a father-like image in Brij, and by being more with Brij, he will realize what he has missed from his own father. And again, Brij is a very rational being, who would put love and happiness of people much above man-made traditions.