28.07.15 - I can never view the Bhallas the same way again, pity IshRa - Page 5

Originally posted by: anu rulz

Hey!! U know i had an old couple come today for psych fitness to make a will and believe it or not, their reasons seriously gave me a deja vu of YHM..apparently one of their sons is well to do and the other is unable to keep a stable job..needless to say, they wished to put majority of their property in the name of the latter..reason being tht the elder will manage..the husband wanted it primarily whereas the wife was hesitant..since i had to give them both fitness, i spoke to both separately..the wife was of the opinion tht the elder son is doing well coz he worked hard at it and dsnt deserve to be punished for it by being given less in the property division..father believed tht it was his responsibility to provide for less fortunate child..since it was his choice it was not my business to say anything abt it... Hey, not to deviate from the context...but what do you do?? In this scenario, the wife is correct...I mean even when you parent two kids, they both dont grow up the same way with same destinies...so you cannot really shortchange one for the other...granted, the father is worried about the less fortunate child, as he says, but then what will giving him MORE share in the property amount to? If the son doesnt know how to appropriately utilise it? How can parents even think of being unfair? But then...kya kahun...have seen it in my own family...and it hurts a lot...and its not even about money..its about how parents perceive their children...and who they shower more love on..ideally, it should ATLEAST be equal

What YHM is showing currently is a very real issue..people deal with these choices everyday..even in my in laws, i know there is a tendency for the less successful child being a priority no matter how much the others struggle..and invariably, the former is the one who whines maximum and the others are expected to handle everything AND provide for others..sumhow, for me personally it is difficult to accept this..every person goes thru difficulties..and for family to brush it under the carpet coz one person overcame it and others dint is unfair..in the show, its the same..bhallas probably have a more parental concern for their less successful children which is natural..but for them to expect raman and ishita to drop all their priorities for their siblings is not done, esp wen i dnt see even a pretence of gratitude towards them..its simply expected..and for the bhallas to not look at the situation from ramanz point of view is short sighted of them..

ishita disappointed me today again after yest..where she shud have put ramanz state of mind as her priority she is busy mollycoddling rinki of all people..toshiji, where she shud have whacked her spoilt brat of a daughter, is enabling her instead..these women do not realise tht rinki has to be reined in and not given a free shot at ruining raman and mihir... I guess you have another taker...even I find it very difficult to accept this kinda treatment or this logic...Im currently experiencing it and it hurts like hell...sometimes, I feel being born a man to parents can be a curse..coz automatically they start thinking tum bete ho, toh sab kuch sambhaloge...without due consideration of the unique problems you yourself might be facing...societal conditioning when it comes to men is very skewed, atleast in the financial scenario...I am thoroughly pissed with Ishu and Toshi...the former coz she didnt take into consideration the existing burden her husband is already under and the fact that it was the right time to let his siblings be independent, and the latter for not making her daughter understand the ground realities of life and instead indulging her...the precap also shows how Toshi THINKS its their right to expect anything of Raman...and its sad...why should the poor guy have to pay foR EVERYBODY'S extravagance?? As far as I can see, most of the money he earns goes away catering to others' needs...I dont hear the mention of anything being spent on himself, his wife or his kids. CVs are portraying a really unfair perspective...they better buck up and show what IDEALLY should be done in this case

the precap again shows toshijiz blatant expectation from raman to give rinki a free piggyback ride in form of payment for her splurges..why on earth do two living souls need 5 bedrooms anyways? Why wasnt this brought up by her mother? Esp wen her husband cannot afford it? I know...5BHK for 2 people?? My god! You know, ideally Toshi shud've said, "Ab toh Raman bhi nai hai iss ghar mein...aur inna vada ghar liya hai tune...hamari dekhbhaal karne vaaste"...What will Rinky do with the huge gigantic house? She would do better to take her ageing parents and take care of them instead...par nai...bas paise udane hain..woh bhi doosron ke😡

Originally posted by: sunitas123

Aka, copy pasting what I wrote on another thread!

