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MUKHI MUST REDEEM HIMSELF BEFORE ARU REDEEMS HERSELF.
I am not surprised with the rise of jealousy in Aru because we already spoke about it last two episodes. In the patchup today, she does realize that her tantrums caused Mukhi to not eat on his birthday, so she does come out and sit with him . He in turn does TALK and let her know it was Saanvi's birthday too...she is a widow so she does not celebrate. Saanvi also earned brownie points from Mukhi by making the halwa but hiding it so Aru's cake shines.But in my opinion either Saanvi should not have made it, or she should have included Aru in it. Anyway have already beaten the matter to death in my previous posts so will not talk about halwa anymore.
Loved the patchup, the gentleness with which Mukhi explains things and Aru immediately feels horrified about her behavior...she runs like a little kid covering her face because she feels so humbled by the truth..that it was Saanvi's bday too, and she had hurt Saanvi with her behaviour. Mukhi understands Aru's guilt, goes and brings some cake she made and they both eat it. Sweet patchup.
And they feed each other dinner.
BTW I loved Aru's questions- Do you really know why I am angry--thats a question we women have to ask our husbands many times cox the men get into a habit of thinking..god knows what the issue is let me say sorry and get done with it- and then they repeat the same mistake again and again because they never get to the bottom of the matter. Also, really trying to understand why your spouse is hurt will bring some validity to their pain as well.
Coming to next day- And this is the part where MUKHI really fell short of his personality...is when Aru is trying to explain to him that he needs to come to Ahmedabad with her so her family can be in peace after seeing them together.
First of I completely disrespect Aru's mother for doing everything she did by getting Aru married to Mukhi, and then now saying that we have already told all the community that your both are coming together. Such parents are not blessings...sorry to say such parents are a bane to a girl. She saved the honour of their family by marrying a man 22 years older..now she needs to keep on towing him around in front of them , again and again for their honour in the community. I really felt sick about Aru's mother again today, after the wedding episode. This is exactly the kind of thing that makes me feel we are looking for progressiveness in a wrong show. Would have much appreciated if Aru's mother said, look you have not been to Maika after marriage even once, let your dad come and get you for this function and you can chill here for sometime. Damadji is welcome but you at least need to come and be with us for a while during the naamkaran ceremony.
Aru's parents and aunt know very well in what circumstances the wedding happened...trying to treat it as a normal marriage is wrong on their part as well. Committing to the relatives that damadji is coming and putting that pressure on Aru...CryAnyway- leaving Aru's parents bad parenting behind and moving on--
Coming back to Mukhi- Mukhi was made purposefully more gruff and insensitive , shown as a husband who doesn't care a damn that Aru is leaving to Ahmedabad next day..The real Mukhi would care, care a lot. He is shown busy with his work to such extent ..and busy with taking care of Saanvi in the night before and in the morning, that he didn't acknowledge Aru's existence or the fact that her leaving makes any difference to him. I think CVs want to show a jealous wife and careless husband just to create a gap between them...ATTENTION- that is what Aru wants from Mukhi, she is not getting it, Saanvi is getting it because "oh she is pregnant and oh she is a widow". Nothing wrong with Mukhi taking care of Saanvi, don't mind the hug in the night also...but I mind that the now married Mukhi is not including his wife in the way he takes care of Saanvi. Giving Saanvi medicines, helping her sit and get up, deal with her midnight issues( don't know what they were)...for these things he can include his sister Uma and wife Aru as well. Just because they are BFF since childhood doesn't mean that they stop valuing the feelings of people around them.
Again, Saanvi is not at fault here at all- Mukhi is at fault .And Aru's anger will fall in wrong place ..it will come to Saanvi.
A BFF is okay, opposite gender is okay, pregnant but single is okay, living under your roof okay, but the fact that her wedding was considered with Mukhi 15 years back , and then all the above things..and waking in middle of night to console her, taking care of her while ignoring he presence and requests of Aru...all of it was very very dicey. It looked forced to me. Because till now, we never saw Mukhi taking care of Saanvi that way.
Those who are talking about Aru's redemption, please remember that first Mukhi needs to redeem himself. Wife will TRUST husband when he is clean and plain with her. WIFE IS NOT REQUIRED TO TRUST A HUSBAND WHO DOES NOT INCLUDE AND INFORM HER OF THINGS.If Mukhi first thing in the morning mentioned to Aru about his midnight visit and the reasons...and sat down and talked to her about her family's expecations about the Ahmedabad visit, it would have meant much more to ARU.
