If Sameer had no inherited wealth - Page 2

Not onlyet in 90 I hv seen love stories breaking now too on this issue.but 90 it was difficult to go agnst family for a girl and a boy needed some years to build a career and many girls family didn't wait for so long.my own brother struggled a lot to marry his college love and there was too much pressure from girls parents by themail time they were 26 I am talking about late 2000 here. Anyways finance do matters and the success would hv depended on how much naina could take stand for him and I don't think she would have taken that watching her approach specially I don't see anand too giving so much support.This love story went till marriage purely because sameer was wealthy and he was firm on his commitment and wholly genuine.Even if naina loves him but she is after all a girl of 90 .

This question was in my mind from many days. I have also seen girls getting married to another person because the love of their life were not financially stable. But in naina's case she would stick to her word. Chachaji would also support them. But for how many years they would have been able to avoid naina's marriage talk don't know! It's not that easy for a middle class boy to settle down. But it's not impossible.

I feel they would have run away from home and got married and started a new life may he chachaji would have supported them.

As I am also a 90s kid and experienced lots of breakups...so this would also end in break up. Chachu would never agreeto this shaadi forget about Rakesh etc. Naina can't baby sit Sameer for her entire life. She would most probably forced to marry Sharad and no one including Naina and Chachu would not get the guts to stand against Sharad. It may sound harsh but that was the reality of 90s and today too. As a groom Sameer is useless.

Originally posted by: Deepanand

I feel they would have run away from home and got married and started a new life may he chachaji would have supported them.

To force the issue many couples run away and get married, struggle, breakup and the girl faces the humiliation of having to go home. Her family grudgingly take her back, many times with her children and the cycle continues. The boy goes on to live his own broken life too.

See this is a real life story, in real also Sumeet sir inherited his grandfather's wealth , and worked in it, post the down fall of his business ,he staeted from scratch and Shashi mam supported him,same way they will show post marriage how they will struggle together,even if Sameer didnt inherit any thing ,he would take his career seriously and work hard,may be from starting of college only,as now he knew he has his grandfather's inheritence ,his house,business ,so he didn't take it seriously

Originally posted by: sweta2005

See this is a real life story, in real also Sumeet sir inherited his grandfather's wealth , and worked in it, post the down fall of his business ,he staeted from scratch and Shashi mam supported him,same way they will show post marriage how they will struggle together,even if Sameer didnt inherit any thing ,he would take his career seriously and work hard,may be from starting of college only,as now he knew he has his grandfather's inheritence ,his house,business ,so he didn't take it seriously

The topic clearly requires us to consider what the situation would have been like if there was no inheritance. When you grow up knowing that you will have to fend for yourself and your family, you gain certain values and attitudes that cause you to behave differently and for other people to behave differently toward you. If Sameer did not have an inheritance the situation would have been different and marriage would not have been agreed to so lightly.

Great to read everyone's views. I like most of you also believe that Sameer's wealth played pivotal role in culminating Samaina's romance into marriage. Otherwise I feel that this love story would have met the same fate as many others I have seen in that time. Without financial security Chachaji wouldn't have agreed to their alliance and if Chacahji disagreed then Naina would not have gone against him to marry Sameer. So we would have gotten no Sameer and Naina moving forward.

This hypothetical question is actually very relevant in Sameer & Naina's case. Having money has eliminated lots of anxiety in Sameer and Naina's relationship and have enabled them to opt for the married life so early on in life. Sameer's inheritance has erased the fear that they won't be able to have food on their table or roof over their heads. This type of security is overlooked with you are as rich as Sameer but in real life for youths who elope and try to start their life on their own, it sure was and probably even now is, very trying.

The other thing is that having money like Sameer has given Naina new opportunities to enjoy a swanky mansion, costly clothes & jewelry, big wedding and all other luxury that money can buy. However, if Sameer had no inheritance, even if Sameer and Naina chose to elope, they would have to take shelter from friends to friends as they would have clamored to make arrangement for their own livelihood to make ends meet, which might actually even lead to frustrations and resentments at each other.

Watching all the beautiful wedding sequence all I was thinking was at 20 I barely used to have money in my pocket to pay my cafeteria bill and this dude is giving wedding of her dream to his gal. Lucky Naina that is what all I can say.

Very interesting topic.

Originally posted by: USwamy

Very interesting topic.

What if Sameer was not rich with inheritance. I personally feel it could have been either way. Having grown up in that era have seen a lot of love stories bite the dust as well as young love stories now celebrating 25 years of marriage.

@Ardhaan - agree with you, Sameer would have been different. He wouldn't have been so easy going. Obviously the freedom which comes with such such kind of wealth would not have been there. But Sameer is also a smart kid. He doesn't study because he feels he doesn't need too. It is drilled in him that he will just walk in one day and take over Nanus business just like that. Had he been middle class, he may have studied better with a future plan.

As far as both of them eloping or getting married, the marriage would have been delayed till at least after graduation. Wether they make it together or not, I think they would have, albeit with a lot of adjustments and frustrations.

Have also seen a lot of young love stories, struggling but eventually making it. If two people are resilient, and want to be together, they can. The strength and weakness both is their young age. If young age is one of confusion, it is also one where one can work really hard.

Have watched it from personal quarters, one of my cousin's , his love story started in grade 10, similar to YUD except he was no prince like Sameer. His parents were separated and parents were shoving the responsibility of raising him. Troubled teenager had only my now SIL to turn to. Like Naina, she too was a topper, doing well in studies.

After graduation, they eloped and got married as obviously her parents were not agreeable to the match as he belonged to a broken family ( huge stigma back then) and had no backing. Girls parents eventually relented and did a proper ceremony as they wanted to have a face in front of the society.

Of course, the journey wasn't easy, they studied, worked, struggled, fought but what I found in them is the ease with which they can be themselves in front of each other, yell at each other and still always be together without being judged. The reason being they have literally grown up together and are each other's closest friends. It is true for most of us that our closest friends are the ones we have made in our childhood. And when you struggle together, your bond becomes stronger. They celebrate their 25 years of marriage and are doing very well career wise.

I remember, during the break up phase , the epi in which Sameer celebrates his bikes birthday because he wants to ensure that Naina eats, there was a beautiful VO from Naina talking about kachhi Umar me bane rishton ki mitti...' that their rishta was above everything else.

I believe Naina and Sameer would have made it no matter what. Also , money was never an issue for either of them when falling in love. Naina would have loved him even if Sameer was a regular middle class guy and would have adjusted to the struggles as she belongs to a middle class family and never used to the riches.

Sorry for the long post. Loved reading everyone's take here.

Cheers!

Uma