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People are asking why, after seeing a broken, beaten, battered Raman, why isn't she staying. Why is she running away from the love of her life, when he has literally become a dead man walking. She has learnt he is dead, shattered. And it's because she isn't with him. He has revealed that her leaving has killed him.
Without her, he is lifeless.
But I'm asking, how can she stay? I personally think her reaction, though cowardly, is, especially for Ishita, very, very human. She is petrified. Terrified.
She knows Raman, she has seen him drunk. And then she has seen him sober. I think she knows that whilst Raman is revealing his pain while he is drunk, she also knows the venom he is capable of spewing when he'd be sober. If drunk Raman can let out his pain, sober Raman can be so stubborn, and volatile, that if he said something so harsh seven years ago, Ishita thought it would be better to end her life, imagine how scared she would be to face him now?
If Raman shuts down to self preservation mode, then Ishita running away is Ishita at her best. She thinks she is sacrificing herself yet again for the good of Raman. When in truth, yet again, she is doing it to feel needed. You would think Raman's words would play into her characterisation and she would feel needed. But here is the thing. She knows the pain Raman is capable of making her feel. When he wakes up, and sees her, it won't be the dream she saw in her head that plays out. Accusations will be flung. Maybe the very words said seven years ago will be repeated all over again. Raman is capable of immense love, but immense pain and volatility too. So maybe she decides I cannot face that hatred in Raman's eyes again. How many times can he kill her she thinks. If he is dead, then so is she. But tomorrow, sober Raman will in no way admit that he is dead. Actually, he will say the exact opposite. And this time Ishita doesn't know if she will have the strength to fight, to break all the walls that came back up a thousand times stronger. And even if she does comprehend doing that, isn't he married to Shagun?
So Ishita, yet again convinces herself she is doing it for him, and runs away from facing his hatred tomorrow. Runs away from facing the reality that he has married someone else. Who cares if it's Shagun, just that it's not her. Her staying and fighting with him- will it hurt him too? Because at the end of the day, they can't be together after that anyways
I am most definitely not defending Ishita. But I am saying she is reacting in a human way. She is running away. And many people run away from their problems. Ishita is actually a very twisted character. She has seen so much pain in her life, and pain that she didn't deserve. She has felt worthless for years. And she does extreme things to feel needed. This way, she feels needed to 'keep herself, a bad omen away' but is running from Raman's wrath. The wrath he unleashed seven years ago fresh in her mind. She knows he will do anything but talk about his true feelings in a sober state. So she is running from the hatred she will have to see in his eyes.
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