WINDS OF CHANGE - Page 3

This is a rocking post! I totally agree, people are forgetting Naina's true self and only focusing on what they want her to be but the truth is even realistically we all know for Naina family has always come first and theirs nothing wrong in that..she is a confident sherni girl who is only having difficulties juggling her family and love..

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I do agree, you cant compare the two. Affection of a dad is what give the child courage to walk after a fall and affection of a spouse is what completes you. One is the reason for your origin and for what you are ...your spouse is your future and what you will be.

But learning to love and differentiate the love that arises from different relationship is also a part and parcel of growing up. We learn as our world around grows. Initially a child understands only a mothers affection , then comes her dad and sibling , then the extended family , later friends, then colleagues from office, neighbours and in the due course we get blessed with life partner , and soon there will be another circle of this in making ...so yes ...it changes not just for Naina , it will for Sameer as well...we are yet to see his growth...what will happen when his family comes to know abt Naina or when he gets a marriage proposal...how is he going to handle it ...what if there is angle of money in it...will he have to let it go and choose Naina or will he let Naina go and choose money for his business as there would be 100s of employees whose lives would depend on it ?? So such situation can arise in a man's life ...then how is he going to handle it...we don't know...

There is nothing called as perfect decisions . I think it is always what we think is right at that moment...later when we think back ...we might think our decisions weren't rt ...but it seemed rt when we took it...so why the difference ?? Its with time perspectives do change , probably because of some experience , in sights or introspections...no sure...

So for Naina when she said NO to Sameer it was rt for her at that juncture...now its to be seen what this experience will do to change that decision...will she still be his friend or lover?? We don't know yet!!

Brilliant post. 👏You have an amazing thought process and clarity in everything. About naina's words about leaving sam and his love for chachaji's respect I would like to believe that sameer was so dear to her, she let him go with immense pain and chose to live her life in suffering so that chachaji can walk with pride. Sharad and this alliance is way too small for her compared to the love sameer has for her. Naina is yet to realize that chachaji's happiness lies in his daughter's happiness and well being. He would be never happy if naina choses pain for his respect. And definitely she will fight for her man when the time comes.

Originally posted by: viraf4u

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Yes you are right we are yet to see Sameer's growth but what you have mentioned- Sameer has already covered it in his statement to Naina in the cafe-- that he will never leave Naina for family or money... he is set on that.. Mamaji has already said very clearly marriage will happen with family approval so he already knows.. he didnt back down from Naina even after that .. it clearly shows his commitment to love...might be a little too soon but we know he has been very committed to his relations...and nothing or no one could deter him.. be it dadi or mama and his family... he is one of those that will try to find a way out..but not quit... that is his weakness and his strength,.,.and yes that could lead him in trouble..but that is his character sketch...

For Naina- yes I agree at that point it might have been the immediate need to protect her family and Sameer from humiliation by her she took the decision to quit.. and agree to marry Sharad.. that she was willing to take it all the way when she knew she will never love anyone else other than Sameer.. I think Anand has raised her better to make the right choice when in question- it draws me to another point when she asks Anand if she should help Sameer with studies for Head boy competition against Arjun- Anand says do your karma.. and dont worry about the results as thats whats right.. on that context.. she should have done exactly what he said.. she should have stuck with him for the pure love.. and should have tried to see where it leads... of course water under the bridge..but these experiences makes her Naina.. and we love her... with all her flaws and faults.. just like Sameer...

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You are right he has it very clear that he will never let go Naina and but for Naina that is not the same ..and the reason is their past.
Sameer understood the meaning of affection from a woman is thru Naina. That is why he is not able to let her go. He has always yearned for affection from his mom but he has never got it. The realization of what it is to be loved by a woman ,how warm and secure this affection can be is what Naina taught him. He understood the essence of a woman thru Naina.
Where as for Naina , the secured affection of a man is understood from Chacha ji and hence its difficult for her to let go her chacha ji. If you see Sameer's character a lot resembles Chacha ji. Sameer is very forward thinking person . You know how he stands by his Bhabhi for her rights and how he is able to understand that even women need freedom. He always wanted Naina to study and be successful. He is never jealous of Naina s success rather he is proud about her.
If Sameer had a mother figure during his growing age like the way Naina has a father figure then the whole dynamics would be different.
Now , regarding why Naina didn't remember chacha ji's teaching ...well when in panic very few are able to logically think about the teachings of our parents and take calculated decisions. For that she will need to be a lot more older. The importance of our parents teachings are understood when we become parents!!
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Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

. In fact I had made a post saying that you cannot compare the two. I guess I made that post in a hurry with out understanding Naina's character. Might be that , years of being a woman made me forget what a father is for a teenage girl. A strong woman is the outcome of strong parents in most cases strong father. That is what we saw in yesterday's episode. If she couldn't stand up for her dad ( Chacha ji ) who brought her up, she will never be able to stand up for the man she loves. The first man in any girl's life is always her dad. For Naina its her chacha ji. Rakesh is ONLY her biological dad. For the girl Naina its her Chacha ji whom she sees as her father and that's why the rage when she understood Sharad had insulted him. She rose to being an adult who took a decision NOT ONLY FOR HER BUT EVEN FOR HER DAD ( Chacha ji ) . She stood in front of him to protect his image. She didn't care what the society would talk after a broken engagement. Her foster father was everything for her.

Lovely read WRTW. It was heartening to see NAina and Chachaji both young members held their ground and won the battle against their rigid and conservative elders.

What a beautiful flawless explanation

Originally posted by: shravyarao

In a girl's life her father is always going to be the first hero, first choice and first evrerything Infact seeing our dad only we decide how our wouldbe husband should be, we set the bar with the one person in life who has been always be with us no matter what, our rock, our constant support system, our life-line, the ever supporting, ever loving, ever guiding us in the right path and showing unconditional trust in our abilities even with all the constant rules snd taunts about girls in the society for more than 25years. In Naina's case her chachaji, The father.

So, her first priority had been her father. Bcoz she thought he woukd commit suicide after he comes to know about her love. She did what any sane person would do, i don't know what are people not understanding about Naina. In the name of analysis u keep bashing a beautiful, flawed but real character. When she can take a stand for her father, she can take a stand for her man too. This stage she is in right now her proirity would be her father, when it comes to sameer she will defintely stand up with him too. Thats how we girls are conditioned. Its a slow transition. Father, husband, children. Their positions keep changing according to the circumstances. But one thing that is there is that, they are constant. Stop fixating her to be in a certain way, like typical heroines. If we look at her she represents every girl in 90's who faced this situation.

And also the story is not finished, sameer and naina make many mistakes, they stumble, they get up, they fight again, thats what they do. Declaring one character as unfit and not redeemable without actually knowing the complete story is not justified. This is just one phase next when sameer does something people get on bashing about his character. What even!? Please keep patience people there is alot of story still pending and waiting to be shown. Stop throwing judgements.

Ashu thanks for all the posts u keep coming up with recently. It's so wonderful to read ur throughts. And u explain beautifully about the characters too.

a very very very good post! an excellent post!

Missed the post earlier.Avery good perspective to see .Very much looking forward to the story now .How they both will grow and mature in love.