Originally posted by: Lacustris
Viji nice review and nice title... Effects of Trump i guess..😆
Before I post my review for today i will post my two pennies for the past episodes as I saw them..Here it goes.. and I warn you its a long rant..😉Buenos das/buenas tardes seoritas
How are you all..
Looks like lot happened in YHM...so we had a romantic dance by Ishita and Raman because Raman wanted to dazzle her by booking the whole restaurant, romantic music and works since he can afford it to woo her so she can come home to him with kids.. mind you the restaurant plan only came after she lamented how Raman forgot about her in front of Gulabo.. but what seems to be the icing on the cake was her conversation in the car with Raman..even after she shared her pain of being called sauteli ma and him doing things in anger to her the guy didn't get it. Makes me believe that he sees no wrong in calling her all those and the worst is he is doing those to hurt her and he doesn't care much about her hurt..Yes the restaurant is after she poured her heart out to gulabo...and when he asked her to come back, he said "not now".. he was frustrated. He thought wining and dinner will be it you change her mind, little did he know that it is t the case. He did not get it at all.
This is a stark difference to the Raman we saw in thoseearlier two years of marriage.. at least he was somewhat sensitive to her feelings, but this Raman is totally in me and I and myself mode.
Raji rightly pointed out, that sensitive Raman is dead..long gone, even in accident track he was very sensitive and guilt was eating him up for hurting her..
Then in the car conversation he cried with her wiped his tears and went home discussed about women and their wants and needs with Romi and confidently boasted his bhabhi will come home to him...*face palm* it's not what women want, it's all about what Ishita wants.. the point is missed completely. And after that painful conversation he didn't call her to check if she is ok or not.. which we as normal people would do.. but he didn't.. he is the same jerk Raman he turned out in those 7 years of their separation.
The car convo was very good, yes she poured out her expectations very clearly...and he is aware of the things he says and yet no remorse. And you brought out what she wanted...but unfortunately it was mistaken again as what women want instead of what she expects..she's expecting little love and respect..is that wrong?..to me no. And the next day .
A woman/girl would always like follow up after a date...from her date..men has to make the move. It's just to make her feel,special..an extra effort to say...I care for you, you are always in my thoughts, I liked the time we spent together, I wanna do it again. Ishita genuinely acknowledged his efforts, she knows he's very generous ..but that's not what she wants..she wants simple things..simple moments which she values, a phone call, a flower that means a lot to her. ..it may look stupid to others but to her that's more precious ...she is not materialistic..see more than the restaurant. she appreciated the effort that he booked it ..that gesture is what she liked..the initiative he took. To her even that 2 minute phone call is precious...that says she's important to him, It sort of ended a bit sadly...so to her had he called shows he understood he and respects her.
Now coming back to gajra once again he didn't do it knowingly but did it after she mentioned it with Shagun how small things make her happy.. then he sent gajra and cake.. Raman never understood Ishita.. she is as deep as ocean and as patient as mother earth.. no one knows how many deep gashes in them and how many volcano's are erupting.. and Raman with his lack of class can never understand her period.
@ italics...that's ishita...loved what you said...
Now his lunch date with Ishita and Pihu I'm not sure what stood out in it but right now he is into Pihu ONLY and forgot all about his other kids... So injustice right there by Raman but those two are not jealous type and they both love Pihu just the way they love their mother who loves them both equally so all is well there.. then him requesting to take Pihu home to grandparents - that was nice.. at least he didn't demand it as it's his huq..period.
Raji it was a nice scene..and as you said..the other 2 don't mind at all,as they love and adore their baby sis..
Now him and pihu missing for hours and the fiasco at Mani place ..hmmm i see everyone blaming ishita as she came under brainwashing by Mani.. but I see it differently.. she is after all a human being and a mother.. she can be worried to death thinking the worst of Raman..thinking him kidnapping Pihu. Possible.. why? I tell you why...
