Originally posted by: -K.13-
Lovely write up, Prabh! Literally have nothing else content wise to add except what a joke this show has made of the concept of motherhood. It's disgusting to think a woman who has born her own children can make motherhood and parenthood a grotesque freak show.
The pre-leap segment was the icing on the cake & today was adding an extra cherry on top. They reduced Shagun to a mere womb, had constant rants on how Ishita is a step-mom and enjoys "being IshiMa", showed the pre-leap pathetic outburst of Raman, had Ishita questioning Adi's mother in jail, and today showed Mani denying Ishita motherhood of Aliya.
LIke you if the precap is just limited to the blame game in Ruhi's death - it's not as bad as questioning her motherhood.
It's actually interesting though b/c in society typically kids are identified by their mothers. This show does it the other way. However I will say outside of today's episodes YHM often has it's characters - Raman, Ishita, Shagun, etc - say my kids & everyone takes it one way or the other. Today it was clearly intentional but this idea of possessiveness over kids is often tossed around lightly and choppily on the show over the last year.
Honestly there is no clear message on motherhood here. Shagun's rights as a mother to Adi & Ruhi have essentially been stripped away to this day and rightfully so. Ishita's actions are regularly questioned. So who or what is a real mother to this show?
The only thing good I have seen post leap about this topic - is prior to the reveal, Raman praised Ishita's 1.5 year long upbringing of Adi. He didn't take Ishita's name, nor did he state Adi's blood mother had a positive impact on Adi...all he said is Adi's deceased mom left a positive mark on Adi through her motherhood.
And the one ray of hope is that relationships are still made of the heart is the kids themselves. Adi still views Ishita as his mother and gives her that place. I am sure Aliya will do the same. Pihu will eventually come around to Ishita but she also did give Shagun a chance to fix her mistake with Adi/Ruhi (even if one hates the character - she is for now a better person than before).
There is no honest end-game to this stuff nor is there a real reason for turning this into a freak-show...đ¤
Sorry for the disconnected stuff - but honestly I don't get this show's view on motherhood or their original idea of nature versus nurture (especially now with Pihu in the mix who has Shagun's nurture but Ishita's nature), or if they are trying to uplift or turn people away from the idea of step-mothers. đ¤ Drama ke liye kuch bhi
Thank you so much! This show was once one of the few that beautifully portrayed a relationship of motherhood without making it OTT or unrealistic, but now it seems to be going against everything it once showed. As you mentioned all the examples of the many times they ridicule the same love they promote, which will never make sense to me!
And with Shagun, in order to show the nature v/s nurture they have made the woman into nothing more than a woman who gives birth, and this can go onto another topic from me on who demeaning YHM becomes when women are only judged by their ability to give birth and raise children. Anyways not getting too much into a completely different tangent, i have to agree that it seems though that the makers don't know what they want to show. They showed Ishita a better mother than Shagun, but now seemed to have reversed these roles completely with Shagun-Pihu which questions the entire base of this show! So who does make a good mother? Or are they trying to say it changes from child to child?đ¤˘
With Raman acknowledging Ishita's upbringing, it was the only positive remark on her motherhood post leap, but what value does it hold since Raman has completely gone back on his words yesterday and today in his anger? Clearly Raman and Mani believe Ishita is a great mother in the way Adi and Aliya have been raised, but once in anger the truth about blood relations come into play and both men ended up completely disregarding Ishita's upbringing claiming the children as only theirs, not Ishita's.
And I completely agree that the children are the only saving grace at the moment with Adi and Aliya considering Ishita as their mother, loving & respecting her for the same. However I worry on that point as well when more situations as yesterday's where Aliya and Adi are on different sides come into play. It's always a possibility that one child may question her when she is made to chose between them like she was yesterday!
With Pihu, all I can say is since the 11pm YHM believed that it is nuture that seems to win over nature and if they want to continue that to show Ishita should have been there for Pihu, then maybe they will show that through Shagun's upbringing. Most probably Pihu will be made into some selfish child who is the complete opposite of Ishita or maybe she might end up like Adi like he was in the beginning! Anyways let's see how the complicate what could have been a simple story further!
Thank you so much for replying!
Shiv Shakti
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