Mukhi's sudden behavior for the past 2-3 episodes that now that you are going to Ahmedabad anyway, I don't have to tell you anything, I don't have to do anything for you, I don't have to enquire after your well being, I don't have to help you break the bad news to your family, I don't have to be with you for anything.. its something unforgivable after USING Aru's presence for:
1) getting Mishri married properly and letting Mishri go with mental peace
2) making sure his family image is good infront of Mishri's parents--
3)for letting ARU take care or nursing him back to health after accident
4),for letting Aru SINGLE HANDEDLY solve the issues of factory and illegal liquor,
5)for all the times her life was in danger.
Agreed...he never had begged her to stay- But when she decided to stay for her duties , he didnt force her to go as well. NOW he is almost SHOOING her off...the way he spoke to her today...was almost as if she is an insect in the wall for him. Maybe so his decision to not go to Ahmedamad was made from logic that he didn't want relationships to be more tangled than they already are...but the sensitive and thoughtful Mukhi could have understood how hard it is for Aru to go back alone and break the bad news that the marriage is over to her people. Its definitely harder on the girls side from social perspective.
Aru is already insecure about Saanvi, add to that the man is giving his 100 % to Saanvi and not even wondering how Aru must be feeling that now she is leaving. Such a use and throw behaviour from him is not expected CVS. Its like ab tera yahan kya kaam...ab katlo ur of no use , and ur problems are urs type of behavior.Agreed he doesn't see Aru as wife so he doen't understand her insecurity and jealousy, but just a friend and person he was very distanced and gruff with Aru.
I want Aru to forget about Mukhi and Saanvi, go back and tell her parents the truth, and go headlong and jump into her career. Today for the first time I felt that Mukhi does not deserve Aru.
Raami comes and adds poison to Aru's vulnerable and ignored existence...And ARU you made the biggest mistake of taking Rami's advice. Rami was never nice to you...so why were you listening to her. Aru's doubts might be right..I mean the relation between Mukhi-Saanvi surpasses ordinary BFF behavior- physical contact, wiping tears, midnight meetups---I would be a little edgy if my husband did all that with another woman..be it his BFF. Its one thing to TALK things OUT with the BFF, the above is another story altogether.
To me Aru's rudeness and actions are not justified but Aru's jealousy is definitely justified. Again from the angle that she now wants Mukhi as husband...does she know that by the way? Has she accepted him completely as her husband? Or only playing this " he is mine he is not mine" game for the sake of winning..hope she figures that out.
A lot of us might feel that Aru should understand that he just taking care of a pregnant friend...but readers, there are many couples that break when they tread this path...there is a movie in Marathi if you have watched..KALAT NAKALAT...where the husband feels bad for his friends widowed wife and cares for her through her loneliness, and one night..succumbs to emotion and sleeps with her..destroying his happy marriage and kids lives. Not many men and women are able to handle circumstances like these very cleanly...
As always again I would reiterate, a married couple should have boundaries with BFFS and include thier spouses.
Of course, here..the problem is ArMu don't know how much they are married.
Aru needs to stop playing jealous victim, leave Mukhi and Saanvi to their fate, pack and get back to City, work towards her ambitions and let Mukhi come to her..or atleast show signs that she is important in his life. Love cannot be demanded, it needs to be commanded. If he is so DONE with her as he behaved in second half of todays episode...then she needs to give him space and figure out things for himself. I don't want Aru to turn 180 degrees and play martyr and start taking care of Saanvi's pregnancy - where as Mukhi does not show any dutifullness to Aru's family.
I dislike and direspect men who think wives need to do things for their family, have to gel with their family,, accept BFFS, have to complete duties but they don't have to do anything for the wife's family. And though Mukhi never demanded duties from Aru..the man ran helter skelter to find Aru in time for his sisters Kanyadaan .WHY? because it mattered to him. And he is washing his hands away from any duties to Aru's family ...sad. Till now we saw Aru being part of Mukhi's village and life.
Hope future track leads to Mukhi being part of Aru's life ...and then Aru can come back to redeem herself with Saanvi...after Mukhi redeems himself.
CVS- there was a hige difference in Mukhi's character in first half and second half of the episode-almost like a different person. What are you doing to Mukhi???
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