This is the same Raman time and again separated her from her children(I'm saying her children because not once she thought of them as Shagun's children though she acknowledges Shagun as their birth mother but that's it.. she believes that both Adi and Ruhi are hers ONLY)..that includes Pihu who is her biological child. So if we step back and look at all the wrongs done by Raman towards Ishita her pain is clearly visible.. she trusts Raman 1000% that he will not hurt his kids, but she can't trust Raman not even 0.00001 that he will think twice to separate kids from her..this is the same man who separated Ruhi from her deceptively during child swap and made her suffer through Ruhi's hatred while he was having dinners with Ruhi at Shagun's place.. this is the same ma who deceptively done the surrogacy behind her back and how unceremoniously and cruelly he separated her with her newborn baby. No she didn't come under the influence of Mani but she only looking at Raman through her experiences with him and she knows now how cruel Raman can be with her..Raji...I still remember the hospital scene when he accused her of trying to kidnap pihu...he didn't trust her...latest ruhi jail track...look at her complete trust she has in Raman...isn't this sad did she deserve this no...
Shagun trusting Raman more than ishita, i don't put too much stock into what Shagun thinks, but she is also speaking from her experience with Raman who never denied her any of her rights over their kids despite her betrayal and abandonment and harm she caused to the kids and not only that while he made Ishita sauteli ma to their children which is a fact but knowing that title hurts Ishita he didn't hesitate to use it on her but he also made Shagun "asli ma" to Pihu while denying Ishita of her rights on her own blood and flesh. So for her Raman will not do the kidnapping...she as a person who plotted to kidnap her both kids certifying Raman that he will not do that is really laughable..here i say everyone is speaking through their experiences..that's all..
@ italics that still hurts her, so does the tag.ruhi ke like..
Now coming back to finding out Raman being drunk in the accident, Shagun, kids and whole world may blame Raman being drunk and irresponsible but Ishita will never doubt him and in fact she will even defend him.. but can we expect the same unshakable faith from Raman towards Ishita that she will not harm her kids ever.. a BIG NO...she was blamed for Ruhi being lost and just recently she was being blamed for Ruhi in the jail citing that she is not her blood so she doesn't understand and hence harm the kids.
Though YHM started as a story of an infertile woman, the core concept as is being shown is how fertility triumphs all sorts of betrayal, and being biological parents how Raman and Shagun can play with the emotions of their kids, and by not able to give birth how a mother irrespective of putting her life to save these children is going to be called on her inability, humiliated beyond anything.@ italics...well said..rightly said..
Now coming to Ruhi being smarter than Adi in the tender project.. though she may lacked the education but we saw her handling and sort of negotiating her projects while she was with Nidhi. Practicals triumphs education anytime. And this is how they show Adi feeling low about himself I'm not going to put my time into analyzing it.. story has to continue with lot of illogical stuff.. this is their story..
And one more thing.. why Ishita didn't share her date with Raman with Mani - it's none of his business.. just because she is staying there doesn't mean that he is her guardian.. she simply didn't want to give unnecessary attention to her and raman relationship..and why she didn't share gajra thing with Pihu...it's totally her personal moment that doesn't need to be shared with anyone...and till now the CVS clearly didn't put Pihu in ishita's corner yet so her flipping towards Shagun is more possible hating Ishita for taking Raman's attention away from her...Pihu is not really ishita's daughter yet but she competes with Ishita for Raman's attention.. don't forget that.
I liked you explanation of the gajra and her not sharing about the date with mani..it's her personal matter...none has the right...and now it occurred to be it's a personal moment which she doesn't want to share with pihu...
And now Adi and Ruhi blaming Raman being irresponsible..why is it surprising.. kids learn by their parents' actions not by their preaching..both Ruhi and Adi became more compassionate because they watched Ishita doing it and if they go off handle at times since they watched Raman doing it.. more over their compassionate behavior may be more learned and little genetic and their outbursts are more genetic as well as learned..
This is just my two pesos...I may be completely wrong in my understanding and you ladies may not agree with me, but this just by reading Vijis' review only...Long rant...
Anupamaa