The episode made no sense to me whatsoever. Raman was missing his family, Ruhi was worried, but Toshiji even though knew Rinki was the cause of the whole kaand kinda encouraged her. Why does Rinki want a 5 bedroom apartment? is she going to look after the Bhallas since Raman is not, as per her opinion? Plus why are Toshi-ishita trying to make Raman pay for it thru the company? In a way Raman is forced to give Mihir much more than he can afford right now, albiet he said it would be a loan from the company? Yup...he did mention "tu ise loan samajh le" or something along those lines...point is, Raman wont let it remain a loan..he will pay for it...and this is so so damn unfair...WHY did Ishita not realise this? I mean, she thinks her husband is an overflowing well of money and resources and anyone can barge in anytime and take out bucketfuls of money huh?? As for Toshi ji, I dont think she truly loves Raman..she thinks of Raman as Mmr.Bbhalla does, "budhaape ki laathi"...am APPALLED at their inconsiderate behaviors, their selfishness, their absolute disregard for this one man who keeps doing for everyone without asking anything from anyone in return

And the second thing which made zilch sense. Why is Raman willing to pay Param to stop Ananaya's custody hearing? That too 15 crores? What is the guarantee that he wont file for custody again? And which court will give custody to a man who is out on bail after attempted rape and embezzlement of funds? That too a baby daughter? If the mother is single and does not have a job, Raman would have been better off getting her a job or making her an employee in his own company. That is far better than giving 15 crores. What kind of a lawyer is Neel? He could not do a thing during the Ad-Ruhi custody swap and now he is saying Param's case is strong? Drama ke liye CvS KUCH bhi krenge, S...ek toh Param ka record theek nai hai...usse baccha dega kaun?? Secondly, WHAT makes Raman think paying off the goon a whopping 15 crores would solve the issue once and for all? Instead of doing all this natakbaazi, Raman shud ideally hav got the BEST Lawyer on board (not Neel, since he admits defeat EVEN before the argument starts😡) to fight Ananya's custody case...and in the meanwhile, push Simmi to finish that much-talked about entrepreneurship course and become self-sufficient first...kya dimaag hai yaar sabke paas!!😡😡

Romi overheard Bala complaining about the computers, so looks like that MU may get sorted soon. But some spoiler says Raman will pay Romi for his business🤢 Arrggghhh!!! Then I hope he is paying the amount as loan, not as a freebie

So it seems the following conclusions can be reasonably drawn after today's episode:

1. IshRa and Ad-Ruhi truly love the Bhalla family.

2. ishRa will go to any limits even financially to help the whimsical Bhalla clan and their extended headache family damaads. Why, God why?? why? Have they NO concern, no anguish for their OWN futures?

3. Bhallas only care for Raman's money and they miss him since they cant afford to pay bills! Period. There is no love, no respect, no sense of gratitude whatsoever. Oh yesss!! It sounded so crass and disgusting when Toshi talked about "aate daal ka bhav"

4. It is Raman and Ishita's duty to provide, it is Bhallas duty to keep taking endless favours as if it is their birthright. It has never occurred to them to help themselves and reduce Raman's stress. Seriously ...granted, that your eldest son is so capable and doesnt mind doing it for you guys...but there;s something called decency, consideration for the other person's situation...the Bhallas have NONE😡😡😡

5. Mr Bhalla is surely taken offence to Raman's POA and hence is insecure and does not trust Raman or Ishita anymore. Sorry, but all I have to say to Sr.Bhalla is - bhaad mein jao aap aur aapka ego aur aapki insecurity...you dont deserve a gem like Raman, in the first place

6. Raman has to constantly prove his love for his siblings and parents by spending more than even he can earn!

7. All Bhallas are quick to MU Raman and Ishita, but dont care about what implications their crazy actions had or are gonna have on their family.

8. Criminals always get away with anything and keep getting umpteen chances at becoming rich at the cost of Raman😡

Frankly esp after today's episode, I have lost whatever love I had for the Bhallas - the whole lot is useless, ungrateful and cant see Raman happy...

Sorry for the rant... but this track is becoming so senseless with Param coming back and making a demand sans logic and Simi instead of getting a job, Raman thinks of paying off Param?

Till Rinki's wedding he was worried about 10 lacs expenses, now 15 crores is no big deal? Who will answer the investors?